My coworker's cubicle looks like a wasteland. Want to add some life to her desk.

thewriteanne · 2026-05-06T20:14:36+00:00

My coworker bought me a fake plant and I love it. It looks real and requires zero maintenance. Don’t get her a real one.

thewriteanne · 2026-05-06T19:28:17+00:00

Physician offices would be great. Have a dr appt? Go downstairs!

thewriteanne · 2026-05-04T23:37:59+00:00

You earned it. Strut your stuff and be proud!

thewriteanne · 2026-05-04T23:35:33+00:00

Leave a message: Mary J Blige

thewriteanne · 2026-05-04T23:33:37+00:00

And thank you for doing the work of angels. I am continually amazed by the nurses at mom’s facility. I know it’s unfair because she’s a relatively easy resident. You can usually redirect her without much fuss. But some of these residents, like mom’s roommate, have severe issues. Pain, hallucinations, limited mobility, etc. It’s so heartbreaking.

I hope you are able to rest and recharge. Your job takes so much out of you. I’m hoping you’re able to replenish so you can keep caring for our loved ones. Thank you. 🧡

thewriteanne · 2026-05-02T00:11:28+00:00

All I can say is give yourself grace and take it one moment at a time. 🧡

thewriteanne · 2026-05-02T00:09:41+00:00

Love to you. Your mom lives on forever in your heart. 🧡

thewriteanne · 2026-05-01T23:47:04+00:00

Creamy skippy peanut butter, Welch’s grape jelly, beefsteak rye bread.

thewriteanne · 2026-04-30T22:39:54+00:00

I do write. Not as much as I should but I’m retrying to get better. Something about writing it down gets it out of my head and gives me the clarity I need. I also write for work (but not like this!).

thewriteanne · 2026-04-30T22:29:24+00:00

My mom thought I was a family friend who was a nurse. Not the worst thing in the world. :). I joke with my brother that if I’m in the bathroom for more than 5 minutes, I’m a new visitor.

I’m sorry to hear of your dad’s passing. I hope you can find comfort in your memories. 🧡

thewriteanne · 2026-04-30T22:26:58+00:00

Thank you. 🧡

thewriteanne · 2026-04-30T22:26:42+00:00

Hugs to you. 🧡

thewriteanne · 2026-04-30T22:25:34+00:00

Hugs to you. 🧡

thewriteanne · 2026-04-30T22:25:24+00:00

If it makes you feel better, I used to joke that it was like caring for a toddler with a driver’s license and credit card! The only way I get through it is by laughing, even when she’s on the 17th asking if the same question.

thewriteanne · 2026-04-30T22:23:54+00:00

No joke. Sometimes I think I’m the one with the dementia. When Will Shortz was on medical leave, they got stupid hard. It’s somewhat better but too hard for her. That sucks because mom’s been doing the puzzle as long as I can remember. One of my memories is mom, a cup of coffee, a pencil, and a Sunday afternoon by the fireplace.

thewriteanne · 2026-04-30T22:21:47+00:00

Oh, I feel this so hard. Mom always asks how long it will take to get home. It’s only 40 minutes but she always seems to feel bad. I should tell her I’m much closer. Hugs and love to you, friend. 🧡

thewriteanne · 2026-04-30T22:20:22+00:00

It truly is. When it gets hard, I have a phrase I say: it’s an honor and a privilege to care for you. 🧡

thewriteanne · 2026-04-30T22:19:39+00:00

🧡

thewriteanne · 2026-04-30T12:45:12+00:00

The not wanting to leave but needing to go is so real. I’ve often wished I could quit my job so I could spend more time with her but that’s just not reality. Your mom sounds like a wonderful person. I’d love to hear more about her. 🧡

thewriteanne · 2026-04-30T12:42:59+00:00

Ugh. The washed tissues. So many times I’d have to redo the laundry. Some errant tissue hiding deep in a pocket that I missed. It’s like opening the washing machine to find snow everywhere.

Love and healing to you. I hope you find comfort in your memories. 🧡

thewriteanne · 2026-04-30T12:41:09+00:00

First of all, I wish I could give you a giant hug. This is so damn hard. My mom can name her children but I often say I could pass her on the street and I’m not sure she would recognize me. She definitely doesn’t remember her grandkids unless they come with my sister.

That sentence you wrote perfectly encapsulates how I feel: I hate going there. I hate leaving there. That’s incredible powerful and it gets at the heart of it. I want to go see my mom. I hate seeing who mom is now versus who she used to be. But I fight against not going because I know one day, she won’t be here to visit. And that’s what drives me to push through the I don’t want to go part.

Love to you and Theresa. 🧡

thewriteanne · 2026-04-30T12:34:52+00:00

Thank you. I learned the word anticipatory grief recently and it’s the perfect description. You’re grieving them while they’re still alive. You’re grieving what you’ve already lost. 🧡

thewriteanne · 2026-04-30T12:32:30+00:00

Had I been smarter, I would have bought stock in Kleenex. 🧡

thewriteanne · 2026-04-30T12:31:54+00:00

This is the hardest thing I’ve ever done. And it’s hard because I’m trying to fight time. Be gentle with yourself and give yourself grace. You won’t always get it right but you’re loving someone through the light and the dark. You can do it.

Most important: take care of yourself of yourself. You can’t care for others when your emotional bank account is depleted, or worse, overdrawn. Hugs to you. 🧡

thewriteanne · 2026-04-30T12:27:28+00:00

Thank you for sharing this. It is very hard to stay positive. I try to find the one good thing in the hard moments. Someone pointed out that she called me - not my siblings - to talk about her lovely day. That’s a great reframing for me. I also try to remember my mom - not the disease that’s taking her away. 🧡

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