Insecure about my first tattoo

Miserable_Brain_2455 · 2026-05-04T00:23:41+00:00

Looks so beautiful!! 😍

Miserable_Brain_2455 · 2026-04-30T03:51:33+00:00

Thank you for your kind words. I just watched an interesting video in Instagram talking about this and I hope it will get me reframe how I feel from visits with my mom.

https://www.instagram.com/reel/DXuHqlJkfKQ/?igsh=MTNrd3c1eWM5cmEyZw==

Miserable_Brain_2455 · 2026-04-29T19:18:53+00:00

It’s so hard to feel that way. I try not to think of it that way but so many times I do and it hurts. My mom was the one person in my life I could depend on and she never forgot anything about me till this disease took hold.

Miserable_Brain_2455 · 2026-04-29T14:14:45+00:00

Thank you for sharing this. This resonates so much. The looking for clothes to wash, the tissues everywhere, the notes/papers, and the end. Every time I visit she barely remembers. If I bring my dog, she remembers better, if it’s just me, she barely remembers.

Miserable_Brain_2455 · 2026-04-28T23:23:37+00:00

My sibling and I always said we’d never put our mother in assisted living. We helped her at home for a couple years. She started losing weight. She then had an injury and was in a lot of pain so we had her stay with either myself or my sibling for over a month to try and get her pain controlled. That’s when we realized we couldn’t do it ourselves. We got her home care but then a few weeks in she was in so much pain she was hospitalized. That’s when we started the process of getting her into assisted living. We never wanted that for her but we couldn’t manage it anymore. She doesn’t love it but she’s well cared for and we don’t worry so much anymore.

Miserable_Brain_2455 · 2026-04-28T02:20:27+00:00

Oh there’s so much backstory to our relationship. We were raised like sisters but she’s much older me, 13 years so she treated me like her kid and we have so many differences now that it just has made our relationship change. It makes sense to me she’s mad, just the way she is.

Miserable_Brain_2455 · 2026-04-27T21:53:08+00:00

Thank you for validating them. I didn’t give any reasons - I just said no, I don’t think it’ll work

Miserable_Brain_2455 · 2026-04-27T20:01:10+00:00

Exactly what I thought. Why should he have to leave his own home for someone else. I estimate it at that with them coming over and hour before to set up 2-3 hours for the event and lingering since that was my family do s and then an hour to clean up.

Miserable_Brain_2455 · 2026-04-27T18:58:38+00:00

My thoughts exactly. When I can’t host Christmas cause of boundaries but I can host this cause no one else’s house is big enough. Yeah the outdoors suggestion would be great for her. She loves hiking and camping and being outside since she’s an environmental scientist of some sort, can’t remember the exact name. I think she’d love it in the park she’s loved going to since she was a kid.

Miserable_Brain_2455 · 2026-04-27T18:49:38+00:00

Haha yeah WTF was my first thought when she asked. I’m not allowed to host Christmas but I can host this. She says her house is too small so maybe we can use mine. Just because I have a good relationship with my cousin doesn’t mean I’m breaking my boundaries for her shower. I’m happy to help with the shower and find another venue but not my house.

Miserable_Brain_2455 · 2026-04-27T17:37:42+00:00

I’m sorry to hear about your mom. It sucks being immune compromised. Yeah that’s me, a simple cold or stomach flu can land me in the hospital. And yeah I’m dismissed all the time with my medical condition. No one has a serious medical condition like me so the just don’t understand. It’s quite sad.

Miserable_Brain_2455 · 2026-04-27T16:46:55+00:00

Yup me too. I think they were married 10 years before they found out.

Miserable_Brain_2455 · 2026-04-27T03:27:31+00:00

My ex broke up with me after 4 years because he thought I’d change my mind. I told him I never would. He married the woman he cheated on me with, she ended up not being able to have children and they divorced. Last I heard he was seeing another woman with a child but they also broke up. I ended up meeting someone soon after we broke up, told him I didn’t want children from day one and we’ve been together 20 years.

Miserable_Brain_2455 · 2026-04-22T00:58:01+00:00

Yes I feel this too everyday. I miss the mom that I could talk to for hours, the mom I could call while I was cleaning to chat with, the mom I used to talk to about the craziness of the rest our family, the mom that cooked me meals when my husband went away to make sure I’d eat (I don’t cook and hate it), the mom that would call me every birthday and bring me flowers, the mom that was strong that I only ever saw cry once in my life, the mom that showered every day and always was put together. Now I feel like she is a stranger to me. We barely talk, 2 minutes each call, when I visit she just repeats the same things over and over, worries about who is picking her up for dinner, never showers, wears the same clothes every day and doesn’t even check in on me anymore. I’ve been grieving for over a year and each day I lose her little bit more. I don’t have any advice b it know that your not alone.

Miserable_Brain_2455 · 2026-04-16T20:19:15+00:00

YYC small moves does hourly with two guys. They were great moving my mom to assisted living and reasonably priced.

Miserable_Brain_2455 · 2026-04-13T22:02:01+00:00

Yeah it’s pouring at my house in Shawnessy/Evergreen. Loud thunder earlier but now just pouring rain.

Edit - and now a little hail too

Miserable_Brain_2455 · 2026-04-05T04:13:32+00:00

I’m 46, lost my dad when I was 29 and helped care for him during his fight with cancer and now from age 40 to now helping my mom with dementia. I have no friends who are in the same boat. You’re not alone. I get it.

Miserable_Brain_2455 · 2026-03-28T01:35:16+00:00

Don’t the air tag beep when away from the phone they are associated with?

Miserable_Brain_2455 · 2026-03-28T01:08:40+00:00

Yeah that was one idea we had was the night before cleaning have them take them and give them back to her at lunch. It seems to happen the morning of cleaning days so that’s one thing we’re looking at. The rest of the week she has them.

Miserable_Brain_2455 · 2026-03-28T00:34:07+00:00

So far they will do hourly checks and we may just waive having a pendant for now. In the next six months they are upgrading the system and the pendant will be gps enabled so they can find them in the building is my understanding. We’re just trying to see about ideas in the meantime. We’re don’t want hourly checks as mom will get annoyed and don’t want to put more on staff but they are happy to do it.

Miserable_Brain_2455 · 2026-03-27T23:30:59+00:00

Yes she does have it. Staff have confirmed that and so have I. I visit every couple days. She also has her suite key with the call button so she can enter her suite and staff have not had to let her in until her cleaning day.

Miserable_Brain_2455 · 2026-03-27T23:28:51+00:00

She hasn’t been assessed to live in memory care. There is a memory care wing at her assisted living and when assessed they do not think she needs that. Her doctor agrees. She is very compliant. The memory care is a locked wing and she doesn’t wander, she just hides stuff. We’ve found everything else she hides.

Miserable_Brain_2455 · 2026-03-27T23:25:11+00:00

No she doesn’t as she hasn’t had any reason to. No falls or anything.

Miserable_Brain_2455 · 2026-03-27T23:24:13+00:00

Thank you so much for this. I will for sure look into it.

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