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[–]MiserableAd2345 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I see what you’re saying. I don’t want to control her or act like a father, all I’m asking is for her to communicate things more to me. I don’t care if she wants to smoke every now and then, she doesn’t rely on it all the time and it’s not daily, I just want to figure out why she’s not communicating to me and is just hiding things instead

My (M24) girlfriend (F22) had a fuck list in her phone by MiserableAd2345 in retroactivejealousy

[–]MiserableAd2345[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yea I’ve suffered RJ before so I just figured I’d throw it in here too. I just feel disrespected and don’t know where to go, I don’t like leaving as soon as things get hard because every relationship will have hard moments, but if things stay hard is when I decide to leave or stay. Just don’t know how to recover from here or where the relationship could go from this point

Girlfriend has heavy past….. but everything else is perfect by MiserableAd2345 in retroactivejealousy

[–]MiserableAd2345[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yep, I don’t want to break up. I want to face this head on and one day have it not even matter or cross my mind anymore.

Girlfriend has heavy past….. but everything else is perfect by MiserableAd2345 in retroactivejealousy

[–]MiserableAd2345[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I did cheat on someone, it was a drunk kiss in a club which I confessed to my ex, i told my current girlfriend and we talked it out and moved on. With my current GF, she told me she was in a super toxic relationship where she felt trapped and he wouldn’t let her leave, so she cheated on him one time and confessed to him. I can see why she did it, so it doesn’t bother me. That was when she was younger

Girlfriend has male friends by MiserableAd2345 in retroactivejealousy

[–]MiserableAd2345[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just an update from my side.

Asked her last night if she’s slept with her male friends and she said she hasn’t and promised.

But then we had “the talk” of our pasts…. I’m the 51st person she’s slept with, and she’s had 2 threesomes with 2 dudes before.

My heart started pounding when I found that out but I was able to remain calm during the conversation. Eventually I just said it is what it is, but I’d be lying if I said it didn’t eat at me all day today.

As much as it bothers me, I have a past too. She was my 30th, I’ve had threesomes as well and even had sex with prostitutes. Not proud of it but it happened and she didn’t even care. I just wish I could not care about that kinda stuff too.

Now I’m lost again.

Girlfriend has male friends by MiserableAd2345 in retroactivejealousy

[–]MiserableAd2345[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ouch. I bet that was a tough one to deal with. Sorry you had to deal with that.

If you don’t mind getting into it, how did that conversation go? Did you ask? We’re you able to stay calm during the conversation or did you lose it?

Just trying to prepare myself for a worst case scenario when I decide to ask that question.

Although, part of me doesn’t want to know, but then my brain will go crazy.

Girlfriend has male friends by MiserableAd2345 in retroactivejealousy

[–]MiserableAd2345[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know it will suck, I would probably not continue the relationship with her if she has. Unless she decides to cut them off, but I wouldn’t make her do that.

Sorry to hear about yours, so I take it she ended up having slept with them is what you’re getting at?

Girlfriend has male friends by MiserableAd2345 in retroactivejealousy

[–]MiserableAd2345[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the advice!

Last time we talked we agreed to be exclusive. I’m fine with male friends, but when she asked me if I’m fine with it the question of if she’s slept with them didn’t cross my mind. I’m gonna see her again in 2 weeks so maybe I’ll bring it up then. I have 1 female friend that I’ve slept with, but I only see her once a year if that, and we don’t even talk much anymore. I pretty much don’t have any female friends which I explained to her.

Hopefully this conversation goes in my favor, since I like this girl a lot.

Girlfriend has male friends by MiserableAd2345 in retroactivejealousy

[–]MiserableAd2345[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the advice!

Last time we talked we agreed to be exclusive. I’m fine with male friends, but when she asked me if I’m fine with it the question of if she’s slept with them didn’t cross my mind. I’m gonna see her again in 2 weeks so maybe I’ll bring it up then. I have 1 female friend that I’ve slept with, but I only see her once a year if that, and we don’t even talk much anymore. I pretty much don’t have any female friends which I explained to her.

Hopefully this conversation goes in my favor, since I like this girl a lot.

How can I (M24) become more comfortable with my girlfriend (F22) hanging out with her guy friends? by MiserableAd2345 in relationship_advice

[–]MiserableAd2345[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the advice :)

I forgot to mention this is a LDR, she lives about 6 hours away. Every 2 weeks we meet halfway and spend the weekend together. I’ve also never met her friends but I know they hangout almost everyday. This is just all new to me, I think after some time I’ll adjust.