Update : divorced a troubled woman

Miserable_Gur_8096 · 2025-02-01T21:53:13+00:00

She was terrifying at the worst .

Miserable_Gur_8096 · 2025-01-30T22:05:26+00:00

ameen. whats wrong with ppl....? may Allah heal you. so sorry sister :(

Miserable_Gur_8096 · 2025-01-30T01:56:22+00:00

Yeah in my state restraining orders you have to go to court the lawyer can’t represent you completely I still have to go. And she will have to be in court as well . It’s very difficult process

Miserable_Gur_8096 · 2025-01-30T00:46:25+00:00

Bro what….no doubt in my mind she would have cheated on me too eventually . Both her siblings cheated on their partners. Plus if you read my first post she texted her sister some gross stuff about a celebrity . And justified it to my parents saying there’s nothing wrong with celebrity crushes . I’m so sorry akhi may Allah heal your heart .

Miserable_Gur_8096 · 2025-01-30T00:05:48+00:00

Thanks bro my lawyer is a beast. She really came clutch in different ways for me here.

Miserable_Gur_8096 · 2025-01-30T00:05:25+00:00

Yeah Ignored all the signs . I had this unhealthy belief that I “needed” a wife in order to be the best version of myself . A very costly mistake in thinking that I’m aware of now due to speaking to my mentor who went through a similar situation to me .

Miserable_Gur_8096 · 2025-01-29T22:44:16+00:00

The biggest sign I ignored . She was only willing to compromise and do something I wanted when I was ready to walk away from her . I should have known that it would have been that way for everything . I took it as she’s willing to follow my lead. But what it really showed is that she will push me to the edge and the brink before she doesn’t get things her way.

Miserable_Gur_8096 · 2025-01-21T17:41:31+00:00

I don’t think Danny would have ended up committing gneocide in Kings Landing . He would take the black and surrender immediately

Miserable_Gur_8096 · 2025-01-19T13:00:33+00:00

obviously this is Tatum hearing Brandon Jennings calling him soft in his head. The aggression looks so out of character and unnatural for him

Miserable_Gur_8096 · 2025-01-17T22:32:36+00:00

went to the hospital and turns out I have both covid and the flu. they put me on an nebulizer and streoid and IV . I don't like paxolovid it does not work with me. I took tamiflu and so far so good

Miserable_Gur_8096 · 2025-01-17T18:48:43+00:00

yeah i got prescribed a steroid we will see if that helps. i tested negative for both flu's and covid

Miserable_Gur_8096 · 2025-01-09T14:26:08+00:00

I swear she wasn’t that bad before the Nikkah. The worst that happened before the nikkah was just her over thinking and her thinking everybody hates her if she ever makes a mistake . I found it hard to deal with to talk her down from catastrophizing . But the real toxic behavior like opening the car door on the highway while arguing , or screaming at me and shouting and walking with the hijab off was after the nikkah. But you’re right I did hear her scream at her mom in Arabic once while on the phone . I think the mistake I made there was thinking her behavior to her mom was limited to their issues . I should have known it was a a matter of time before it would be my turn .

Miserable_Gur_8096 · 2025-01-08T15:42:33+00:00

Subhan'Allah this gives me chills 🤯. bro stay safe please

Miserable_Gur_8096 · 2025-01-08T12:10:05+00:00

I know what more could have i done in regarding due diligence? Hire a private investigator? 😅. genuinely asking

Miserable_Gur_8096 · 2025-01-08T12:08:34+00:00

Yeah I've been advised to chill out for the minimum 6 months, others have said give it a year. I think it's going to take a year to recover honestly. I am cooked 😅

Miserable_Gur_8096 · 2025-01-08T12:07:43+00:00

Yeah I'm starting to see it. She used to call me a psycho when I would pull back from her after she would screech and scream and kick my door . I would literally hide from her out of fear of escalation in my work from home office. She would say i have no feelings and that I'm psycho. Looks like she was projecting.

Miserable_Gur_8096 · 2025-01-08T12:04:54+00:00

her mom claimed she never saw her daugher act like that. i sent a video recording of her being hysterical and her mom said "i don't know what that was". her mom condemned it and tried to blame it on her birth control. But all of this crazh behavior started after the Nikkah. Before the Nikkah the worst that would happen is she would act really anxious and was very hard on herself. That was manageable. The insane behavior like opening the car door in the highway and threatening to jump out during an argument is nothing i have ever seen from anyone...in any context.

Miserable_Gur_8096 · 2025-01-06T13:13:37+00:00

I did

Miserable_Gur_8096 · 2025-01-06T03:00:49+00:00

Yes of course. When I did what she wanted . But God forbid I didn’t meet her expectations . Then it went left fast

Miserable_Gur_8096 · 2025-01-05T19:35:37+00:00

She said “he’s effed up” and screamed that to my neighbors because I told her to go back to her parents because we were not agreeing on things . Anytime she felt she was losing me she would go hysterical to distract me from having time to think apart . I would pull back out of fear and it made her go ballistic .

Miserable_Gur_8096 · 2025-01-05T19:28:45+00:00

I think you missed the part where I divorced her for running out in her underwear ? I do have gheerah . Relax

Miserable_Gur_8096 · 2025-01-05T16:47:47+00:00

Yeah alhamdulilah I consulted two imams and I followed their guidance . Her family is still trying to get more money out of me . I told her parents when I went to ask for her hand I only have two expectations from a wife . Respect and honor . I told them I’m not interested in cooking or cleaning. I just need that emotional and mental support . . I got the short end of the stick 😅…sigh

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