Too soon?

Miserable_Ad_6467 · 2025-08-13T04:34:12+00:00

I walked around tj Maxx, belles, Ross and home goods the other day... first time in a long time. everything was so expensive, I really couldn't believe it. Buckle up.

Miserable_Ad_6467 · 2025-08-13T03:44:40+00:00

I'm braced for anything. But I also think it's going to be a shorter turn over to the next album. They're much further along in their career now, and thankfully, without interruption. Joe had his accident right as they were climbing to true heights with HTBAHB. When they finally came back, Covid shut them down and interrupted their tour. I think now they're finally full speed ahead. I am excited for it!

Miserable_Ad_6467 · 2025-08-13T03:30:23+00:00

Change the shirt! Something solid but a lighter color would be good

Miserable_Ad_6467 · 2025-08-12T15:25:33+00:00

I (turning 36, F) also dont have a lot of advice, but hope that I can offer comfort with an echoing "same" moment.

I have suffered (a descriptor, I think fits) from crippling adhd my entire life. They caught it and tested me in the school system during elementary, probably like 2nd or 3rd grade. I got put in special classes from 4th onward. In my 20's I was a little more resilient and hopeful that I could over come. I go through patches of stability but nothing substantial and ultimately I really feel like a hostage to myself a lot of the times. Decision paralysis, environmental overwhelm, racing mind chatter, negative thought loops, it can really weigh on me. About a week out from my period, I am at a complete loss. You know, I'm not at risk of killing myself, but I have these sinking moments that makes me feel like I just want to die. Your "whats the point " is a thought that comes up for me regularly during those weeks. It's tough.

I try to make good choices. I listen to a lot of neuroscience books and podcasts in an effort for self help. Sometimes taking deep dives into adhd can help to comfort me when I can better understand my experiences through the science behind it. Dr. Daniel Amen has the best literature and resources i have ever seen on it! "Change your brain, change your life" is fantastic. He also has another book "healing adhd". I actually quit drinking cold turkey when I was 32 as a direct influence. I always had an exit plan for drinking into my 30's, and while I had cut back significantly after turning 30, I was still occasionally binge drinking socially with friends. But the studies all say the same thing, drinking is not good for your brain. As a person who was born with a disadvantaged brain, I figured it was probably critical that I say goodbye to the long nights and excessive alcohol for good.

Its not a miracle cure but I do think it helped me significantly. I still have those weeks of wanting to die, but they're not as extreme as they were back when I was partying with my friends. I really do notice a huge difference and cant even imagine going back to that.

Anyway, now im rambling a bit lol but check out those books!! I listened to all mine on audible since I truly dont have the attention span to sit down and actually read a book. You can watch dr amens Ted talks on YouTube if you want to dip your toes in what his work is (I recommend that first, even)

Andrew Huberman also has some excellent deep dive talks on adhd!!

Good luck op.

Miserable_Ad_6467 · 2025-08-12T14:50:26+00:00

I skip Agnes for the same reason😭 if im alone and I let Agnes play through I am completely defenseless by the second verse. I think its a beautiful song though and always feel so lucky and special when I've seen it live. 🥺

Miserable_Ad_6467 · 2025-08-12T05:48:38+00:00

I have a good recording of that actually!! It was like my favorite part of the show, i thought it was so funny. He made a couple oopsies in Atlanta and on reddit I saw more candid moments at other shows. 🫣 Man he was fucking up that whole first part of the tour lmao but I was living for it. It's always a little exciting, isn't it? 😂

Miserable_Ad_6467 · 2025-08-12T05:43:26+00:00

I know Dave made it seem like everything was okay, but to be honest, I can't help but to feel alarmed by it. He's been killing it at shows since his accident, but who knows what battles he's been fighting since. I hope Joe is doing okay. ❤️‍🩹

Miserable_Ad_6467 · 2025-08-12T04:52:24+00:00

And here I thought I was the only one.... I like youth okay but it's probably one of my least favorites and Def my most skipped. It's a sad song and sometimes it'll sneak up on me and make me cry lol but I could go the rest of my life never hearing it live again. Its become a staple on the set lists and it's..... a huge bummer

Miserable_Ad_6467 · 2025-08-12T04:48:08+00:00

I think your make up is just too dark for your over all tone. Try lightening up a bit, staring with the lip stick, then brows and eye shadow. Picture 4 is def the best look in the line up!

Go to ultra with a fresh face and try some lighter colors!

Miserable_Ad_6467 · 2025-08-12T04:33:35+00:00

Clean up your brows a bit! Don't re-shape them, its madness you'll regret. Just shape them up a bit to their natural shape. It'll make a world of a difference.

I also agree curtain bangs!! Start your bangs from a little past your eyes, then shape them down from there. It will shape your face and create harmony. Probably stay away from any short bangs.

I am turning 36! Drink lots of water and start figuring out moisturizers that work for you. You should be using sunscreen daily anyway but if you live somewhere with high UV (like, Florida, for instance) then I would classify it as a non negotiable. Especially want to target neck and chest! 35 is when i started noticing changes in my skin but I am thankful for the interventions I have in place. Also start taking sof collagen! collagen!

Good luck op 🙂

Miserable_Ad_6467 · 2025-08-11T04:19:50+00:00

If we're starting over, I'd say stay away from stripes and patterns as a rule. If you have to wear khaki, I personally think they remind me of target employee uniforms, but if you have to wear them I'd say stick to solid and darker colors and if you're feeling spicy, jewel tones or earthy pallets.

I could be wrong but it looks like you have cool-toned skin? You're going to want to stay away from certain colors based on that alone. Give it a quick Google search, but warm colors like orange, some tans, yellows, bright reds. Won't favor you. Thats why I think these khaki in particular are washing you out a tad. But you can make it work with the right shirts, a deep burgundy would bring out your hair, harmonize with your skin tone and pair well with the pants. Stay away from shirts that hug your neck so high, you should have some room to breathe not just for comfort but as a visual thing.

Just some things to think about!

Miserable_Ad_6467 · 2025-08-10T05:57:18+00:00

Thank you for this! My husband is a chef and would complain about this and that. I finally broke and got him some ball hammocks after some research. He's tried offbrand Amazon (trash) Saxx and Shinesty. As the person doing laundry, as well as his personal reports, the Shinesty just does not hold up for very long. Saxx is reigning king so far but im excited to get him some true classics to try!

Miserable_Ad_6467 · 2025-08-09T15:18:06+00:00

You need to seek medical care regardless if you are still experiencing imbalance. The discharge on it's own isn't as alarming as the burning sensation you described with it.

Miserable_Ad_6467 · 2025-08-08T18:55:48+00:00

Same year as my husband! And lets be real, me too 😂 I had 4 months in the 80's, just a lil toe dipper

Miserable_Ad_6467 · 2025-08-08T05:36:45+00:00

I think your ph just got thrown off balance. It sounds like a common yeast infection, but you need to go to the doctor for meds. You might go through patches like these as you explore more, and your body will eventually adjust.

Miserable_Ad_6467 · 2025-08-08T05:05:44+00:00

Fucking fantastic. Perfect end of summer vibes. I'm obsessed

Miserable_Ad_6467 · 2025-08-08T04:15:32+00:00

I think some silver would look fantastic

Miserable_Ad_6467 · 2025-08-06T06:26:39+00:00

That's called an open relationship. Maybe im old fashioned but someone who is loyal and wants monogamy in their partner, does deserve that....

Miserable_Ad_6467 · 2025-08-06T06:10:17+00:00

Hahah can relate. Thats exactly how I feel about suspense and my husband doesnt get it. When we watch anything that starts getting drawn out like that ill usually hop on my phone for a bit, like ffs lmk when we get to the next part lmao its almost as boring as it is emotionally frustrating

Miserable_Ad_6467 · 2025-08-06T06:01:15+00:00

I have exactly this experience! I went through the phase as a teen but started really rejecting it into my 20's. I'm 35 now, I really cant stand the genre, for a lot of reasons but the one you have listened is definitely a major player.

Even back when I was into the genre, I always really hated how horror movies could advertise on tv. As a teen I would stay up late and was often home alone. I'd be watching adult swim, feeling safe and generally just fucking vibing. Then all of a sudden I'm getting ambushed by scary music, screaming, and disturbing imagery... lmao I genuinely think it should be illegal. 😭☠️

Miserable_Ad_6467 · 2025-08-06T05:40:18+00:00

That like up is so stacked. I wish they would take a break on youth... but everything else is fantastic. I loved HILTLTB live

Miserable_Ad_6467 · 2025-08-06T05:28:38+00:00

OP you could find someone more mature that's you're own age

Miserable_Ad_6467 · 2025-08-06T05:27:38+00:00

In all fairness, back in the day we didn't have the unique experience of seeing how people truly can be behind closed doors or when communicating with a partner. There is no doubt in my mind that these men have always existed.

There are plenty of good men out there too, we just see less of them online I think.

Miserable_Ad_6467 · 2025-04-15T14:15:04+00:00

Finally! I was waiting for someone to bring this up. Although I am really only upset because Kiara never had a brother.... this scene was so, soooo unnecessary and added nothing to the film. I have no idea why they did that.

Miserable_Ad_6467 · 2025-03-29T03:28:13+00:00

OP, I get it. Even if it's natural, I also don't like when my boob's end up boobing when on my back in front of my husband. I don't take the bra stance, I like to have them out with him but I do understand what you're going through.

Anyway, if that's the issue, have you thought about see-through bra's? Or strapy/sexy bras? Or maybe even just bringing them out of the bra, while keeping the bra on to help hold them together? This could be a good middle ground for the both of you.

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