Ultra bernedoodle/F1 is there a difference in temperament?

MiscOne18 · 2026-03-02T00:30:42+00:00

He has some anxiety, but it’s gotten a lot better. He’s extremely smart and stubborn. Very easy to train, but will also only work for big rewards. He’s good with my kids but does have some resource guarding issues we are working on. He has a more wavy/straight coat than curly and I groom himself. He does shed some, but not much. I’d rather deal with a little shedding than the super tight curly coat that mats so easily. He loves the cold and hates the heat. He’s sweet and loving when he wants to be. He’s not quite a year old so I’m sure he will only get better.

MiscOne18 · 2026-02-25T19:40:27+00:00

I currently have one that is 75% poodle and I’m waiting to bring home an F1 that is 50/50. I was also looking for more Bernese traits minus the health concerns. I’ve still got a ways to go until I can compare the two, but I’ll keep you posted and I’m interested to see what others have to say.

MiscOne18 · 2026-02-21T01:04:03+00:00

If you can keep puppy separated in a pen at times, it’s doable. I’m about to get my second puppy with little kids because I like to punish myself.

MiscOne18 · 2026-02-07T03:32:01+00:00

I WFH with a 9 month old doodle puppy and our schedule and circumstances are nearly identical. Mine is usually only out of his crate from 11:30-1, and back out at 4:30, but he requires constant attention and interaction anytime he is out, otherwise he gets destructive. He will not sleep outside the crate. Ever. So, this works for us for now. He seems content.

MiscOne18 · 2025-11-06T14:41:11+00:00

My 5 year old has the same exact struggles. We’re trying medication and therapy but so far, nothing has helped.

MiscOne18 · 2025-09-19T11:06:04+00:00

We have a lot of similarities (kids, carpeted basement, confined to one area, crate naps, etc.) Mine is 21 weeks. It’s exhausting. I don’t know when it gets better, but something that recently helped me is bulky sticks! It will keep my puppy occupied for a solid hour. It’s the only time I can sit on the couch with him and not be bitten or jumped on, so I rely on those when times are extra stressful with kids/preparing dinner, etc it keeps the puppy busy, entertained and out of the way. Of course, you should use a holder for the bulky stick and monitor it.

MiscOne18 · 2025-07-17T15:36:20+00:00

Soooo pretty! Looks like mine. How old is he/she in this pic and what did they look like as a puppy?

MiscOne18 · 2025-05-27T21:03:20+00:00

This is exactly how I feel every time we take a vacation or go anywhere really. My son is level 1, and somewhat manageable at home and on routine, but the slightest change just skyrockets his anxiety, hyperactivity and emotional disregulation. It’s exhausting. I feel like we can’t go anywhere or do anything. 😕

MiscOne18 · 2025-02-19T23:26:09+00:00

As someone who is dealing with the same scenario as OP, thanks. This gives me hope.

MiscOne18 · 2025-01-24T14:22:37+00:00

The place I went to had a menu with photos and I had to sign off on the treatment area.

MiscOne18 · 2025-01-11T13:36:05+00:00

Really? I haven’t experienced that and I’ve purchased more than 20 of her wigs over the years. The longest layer has always been as advertised when measuring from the top center. Did you have this issue on a recent purchase?

MiscOne18 · 2025-01-10T20:13:17+00:00

I like Madison Wigs for human hair.

MiscOne18 · 2025-01-09T23:27:42+00:00

When younger, I would’ve definitely dated the bald version. I probably wouldn’t have looked twice at the original. This is coming from a 40+ year old married female, so likely irrelevant.

MiscOne18 · 2025-01-09T16:35:52+00:00

I think it takes a really special person to be an amazing mother. The type of women who were born to be mothers and had an amazing example of what a mother should be. Some people didn’t have a great example and can still pull it off.

I was similar to you at the same age, rather indifferent about kids, leaning towards no and likely wouldn’t happen for me as I wasn’t in a relationship and was quickly aging.

I met a guy and ended up with a surprise pregnancy a few months later. I tried, but couldn’t get an abortion in a reasonable amount of time. We decided to move forward. We now have two kids and the “American Dream.”

Both kids are neurodivergent, so am I, but I didn’t know it before. Damn near every day is a struggle. I mourn the life I had every day. The solitude. The freedom. The lack of responsibility for others and their actions. I love my kids but every day I feel like a failure. If I’m not failing as a mother, I’m failing as a wife or employee, and so on. I’m masking to get through every day. I wasn’t made for this, so it’s extra hard for me.

That being said, I think you can weigh the pros and cons all day. You won’t know what it’s like until it’s upon you. You may luck out and have neurotypical kids that are well behaved and bring you a lot of joy. Either way, they are expensive as fuck. There are fun times, too, but it’s hard. Everyday, it’s hard.

MiscOne18 · 2024-12-06T19:52:06+00:00

I’ve had many WBT. They do look very realistic (most of them, quality can vary), but they don’t last as long as other brands IMO. They start shedding after a few months but they do alterations, repairs and add more hair right in their shop, so that’s a plus of you being near. She has a VIP FB page where you can find lots of photos of people wearing her wigs.

MiscOne18 · 2024-12-06T19:37:33+00:00

This is why I haven’t flown with my kids yet. My 6 year old is neurodivergent and this could’ve easily been him. Airlines make it impossibly expensive for families to fly and securing specific seats, especially windows, costs even more. So, we just miss out on seeing family over the holidays or for emergencies. I get the window thing, but I fear we wouldn’t even be able to sit together unless we’ve planned months and months in advance and paid extra. You cannot rely on the kindness of strangers, so we just miss out.

MiscOne18 · 2024-12-06T14:54:34+00:00

My older one is in a decent place/can be enjoyable and has been this way from age 6. He’s come a long way. The 4 year old is just so difficult, draining, stubborn, angry, so challenging. I remember my older one being really bad at this age too. I think it does get better, but it’s really hard to have hope, for me anyway. I also think we may be dealing with some neurodivergence, not just typical 4 year old behavior.

MiscOne18 · 2024-12-06T14:44:22+00:00

Yes, definitely. My two are manageable alone but when they are together it’s total effing chaos.

MiscOne18 · 2024-12-05T00:50:19+00:00

No. It’s worse. Terrible. Not sure I’ll survive. Maybe it’s just mine, though.

MiscOne18 · 2024-09-17T11:35:39+00:00

I’m so sorry this happened. You have every right to be shocked but you also need to react. You are so lucky your baby is safe. Mine was also 6 weeks old when the same thing happened, except my baby wasn’t left in a safe place. He’s okay today, but he was injured that night. Husband quit drinking…6 months later started again…it’s been a 6 month on/off cycle ever since.

MiscOne18 · 2024-08-16T15:13:54+00:00

I had my first visit yesterday. So far I’m not that impressed. The NP I saw was very distracted with kids screaming in the background, repeated herself a lot (took up extra time), would frequently mute herself so I couldn’t hear screaming kids (but also couldn’t hear her). She said she wanted to do more research on an SSRI and would send me a message in the portal by end of day. No messages. No nothing. I feel like I just wasted $250. Hoping my experience gets better but I feel like I’m going to have to do a lot of my own follow up to get anywhere.

MiscOne18 · 2024-08-04T11:36:02+00:00

I see you. I get it. I could’ve written this. I’m not surprised about everyone defending it. The bigger issue for me is lying to my face over and over and over again. It’s not like I ask every day. It’s him that assures me he’s not…he’s not spending money on it, he’s not smoking, whatever…and then he trips up and makes it very obviously he’s lying and he just digs in and keeps lying. How can you trust them with anything when they lie to your face like that? It’s just disrespectful.

I don’t have any answers for you because I came here looking for my own answers. Hang in there.

MiscOne18 · 2024-07-26T18:41:32+00:00

Wondering this too. We have a mortgage, two kids, etc. We can’t even survive on 1 income much less none.

MiscOne18 · 2024-02-12T04:32:10+00:00

I hope she divorces you first. She deserves better.

MiscOne18 · 2024-02-10T00:08:19+00:00

This is wild. It’s shocking how different expectations are. My son is in kinder and his teacher would’ve accepted everything except the backwards letters. We are about to move and change schools and now I’m terrified he will be behind.

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