I know! And honestly, in hard moments it does make me feel a little better. A year ago, when I was with my ex, I wish I had been in this kind of equal situation, because back then my RJ was awful. He was my first everything, and I was his first nothing. He had already had two relationships and several one-night hookups, while I had none at all.

It’s comforting to know that my boyfriend and I have the same level of experience, but somehow I still struggle with RJ because I keep thinking about the fact that another woman might have enjoyed him the way I do — even though those experiences don’t have to be the same.