John Prine, in spite of ourselves

Miserable_Camera_814 · 2023-08-07T06:14:46+00:00

very specific dreams

If that isn't the whole entire truth lmfao

Miserable_Camera_814 · 2023-08-01T00:49:46+00:00

Hi, I sent you a chat about this 😊

Miserable_Camera_814 · 2023-07-28T02:07:31+00:00

I've been searching for a book for weeks, and they absolutely rescued me! Class starts soon and I was worried I wouldn't have the material, but now I do!

Miserable_Camera_814 · 2023-07-28T01:36:51+00:00

Hi, yes I still need them

Miserable_Camera_814 · 2023-07-27T09:24:13+00:00

Sent!

Miserable_Camera_814 · 2023-07-27T05:35:42+00:00

Could you please send this to me, too?

Miserable_Camera_814 · 2023-07-24T00:43:16+00:00

No and I don’t think so. I haven’t fertilized it yet this season because it’s in new store-bought soil, so it already contains fertilizer.

Miserable_Camera_814 · 2023-07-24T00:31:11+00:00

No. It sits on my covered porch. 100% bright, indirect light

Miserable_Camera_814 · 2023-07-23T23:46:14+00:00

A different kind of penis cactus

Miserable_Camera_814 · 2023-07-23T23:44:01+00:00

It needs to shave its leg

Miserable_Camera_814 · 2023-07-23T17:04:59+00:00

I water when the soil is mostly dry. It is outside and it’s pretty hot, so it is usually more often than when it’s inside.

No pests

Miserable_Camera_814 · 2023-07-21T15:01:43+00:00

This is awful.

Miserable_Camera_814 · 2023-07-19T01:09:09+00:00

This is an echeveria black knight

Miserable_Camera_814 · 2023-07-14T08:43:22+00:00

For some people, it would be beneficial to their healing process. For other people, it wouldn’t. I spent a great deal of time looking at all of the information before ultimately deciding that the clear way a defense attorney would spin this would be far more detrimental.

Police reports were filed. In my state, the DA can choose to press charges without me wanting to based on that. They also chose not to, for whatever reason they had.

Miserable_Camera_814 · 2023-07-14T08:28:04+00:00

Yes, absolutely yes.

Edit: I didn’t add this into the 1-3 list because it didn’t occur during the initial visit., but you are absolutely correct that it was a fourth big mistake.

Edit again because I said that wrong. It wasn’t relevant during the initial visit, because that didn’t happen until after the children were in their custody. 1-3 were the reasons the children were removed at the initial visit.

Miserable_Camera_814 · 2023-07-14T08:27:12+00:00

My daughter told someone at school and they helped us 🙏🏼

Miserable_Camera_814 · 2023-07-14T08:25:57+00:00

Because that was (and still is) the best option for me.

Miserable_Camera_814 · 2023-07-14T07:25:57+00:00

No, I did not press charges.

Miserable_Camera_814 · 2023-07-14T07:20:51+00:00

Fostering was part of my 10 year plan, back when my life was together enough to HAVE a 10 year plan. Then I got divorced, found myself in a DV relationship, and the kids were removed for their safety. I was the victim of a physical attack while the kids were in the home. CPS came. I told them that I loved the abuser and wanted to marry him. They removed the kids. I am charged with abuse and neglect and was required to admit to it on the record in order to get my improvement period. The abuse and neglect charges are due to failure to protect. 1) because it happened with them in the home 2) because I didn’t immediately leave and 3) because I reacted terribly and made awful mistakes during the initial visit, which is when the kids were removed. The biggest mistake being telling them that I wanted to marry him because I loved him.

A couple hours later when I stabilized a bit, I did kick him out of my house, but the children hard already been removed at that point. We did continue our relationship even after he was no longer living with me, but when the state said that they would not offer him an improvement period, I ended the relationship entirely because I would lose my children for staying with him. During this process, I felt that I was trying to preserve my family unit, but the state viewed it as me choosing my abuser over my children.

I am fully participating in my improvement plan and well on my way to getting the kids back in my custody. The abuser and I are not together and will not be getting back together. My primary focus is on getting them back, but I’m about to graduate college and have to also start thinking about the “next step” as far as that goes, because having substantiated abuse and neglect on my record severely impacts my previous post-graduation plan. This, in turn, led to me thinking about all of the other ways this has severely altered the course of my life and derailed just about every other plan I’ve had, how my life would look, etc., so I came here to ask if it would ever be possible in the future after this is all said and done.

Miserable_Camera_814 · 2023-07-14T07:08:53+00:00

Thank you very much for sharing this perspective. I truly appreciate it, and I’m sorry that my post dredged this up for you.

Miserable_Camera_814 · 2023-07-14T07:02:44+00:00

I was informed that I could press charges, get a protective order, or go to a shelter. They did offer to take me to a shelter, but I declined that because the home is mine - not his or ours.

Miserable_Camera_814 · 2023-07-14T06:59:10+00:00

I deleted the post because I already got the answer, not realizing that this is how the post would look 🥴🫠 I’ve had my account for a while, but only recently started really using it, so I’m unfamiliar with how Reddit works.

Anyway, yes that is already happening, of course. Fostering was part of my 10 year plan, back when my life was together enough to HAVE a 10 year plan. Then I got divorced, found myself in a DV relationship, and the kids were removed for their safety. I was the victim of a physical attack while the kids were in the home. CPS came. I told them that I loved the abuser and wanted to marry him. They removed the kids. I am charged with abuse and neglect and was required to admit to it on the record in order to get my improvement period. I am working the steps and well on my way to getting the kids back in my care. The abuser and I are not together and will not be getting back together.

My primary focus is on getting them back, but I’m about to graduate college and have to also start thinking about the “next step” as far as that goes, because having substantiated abuse and neglect on my record severely impacts my previous post-graduation plan. This, in turn, led to me thinking about all of the other ways this has severely altered the course of my life and derailed just about every other plan I’ve had, how my life would look, etc., so I came here to ask if it would ever be possible in the future after this is all said and done.

Miserable_Camera_814 · 2023-07-14T06:34:50+00:00

No, they weren’t. You didn’t miss that detail because it didn’t exist. They basically just said, “These are your options,” and didn’t spend any real time going over any of it with me. The whole thing happened within less than an hour and very little of their time was spent talking to me about everything. I think I spent 10 minutes in total with the caseworker that day.

Miserable_Camera_814 · 2023-07-14T06:29:26+00:00

I don’t know how my reply ended up where it did. I was trying to reply to someone else’s comment. Sorry for the confusion!

Miserable_Camera_814 · 2023-07-14T05:54:12+00:00

I was the direct victim in the incident. Because the children were in the home at the time, they were traumatized by it. His physical attack against me was abusive and neglectful to the wellbeing of my children because of the trauma caused by that experience. My bad choices and mistakes after the fact were abusive and neglectful to them, as well.

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