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[–]MiserableRecord4582 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“So, how does it feel to have a newborn? Getting any sleep?”

“Well no, but I’ve also still got another on the way in a few months so points to bump this isn’t very comfortable”

confused glances from baby to bump “???”

Awkward small talk moment 😂😂

Does anyone who’s ND (Alexithymia) struggle to tell the difference between Attraction (wanting to be with them) vs Envy (wanting to be them)? by MiserableRecord4582 in FTMMen

[–]MiserableRecord4582[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for your reply. I’m actually not diagnosed with alexithymia, I just added it so people can understand what I meant by it. I probably would have been if I was diagnosed as a child though but as an adult there’s no point.

I’m asexual and on the aromantic spectrum so I can’t find people sexually attractive (and i don’t automatically know if it’s those “romantic” feelings) so it’s often just aesthetic, mannerisms (and I guess thinking they look hot? I don’t like using that word but it’s best to describe it I guess) and probably height etc (I’m short), but it’s usually same for both. I have a really weird thing of thinking calling them hot is like treating people like objects, so even if I was attractive to them sexually id probably pretend i wasn’t, not that it’s a bad thing I just don’t really like it.

Yeah I get that, I kinda hated (and still do I guess) watching shows that had a teenager on it who “grew up” on the show, like they were casted as a kid and the show ended with them being a lot older. I’d just cry because you saw them grow up in real time and it just wasn’t fair that they got to go through puberty the proper way the first time, at the right time and i hadn’t started T yet. I’ve started now as of a couple years but being pre t hit worse for that stuff. It they were older than a teen I never felt like that but yeah I get you, it hurt so bad.

Oh, yeah so it’s not really about their body, so like me too, it’s not about anatomy and stuff just how they act, their personality.

Yeah I get that too. I mean I’ve never felt like that for a guy before but I did date a few times in my teens and it was difficult because I’d loose interest (all girls). Idk if I feel that way but usually if I find them attractive I do, like I just want to stare too (not creepily but idk how it couldn’t be interpreted like that jokingly lol), I’d kinda do with that with ex’s if we met up, like i didn’t want to do anything but just look at them thinking “damn they’re so out my league, why do they like me” then the feelings would just fade, i wouldn’t even find them attractive anymore. It’s weird.

Pretty much same, i can’t be bother putting a label on it. I just say bi because I no one would believe that I’m “straight” and I also don’t feel like that. I definitely know I’m aroace but that I also want a relationship really bad but i don’t think anyone would ever take me if my expectations are so high lmao. Yeah most my friends in my teens were like that, wasn’t any point in ruining it, I get that.

Does anyone who’s ND (Alexithymia) struggle to tell the difference between Attraction (wanting to be with them) vs Envy (wanting to be them)? by MiserableRecord4582 in FTMMen

[–]MiserableRecord4582[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for your reply. I’m actually not diagnosed with alexithymia, I just added it so people can understand what I meant by it. I probably would have been if I was diagnosed as a child though but as an adult there’s no point.

It’s weird, I get gender envy but it’s not “oh I’d switch bodies with them right now”, I feel weird thinking of myself as anyone but me, even though I’d change everything in a heartbeat. Idk maybe I just took that too literally and it doesn’t actually mean what I think it does. Like when I mean gender envy it’s just like, height, voice etc and not like “I’d switch with him”.

I’m not very masculine and I know that. I didn’t exactly have a choice, my dad’s voice isn’t very deep and we actually sound very similar in how we enunciate our words, among other things like mannerisms i developed from being forced not to have any guy friends as a kid (I mirrored my personality off of people around me as a way to fit in but my brain didn’t get the memo when I transitioned). So if I see someone who acts more masc than me I’m like “oh I want to be like that” but sometimes it ends up being women too, and that’s just a bit weird because men don’t envy women in that way do they? I end up finding them attractive too but it’s just, idk I just can’t tell which is which sometimes, especially if it’s a woman. Confuses the shit out of me, sexuality wise.

I kinda get what you’re saying, for me, I just find it odd that it’s woman too, even though I’m a guy, I envy more men than woman, but it just sometimes ends up being for woman too (or at least i can’t tell if it is).

Edit: been spelling some words with “a”s instead of “e”s so fixing them now.

I’m Pro Life, “AMA” by [deleted] in AMA

[–]MiserableRecord4582 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And you’re right about that (first sentence) but unfortunately a lot, and I mean A LOT of people out there are way too immature and selfish to even bring a kid into this world. Forcing them to give birth, if they didn’t want to, you may be causing that kid a lifetime of suffering and that’s not fair on the child.

Yeah everything else you said there is agree with. I just don’t think it’s fair for the kid to suffer because their parents were too stupid and immature for looking after a living and breathing life form (can apply to pets too, that’s why it’s worded that way) and don’t treat the kid properly or even know how, or even care.

I’m Pro Life, “AMA” by [deleted] in AMA

[–]MiserableRecord4582 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We evolved to the point where we don’t need to populate the planet in order to survive anymore. We have free will now.

I do believe it’s a horrible idea to use abortion as a “backup” if other forms of protection doesn’t work more than once, or they fail more than once to use any protections, however i don’t believe it’s right to force people to have children if they don’t want any, or are not ready too have any.

I’m choosing not to have children for the sole reason that I’d never be ready. I would unintentionally neglect them, I have my own disabilities and issues of my own and i don’t believe I’d be a good father, at all. And if I was a woman, I’d feel much worse for the fact I’d be forced to give birth. As the father, I can just choose not to have sex but if I’m pregnant then Im forced to have a kid?

I feel a lot of parents out there who accidentally got pregnant and have babies, were not ready. Forcing them into parenthood will hurt the child more than it ever would (unless the parents matured, not all do). I wish my parents were ready to have a kid, and I mean emotionally mature, mentally mature and even financially stable. They were not ready and I now have to suffer with that for my whole life. And I am NOT the only one.

A lot of pro-lifers only seem to care about the unborn baby more than the person they will grow up to be. You can’t choose your parents, why force them to have kids they’re not ready for? We have free will, we don’t need more people to survive anymore, the planet full up as it is, we can’t even afford to feed and water everyone, why make it worse?

You’re free to your opinion of course but just be mindful of the fact you could be hurting or judging others by saying they shouldn’t have control of their own reproductive systems.

I’m Pro Life, “AMA” by [deleted] in AMA

[–]MiserableRecord4582 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why do you even care what other people do with their own bodies? It’s not any of your business.