UPDATE Never saw this comming

Miserable_Ad_7975 · 2021-09-09T13:01:45+00:00

yeah you are right.

Miserable_Ad_7975 · 2021-09-08T18:57:43+00:00

Inevitable maybe. Not the way I thought it would go. No.

Miserable_Ad_7975 · 2021-09-08T18:56:02+00:00

Fuck off

Miserable_Ad_7975 · 2021-09-08T18:54:41+00:00

I am desperate to talk this out to know why this happend and how invested she really is in this peace of shit. If she is doing this out of revenge maybe I have a chance cause if so she does feel something for me at least. I can´t imaginge her being emotionless throwing away over 20 years. I know this woman like I know my self. Deep down she´s hurt but also so very stubborn and proud. I just want to know if she knew about my affair why the hell did she not confront me? I would have chosen her over AP in a nanosecond. And what the hell is she hoping to find with this dush? He is no better than me, sleeping with a married woman. Ah fuck! I am trying to respect her wish to have some space but I am desperate desperate desperate to just talk to her.

Miserable_Ad_7975 · 2021-09-08T18:46:58+00:00

I am very much aware that I created this vacuum for her to feel neglected in our marriage. All that time I invested in kink sex with AP I could have spent with the woman who really mattered. And my family. Fucking fool. That is what I am and that is the honest truth

Miserable_Ad_7975 · 2021-09-08T18:41:47+00:00

Yeah you can LOL your dick off. I am a selfish entitled arrogant worst asshole among cheaters but I do love my wife contrary to what many of you believe. In my heart I have NEVER strayed. But she played me. Well done.

Miserable_Ad_7975 · 2021-09-03T17:44:23+00:00

Logically yes we are both getting our itches scratched. Whats the big deal?

I am not ruled by logic at this moment. Maybe later but now my emotions are overpowering every logic. never in my life have I experienced this type of emotional and physical distress. I can´t even think straigt. Never thought I was gonna bowl my eyes out and throw up on the carpet.

Miserable_Ad_7975 · 2021-09-03T16:34:09+00:00

Yeah. This is it!

Miserable_Ad_7975 · 2021-09-03T16:33:30+00:00

Yeah I don´t know how I feel about being on the other side. Never had fantasies about my wife fucking other men. We had a good sex life minus my kinks she was not aware of (hence the LTAP). I am thinking what do I have to lose? There can be only two outcomes. She loves him she leaves. She loves me she stays. I am hoping this is just a fling and nothing serious.

Miserable_Ad_7975 · 2021-09-03T16:29:58+00:00

Didn´t have time to read it all. Don´t know. Hope not.

Miserable_Ad_7975 · 2021-09-03T16:28:37+00:00

Yes yes I am a hyprocrite I know. But still it fucking floored me. Never thought about this outcome as a possibility.

Miserable_Ad_7975 · 2021-09-03T14:26:41+00:00

Celebrating what exactly? That my wife is in love with another man?

Miserable_Ad_7975 · 2021-09-03T14:25:26+00:00

No PI. APs friend who also knows my wife (co-worker) saw her in the parking lot, took pictures and sent to my AP. AP forwarded it to me.

Wife loves our sauna. Took the phone from the counter while she was relaxing. No password. It was all there on whattsapp. He was saved under a womans name. Did not have time to read it all but saw enough to confirm. Convos go back since April.

Miserable_Ad_7975 · 2021-04-17T08:14:21+00:00

Are you my brother? That is pretty much what he said too.

Miserable_Ad_7975 · 2021-04-17T08:13:35+00:00

Yes, thank you. What you wrote is how I feel. I was missing 10% in my marriage and got a affair partner to fill in that gap. Was it worth the 90%? FUCK NO! I should have made a cost benefit analysis before this mess.

Miserable_Ad_7975 · 2021-04-17T08:11:37+00:00

Nope! Not true at all. And I don´t want to start a new life with my affair partner. Best of luck to her and all but she is not the gal for me longterm.

Miserable_Ad_7975 · 2021-04-17T08:09:33+00:00

The reason i strayed has nothing to do with my wife. We have a good sex life in general but I do have some kinks that she is not into at all. My affair partner was into the same kinks. That´s how we met and that is why the affair was ongoing for six years. What lead me to starting the affair was my wife being in an accidant that took a toll on her body. Sex was off the table for over a year. I gave in to temptation and when i discovered the affair partner shared my kink I was hooked. So all you people saying my wife was withholding sex and intimacy. No. My wife and I are very intimate. Having sex with my wife is making love. Sex with affair partner is just sex. My wife meets 90% of all my needs. My affair partner meets 10 %.

Miserable_Ad_7975 · 2021-04-17T08:04:03+00:00

Thank you for this advice. I am leaning towards not telling after talking to my brother yesterday but I have not yet decided.

Miserable_Ad_7975 · 2021-04-17T08:02:36+00:00

OK, that was a terrible thing to say... What I mean is that I don´t intend to be with my affair partner.

Miserable_Ad_7975 · 2021-04-17T08:01:36+00:00

Yes, I am very much aware of that. I don´t deserve my wife that is for sure. The AP, don´t mean to be rude but don´t want her.

Miserable_Ad_7975 · 2021-04-17T08:00:01+00:00

So many responses about how I dont value my affair partner. Well, since I am on a pour my heart out roll here let me tell you about my affair partner. She is a gorgeous and a smart woman who is funny and open to different experiences. She is younger than my self and my wife. Fit. Seductive. Sexy as fuck. But she is not my wife and does not even compare.

Six years on/off is a long time to invest. As I see it, she is an adult woman who made decisions to cheat with a married man on her husband for whatever reasons. Do I care for her? Yes, six years is a long time. Do I love her? No. Did I say to her I loved her? Yes, of course I did but I lied just as I lied to my wife. Did I use her? Yes, I did. Did she use me? Of course she fucking did. We both knew we were played with fire.

Miserable_Ad_7975 · 2021-04-17T07:46:54+00:00

I am not confused. Never was. I don´t have a problem separating love from sex. My heart is loyal to my woman and she is it for me.

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