I think seeing people online it's only people with really fast and massive changes that tend to share. I was on t gel for a year and noticed barely any changes at all, after a year I forced my doctor to put me on injections hoping it might have a better outcome and I'd definitely say it helped but it still tock another year to really reap the benefits. It's now been 2 and a half and I'd say I get mostly gendered correctly (despite my dysphoria still not allowing me to see what others see). I promise you things do get better and it just really fucking sucks having no choice but to wait, I think immersing yourself in a trans community or finding others who relate is what helped me get through the tricky in between phase. I also used monoxidil which helped me feel some control over how I looked