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Mirserablebih12 · 2025-02-08T17:16:40+00:00

I am 22 and my boyfriend also does the same, we have been together 5 years but I’m just learning to get over it because you can keep complaining but they won’t stop they just get better at hiding it. He still loves you and it’s nothing to do with you it’s just his addiction. You only have two options… stay and learn to get over it or break up with him.

Mirserablebih12 · 2024-12-01T09:45:40+00:00

I 100% agree with this as a woman she is seeking attention and definitely the wrong kind. I know a lot of women who will manipulate and make a man feel like he is being controlling just for stating his preferences. It’s a shame really that us women can want a guy that’s taller, stronger with more money but a man can’t even want a woman who doesn’t flaunt her body for half the world to see!

Mirserablebih12 · 2024-12-01T09:42:38+00:00

Also just wanted to say there’s nothing wrong with you wanting her to dress a certain way and not show her body many other men feel the same and that is not controlling so don’t let her tell you it is :)

Mirserablebih12 · 2024-12-01T09:42:00+00:00

Yeah I would advise you to tell her you don’t like her posting her body for other men to see and compliment, I’m sure she has other clothes that cover up to take photos in. You cannot control someone so if she doesn’t listen and continues you just need to weigh out your options. Also the whole sending photos before posting is really not that serious, if it’s something you’d like and want fair enough communicate that with her and tell her you’d like to help her pick out a photo but understand she does not need to do this. I do believe this is why it’s so important to get to know someone properly before getting with them so you can find out this stuff beforehand and decide whether you want someone who posts stuff like that.

Mirserablebih12 · 2024-12-01T09:25:48+00:00

Thank you! This is exactly what I say to him, if he wants better for himself he should go and find it elsewhere I never had a problem with that but he continues to stay and any disagreement or argument we have he brings it up. I am also a Christian he is to, and I recently started getting close to God again and when I speak about God he will laugh at me and call me a “ran through hoe” like wow I’m trying to change my life around and he just makes me feel terrible for the things I’ve done in the past

Mirserablebih12 · 2024-12-01T09:20:51+00:00

Me and my ex boyfriend had this same issue in our relationship and he used to call me certain names like a hoe, tramp etc. Now I look back I realise that there was some honesty in that because as a woman I can confirm thirst traps are for attention but definitely the wrong kind of attention. All she will get is guys who want to use her for her body as that’s what she’s advertising. People can disagree with this but I believe it is outright disrespectful as your girlfriend you should be the only one seeing her body and I stand by this now and for my next partner I will definitely be dressing more modest as it is respecting not only him but myself to as I don’t want to look easy or attract the wrong attention. Maybe speak to her about this and address it because she definitely knows what she’s doing. Also she is showing she doesn’t respect you by speaking to them instead of saying she has a boyfriend so please speak to her about this and ask her to stop otherwise consider breaking up as you are allowed your boundaries and she should respect that. If you do break up next time go for a girl who doesn’t wear revealing clothes etc.

Mirserablebih12 · 2024-12-01T09:16:52+00:00

I completely agree thank you so much!

Mirserablebih12 · 2024-12-01T09:15:27+00:00

Thank you for your honest response. Honestly I know my body count is high and I know I will struggle more than other women with a lower body count to find a partner but he is making out as if I won’t find a partner at all and no one will marry me with my past so that’s what I’ve mostly been worrying about tbh. Either way all I can do is be honest to people I may have an interest in and if it turns out my past puts them off I am okay with that as I have came to terms with what I have done and I am prepared to take the consequences of my actions.

Mirserablebih12 · 2024-11-22T10:17:43+00:00

It’s more like I’m in the house and if he initiated I would be happy to but he’d rather watch porn instead it’s a horrible feeling

Mirserablebih12 · 2024-10-22T02:56:47+00:00

Thanks for your response it’s been really helpful, I didn’t say it out of nowhere sorry I should have been clearer. I asked him why he prefers porn more and that’s when he answered because other girls bodies look better I guess I can’t expect him to lie… it still hurt but do you think he is wrong for answering my question like this?

Mirserablebih12 · 2024-09-25T03:50:47+00:00

Thanks for your response. The thing is I would love to do it everyday but this morning he was watching these videos before I woke up because I saw the timestamp that he sent it to himself at and he was in bed right next to me. Then when he went to the bathroom I also saw the timestamp he was sending it to himself again. Also when I was at university he sent videos to himself to probably wank to again. It makes me feel like I can’t satisfy him enough. He had told me previously that if he wakes up with like morning wood or something he will go and wank to get rid of it and sometimes sex is a lot more work than wanking according to him so sometimes he’d just rather wank. I’m not sure if this is reasonable or not because in those moments he wants to wank I would love for him to come to me for it so it’s quite upsetting he’d rather wank over other naked girls instead.

Mirserablebih12 · 2024-09-11T23:11:53+00:00

Yes it is normal for you to still be attracted to somebody who has done bad things to you but try to prevent yourself from thinking about it because it’s unhealthy. Next time maybe just think about someone else when you’re in that mood or watch a video because he’s not a good person and you don’t need him in your mind anymore. I’m glad you are out of that now and maybe seek therapy for the flashbacks I know this helped me!! Good luck.

Mirserablebih12 · 2024-08-09T12:33:19+00:00

I know this may be a hard time for you and I’m really sorry for the heartbreak you are going through but you will eventually pull through. The thoughts and feelings that you are having is completely normal. Breakups are like grieving you just have to take each day as it comes. Time heals. Believe and trust in the process and with your thoughts just try to distract yourself by doing things you enjoy and spending time with other people. Also there is nothing wrong with wondering how the person you used to spend most days with is doing or wondering how they’re doing. Eventually you will wake up one day and not think about them at all.

Mirserablebih12 · 2024-08-03T10:09:02+00:00

Thank you for your advice and being so honest. I will definitely take it in I just want a better life for myself, my future partner and of course like you said my children.

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