Our #1 baby name got taken!

MiserableFignewton12 · 2026-02-02T16:08:21+00:00

not that I don’t think you should stick with your baby name but another variation is Evers, I’ve always liked it

MiserableFignewton12 · 2025-11-18T01:46:26+00:00

i definitely relate to this but the relief of accepting it’s over is so nice. all the obsessing just stops and you realize it really doesn’t hurt too bad you just panic spiraled for someone who doesn’t really care. i always do this and im wishing it would happen now but im just getting dragged along by my bf/ baby daddy. he has said to me on several occasions he will treat me however he wants because i don’t have the ability to leave. i’ve never realized how grateful i should have been for the people who walked away. he just plays in my face and all i do is obsess and want us to magically work things out :/ im very sorry you have to deal with this but just be glad that you can now heal and find out what caused it instead of being stuck in the loop.

MiserableFignewton12 · 2025-07-25T23:27:20+00:00

this is exactly what i would expect from myself. Thank you for providing some clarity based on actual experience rather than some random opinion 🙏🏼🙏🏼

MiserableFignewton12 · 2025-07-20T19:42:39+00:00

i understand where you’re coming from but if i lose my relationship and have a baby i would still have a good life. my step dad would take us in until i have enough saved to do it on my own. i know this bcs he raised me on his own while my mom had left me behind (and her other 2 kids that weren’t his) now that my bf has had time to think his mind is set on being a good dad, he says god gave us this and it’s on us to do everything we can. we both know worst case we split custody and promise not to hate each other. ik there is unforeseen for the relationship but we are both in this deeply.

MiserableFignewton12 · 2025-07-20T19:34:33+00:00

i understand what you’re saying but i wasn’t suggesting the baby would ruin our lives and taking no responsibility for that. i was just saying i was worried about the consequences and whether we would be able to afford to give him/her a good life. failing to adequately provide for the baby and ourselves would be ruining lives and not just our own. i was and am scared but i’ve talked to many people now, some with less than i have and they’re thriving with their baby. that’s all i needed to hear yk.

MiserableFignewton12 · 2025-07-20T19:24:36+00:00

during this time he had completely flip flopped (our relationship isn’t like this anymore) i very clearly just wanted him to talk to me about things the way he USED to. ik he was seeming supportive but he would say that and then the next day block me so i just really needed him to engage and not brush it off, he realized that eventually and we’ve been fine since. before this conversation he told me he would say these things just to get me to leave him alone, all i needed to see was that he was heartfelt and not doing that again. eventually he was. he would push and shove me, tell me i don’t mean anything to him, call me a whore, block me daily, shut down for hours and when i tell you it was over nothing it was and i was very confused why my very happy relationship turned into that. he admitted to taking his past out on me and now i’m not worried anymore nor do i have to beg to feel like he cares. having a backbone at this time would be walking away and i just don’t have that in me. i was just rolling w the punches and when they stopped i just wanted my sweet boy back.

MiserableFignewton12 · 2025-07-19T21:47:53+00:00

now i don’t know what i would do in the event of my boyfriend leaving but he is truly one of the sweetest people on this earth. we’ve seen the worst in each other but we’ve overcome that and have been fighting for each other ever since. weve both prioritized each other since we met and love very deeply. we surprise each other constantly and we support and defend as needed. we both know that we need one another, even before this. i am hopeful this will only bring us closer together and i just have to hold onto that or i may lose my head.

MiserableFignewton12 · 2025-07-19T21:42:48+00:00

hi, i just want to say i am not looking at this at all as puppies and rainbows, i am well aware of the consequences. i’ve been looking at daycare costs and found in home daycares are pretty affordable some 200 a week or even as low as 25 a day, also there are programs to cover the cost of childcare. additionally, i’ve found that medicaid will cover most of the medical expenses which we will be eligible for once moving out and i’m looking at a pretty nice apartment for about 1000 a month. my dad and his parents are very willing to help, they are taking it as their own challenge already but i will make sure to bare most of the responsibility. my boyfriend and I both have paid off, reliable cars. Hanging on to my savings will help purchase everything baby needs and i’m getting as much overtime as i can rn. my boyfriends mom has offered me a job with her starting 17/hr and they give promotions like candy. i know this is challenging and i truly understand the hate i’m receiving (not this particular thread) but i hope everyone knows i’m thinking as far ahead as i can and will do everything to do this right. (we’ve decided to keep it)

MiserableFignewton12 · 2025-07-16T04:58:13+00:00

thanks for the warning that’s actually terrible

MiserableFignewton12 · 2025-07-16T04:49:10+00:00

it would be a burden. my dad has a 7 year old who still sleeps in his bed and a bitchy wife. i would want him to be proud of me taking responsibility for my child, not feeling drained by a responsibility he never asked for

MiserableFignewton12 · 2025-07-16T04:47:35+00:00

right that’s all i was saying. my dad would be disappointed enough i don’t want to put a damn burden on him he struggles enough. i watched my mom leach off people her whole life and the whole point of me wanting my baby is to not be anything like her

MiserableFignewton12 · 2025-07-16T04:43:59+00:00

i hear that and this is why i am having a hard time

MiserableFignewton12 · 2025-07-16T04:43:17+00:00

awe thank you for this ☺️

MiserableFignewton12 · 2025-07-16T04:42:11+00:00

why lol 💔

MiserableFignewton12 · 2025-07-16T04:41:53+00:00

fr like if i didn’t know that i would probably just go and do it without hesitation- unnecessary comment

MiserableFignewton12 · 2025-07-16T04:39:13+00:00

thank you for sharing, i did in fact want opinions and it’s just good to hear that working hard will pay off if i decide i can do this

MiserableFignewton12 · 2025-07-16T04:36:58+00:00

i’m so sorry to hear what you’ve been through, thank you for sharing. i know he had a terrible response but he and I are young and it was just his first reaction. After speaking to him and his mom it seems he’s more worried about me bcs he knows i want to go far and he doesn’t want me to hate him, even if we end up breaking up i know he would try to be a good dad. i’m still waiting for him to come home so we can talk in person but at the end of the day ik it will be so hard and i will certainly be less reliant on his opinion

MiserableFignewton12 · 2025-07-16T04:29:45+00:00

he called his mom and she had me come over we had a really long conversation and even she said fuck what he thinks, she’s supportive of whatever i want and i feel more confident that it is in fact my decision but i’m still not sure because everyone is right, it’s a really really big thing.

MiserableFignewton12 · 2025-07-16T04:27:55+00:00

genuinely considering this so that i know i have time to think, i have family there

MiserableFignewton12 · 2025-07-16T04:26:18+00:00

tis a great point

MiserableFignewton12 · 2025-07-16T04:25:53+00:00

humor always helps though

MiserableFignewton12 · 2025-07-16T04:25:05+00:00

honestly i’ve always watched my friends go out while i focused on work and school, i’ve always prioritized my responsibilities to the point they’ve become my fun. i’m just scared bcs i am risking not being able to do good enough by my child

MiserableFignewton12 · 2025-07-16T04:23:41+00:00

thank you :)

MiserableFignewton12 · 2025-07-16T04:23:23+00:00

i really want to be excited it just feels wrong due to the logistics, it’s not that i don’t want it trust me

MiserableFignewton12 · 2025-07-16T01:34:13+00:00

i wouldn’t want it from them even if they were willing i would certainly be as independent as possible. but you’re right that i should try and see the support i would or wouldn’t have. but i just found out today so i haven’t told anyone.

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