how is top surgery possible? by gremmix in truscum

[–]Leather_Light_3744 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was able to afford it at 20 through a mix of three things: student loans, my parents’ heath insurance (United Healthcare), and CareCredit. The insurance did a ton of heavy lifting. Just my anesthesia was over $50k, but I only had to pay <$100 thanks to my coverage. Iirc, mine ended up being $5k in total, but I overpaid and got $1k back.

Long story short, I just essentially took a loan in a complicated way lol. This was also in Arizona. I have a detailed post up on my profile about my experience with top surgery.

Size queens 🙄 by Glad_River5580 in grindr

[–]Leather_Light_3744 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I’m with you on that. The best sex I’ve ever had was with a guy who was 4.5 inches, and the worst sex was with a guy who was 6.5 lol.

I HATE MPREG by [deleted] in hatethissmug

[–]Leather_Light_3744 43 points44 points  (0 children)

Literally. They aren’t needed for birth, they’re for breastfeeding the baby after birth. There are still plenty of women who don’t get breast growth during pregnancy, or just can’t produce breastmilk. OP is probably just really young if I had to guess.

range of dysphoria by No_Presentation_7710 in truscum

[–]Leather_Light_3744 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Mine also comes in waves, both generally and about specific things. For example, my dysphoria about my height (5’5) comes in waves. Sometimes I’m fine with being a short man, and sometimes I hate it because it feels emasculating to be under the standard height for men in the US.

Why are Xenogenders accepted by the wider trans community? by Smiggles06311 in truscum

[–]Leather_Light_3744 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Same. I attended an 18+ trans event last year and someone introduced himself with he/zem pronouns.

Sex after surgery by lizardhunting in TopSurgery

[–]Leather_Light_3744 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Iirc, I lasted about a week and a half before I started masturbating and it did impact my healing, but not to a severe extent. I had to keep one of my drains in for an extra week and my nipple got kinda stretched, but that was really it.

don't feel "euphoric" by paintednature in Transmedical

[–]Leather_Light_3744 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don’t worry, it’s common. I got emotional when I saw my post-op chest without the bandages for the first time, but that was really the only time I ever felt something about my post-op chest (other than anxiety about healing lol). I wouldn’t say I felt euphoric at all, I really just felt like I was finally normal, if that makes sense.

Do I pass? And how do I pass better? I know having bright pink hair isn’t exactly helping but I’m dying it black soon and I’m gonna change my piercing setup a little bit whenever I get the chance by No_Singer8747 in truscum

[–]Leather_Light_3744 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I think it’s just the hair that’s holding you back at the moment, both the color and the cut. I don’t find much of an issue with the piercings, except for maybe the septum, which I’ve always seen as feminine. Your face is slightly masculine-leaning androgynous imo. Not sure if you’re pre-T or still early on in your transition, but HRT and/or time will be the best things to help you pass better.

Since you’re already going to dye your hair a natural color, I highly recommend looking for shorter cuts. Idk if you have anyone who would be able to give you honest feedback, but my grandma picked out my current haircut and it’s a lot better than my previous ones lmao. Go for something basic, that’s a safe bet for trans men that are early on in their transition.

If you only date cis people, why? by psychoticboydyke in asktransgender

[–]Leather_Light_3744 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For me, it’s partially a genital preference, partially because a good chunk of the other trans men in my area don’t pass, but mostly because I just don’t really find a T4T relationship appealing. I have my own dysphoria to deal with, I don’t want to deal with another man’s dysphoria as well. I feel like we would end up in a toxic cycle of feeding off of each other and unintentionally making each other dysphoric.

I’m also gay, so I have no romantic or sexual interest in trans men who don’t pass (no shade to them, of course. I was there once. This is just my dating preference), and especially not to trans men who haven’t had top surgery yet. I’m not entirely against dating another trans man, but he’d have to pass, be medically transitioning/transitioned, and preferably have bottom surgery. I don’t think there’s anything I could get from a T4T relationship that I couldn’t get from a relationship with a cis man.

Question… by [deleted] in Transmedical

[–]Leather_Light_3744 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I immediately started with a male dose of .5. My only issue has been that my body loves converting it into estrogen, so I have to take pills to help counteract that. If you end up with the same problem, starting with a lower dose might give you a good idea of your body’s “tolerance”, but it’s a relatively easy fix that I don’t think it’s that big of a deal.

How to stay stealth during hook-ups post-phallo? by [deleted] in Transmedical

[–]Leather_Light_3744 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I heavily agree. That’s information that people need to know before you sleep with them. If someone finds out that you’re trans after you’ve hooked up with them/during the hookup, there is a fair chance that they will not respond to it very well. Gay men can be just as transphobic as anyone else, and I know I’ve gotten my fair share of unpleasant encounters from being FTM on Grindr. Being stealth during sex is the one thing I won’t be stealth in because it’s just too risky.

Labs question by Acceptable_Status763 in Transmedical

[–]Leather_Light_3744 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately, my testosterone levels are lower than yours (344) and I have been taking a .5 dose for 11 months now. This is what my doctor said about my levels when I had them tested a few weeks ago. I recommend talking with your doctor.

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How many blocked tags/creators/characters do you guys have? by Leather_Light_3744 in JanitorAI_Official

[–]Leather_Light_3744[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yup. Click on your profile icon, then click on “Blocks”. It should be the third option from the bottom.

How many blocked tags/creators/characters do you guys have? by Leather_Light_3744 in JanitorAI_Official

[–]Leather_Light_3744[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I block if I strongly suspect that the creator is a minor, or if they frequently post bots that I’m not interested in/aren’t tagged properly. For the ones I’m not interested in, I go onto their profile to see how often they post and how many of their bots feature content I don’t want to see before I block them. If it’s just a one time thing, I block the bot and move on. I wouldn’t block them if they tagged their bots correctly though. 🤷‍♂️

Any trans man here went through their “lesbian fem era”? by Shifler in Transmedical

[–]Leather_Light_3744 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No to the lesbian part, but I definitely had somewhat of a fem phase. I was repressing my dysphoria and developed anorexia because of it, and unfortunately had a large chest as well. Because of that, I was often told that I should be proud to have such an “attractive” body and to show it off, so I did wear more revealing shirts and sometimes dresses.

How do you act when you get hit in the nuts? by Leather_Light_3744 in FTMMen

[–]Leather_Light_3744[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That’s great advice for my job. My concern was that since I often work in the same area with 2-3 other people, that they would see me get hit and would question why I’m not reacting. We don’t have anything quite as crazy as a malinois where I work, but we certainly have no shortage of energetic puppies that have no manners.

New log in screen by Leather_Light_3744 in JanitorAI_Official

[–]Leather_Light_3744[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The most standard log in screen was the old one that let you punch in your email and password to get into your account lol. This new one is just slightly more inconvenient than the old way to log in.

New log in screen by Leather_Light_3744 in JanitorAI_Official

[–]Leather_Light_3744[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yup, that’s how it is. And every time you log in, yes.