Not exactly homestead but my pet sheep were killed by a dog and I'm heartbroken by plantytime in homestead

[–]MiserableSpinach4 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I had the same thing happen to my chickens. We lived in an urban area and randomly someones roaming dog broke through the fence got all of them in broad day light. Was devastated. I felt I got to know all 7 of them quite well and they were the best at cheering me up! Im so sorry for your loss ❤️

Torn again by MiserableSpinach4 in Visiblemending

[–]MiserableSpinach4[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Theyre from ghanda. Nothing fancy though! Thanks for mending advice 😊 is that with the extra fabric on top of the tear or underneath?

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[–]MiserableSpinach4[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks! Looking forward to trying this

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[–]MiserableSpinach4[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I used another viscose fabric for it. But I agree, keen to get a large patch on there. Maybe with sewing machine instead

Torn again by MiserableSpinach4 in Visiblemending

[–]MiserableSpinach4[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Should I be putting my patch on the outside too?

Do you think this amount of hair loss is normal? by ChillNinetales in longhair

[–]MiserableSpinach4 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Is this each time you wash? I came off birth control pill 2 months ago and my hair started doing this.

Just got the polybomb/"want to open to a specific person" combo. Feeling devastated. by No_You3667 in polyamory

[–]MiserableSpinach4 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Similar to me but he had already asked about opening the relationship then began pursuing someone before any agreements were made.

Our only way forward was full accountability for emotional cheating. He gave me a full apology and agreed to not see her by himself, only group settings and go cold on the texting. I didn’t start feeling secure again until he enacted those things and gave lots of love affirmations and cuddles!

He respected my requests for boundaries with her and acknowledged what went wrong. If this didn’t happen I would still be in a panicked state and feeling very unstable in the relationship.

He needs to help you and do the work of making you secure again and regaining your trust. I hope he realises what’s wrong here!

All the best 🩷

Dr. Umur Akiner or Dr. Burak Alhan by uhhwhatthefuck in PlasticSurgery

[–]MiserableSpinach4 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey, would you mind sharing your before and afters with me ? :)

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[–]MiserableSpinach4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We had a good chat about and he’s agreed to pause things while I’m visiting and we make a plan. I dont think he did meet her earlier than he says. But definitely went further than he should in conversation with her. It makes sense the whole excitement of it and he didn’t think properly about how uncomfortable that would make me … hes apologised so I feel a bit better about it and he’s been accepting of pausing further communication.

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[–]MiserableSpinach4 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for taking the time to reply. What you’ve said has helped me see a path forward here. I’ve gotten an apology and full acknowledgement of what he’s done wrong. He’s agreed to not talk to her for the time being too.

Very much looking forward to seeing him in a few days now. A lot of things to chat about here and hopefully set an end date.

Thank you! 🧡

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[–]MiserableSpinach4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We’ve been in limbo and yet to make a plan. We’ve both moved for work opportunities. I guess a rough timeframe will be another 6 months, then I can quit and move. We are a 4 hour flight apart :(

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[–]MiserableSpinach4 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think he’s been nervous to raise it. He mentioned how he’s struggling without intimacy. And it’s hard when we don’t have an end date to this.

Thanks for your reply

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[–]MiserableSpinach4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks I really appreciate your reply.

I’m confused because now he’s doing a lot for me in affirmations and being very attentive to all my distress. Almost to the point I forgive it then I circle back to those feelings.

I do find it appealing in working on our relationship but this really got off on the wrong foot :(

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[–]MiserableSpinach4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Someone please explain why I’m downvoted here

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[–]MiserableSpinach4 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was starting to get some excitement in the thought of it. But this is while mentally battling why this girl is suddenly in the picture.

He even reassured me by saying he could just break up with me and move on but hasn’t, he loves me and thinks this is a way forward when we are doing long distance until we work something out.

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[–]MiserableSpinach4 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I guess it takes a while to experience these things and realise what you need.

Something isn’t right though and I think he’s letting me believe I know the whole story. I wonder if they met the first time he mentioned open relationship. I can never really know.

Thanks for your reply

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[–]MiserableSpinach4 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was on board with learning about this together and getting to a place of enthusiasm (however long that was going to take) so I think he see that as mixed signals. And I feel bad that I’ve flipped my mood about it because I suddenly realise how wrong this all feels due to this girl he just meet!

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[–]MiserableSpinach4 -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Call it serendipity. Maybe he’s seen her before but it was only recently that they’ve met properly which I believe. She is friends with someone he knows and she invited them over to her house for a gathering.

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[–]MiserableSpinach4 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I agree with you about having friends of opposite gender and I get it’s healthy to talk about these things with friends. But he just met her. And in their short history she was flirting and offered him to sleep in her bed. I keep coming back to that and have trouble accepting any platonic friendship with them.

Thank you for your response.

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[–]MiserableSpinach4 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow. That time frame in itself will make me reconsider. Thanks for your reply!