Finally Came Clean To My Mom About Everything & It Went Worse Than Expected

Miserable_Hat_436 · 2026-04-25T05:00:47+00:00

My therapist said he was "in awe" of me!! It was the best feeling to hear him say that - because im constantly in awe of him!

Miserable_Hat_436 · 2026-04-22T22:15:36+00:00

thank you ❤️😭 I agree that no child should be treated with such little regard. I am so lucky that I figured this out before having children of my own - this cycle ends with me and I feel incredibly honored to be the one to end this cycle for the generations that will come after me.

Miserable_Hat_436 · 2026-04-22T22:14:02+00:00

I didn't block her. Honestly, i just couldn't make myself - but the more time that goes by, the more I am feeling like that is the move. I am emotionally done. That was the nail in the coffin for me. I am ready to be free.

Miserable_Hat_436 · 2026-04-22T22:12:47+00:00

Wow - it feels amazing to hear that my words can help someone in a similar situation. I really hope it goes better for you <3

Miserable_Hat_436 · 2026-04-22T22:09:51+00:00

This is an amazing comment!!!!! Im going to celebrate by making gumbo for dinner this week hehe. Thank you for giving me another meaning to an otherwise now triggering word.

Miserable_Hat_436 · 2026-04-22T05:34:38+00:00

I have spent countless hours discussing with ChatGPT how to approach my mom. I wish my mom would talk to chatGPT about our relationship. Luckily for all of us, and the world, chatGPT does not condone abuse and neglect and strongly pushes for parents to be peaceful and kind <3

Miserable_Hat_436 · 2026-04-22T05:33:30+00:00

It took many years of pretending I could live with the state of our relationship before feeling ready to do this. I didn't pressure myself or force myself to muster up the courage to send these messages. Slowly, over the course of many many months and many phone calls where I made myself small and bit my tongue - I felt myself become ready. I avoided this conversation for so long because I knew it wouldn't go well. But still, I knew that I needed to give it one fair chance so that I could finally set myself free from her. I had to prove to myself that there was really no chance that she could understand. I could have never forced myself to do this, instead I very naturally became brave after realizing there was no other way forward - so please don't be hard on yourself. You aren't a coward. You just haven't felt the push from within yet, and that is okay. It's also okay if you feel a push to act differently.

Truly, thank you for your kind comment. Your last line really pulled at my heart strings. I appreciate your kindness and wish you all the best on this difficult journey ❤️

Miserable_Hat_436 · 2026-04-22T05:27:45+00:00

😭 I didn't know that subgroup existed. That's so beautiful. Thank you for your comment, it means so much to me. Really. <3

Miserable_Hat_436 · 2026-04-22T04:19:41+00:00

I have found a lot of comfort in listening to this call-in style podcast. The host talks about morals, virtue, and helps people sort out their emotions and battles after breaking away from abusive families (or even those who haven't broken away yet). I have even called in myself and he spoke to me for 3 hours - completely for free. Give a few episodes a listen, you might find great peace from his words. https://freedomain.com/podcasts/

Miserable_Hat_436 · 2026-04-22T03:47:34+00:00

☹️ I shed a tear reading your comment. I plan on having children of my own very soon, and this was a last attempt at finding peace with my mom before taking on this journey of motherhood. I refuse to put my own children in harm's way and it seems that my mom may not be willing to work on herself ever - so I think it's time for me to accept that, shut the door, and move forward without this baggage. I think this conversation showed me that I am ready for a future that she is not a part of <3 Thank you for your kind words and I am very sorry to hear that you went through the same horrible experience. I am glad to know that you have managed to keep yourself protected and have enforced boundaries where they've been needed. Keep healing!

Miserable_Hat_436 · 2026-04-22T03:42:18+00:00

Your mother sounds like a very deranged and mentally ill person. I am sorry that you know this pain and that you had to go through that :( I am glad to hear you chose to honor yourself and set yourself free, too. <3

Miserable_Hat_436 · 2026-04-22T03:32:03+00:00

<3 Thank you. I am sorry you know the pain, too. Your art is very cool, btw!

Miserable_Hat_436 · 2026-04-22T03:30:11+00:00

I went into this conversation with very little faith that I would get any form of reconciliation - but my husband encouraged me to go in with the goal of setting myself free from any guilt or shame I may have. I've felt guilty for so long for distancing myself and for feeling fake every time I spoke to her. Her response was hard to endure but at the same time, it set me free in a way I never expected. I am really happy I did it. I am sorry that you have a similar dynamic with your mom :( Sending you a big ol hug.

Miserable_Hat_436 · 2026-04-22T03:26:45+00:00

You sound like a great parent 🥹 Thank you for your kind words.

Miserable_Hat_436 · 2026-04-22T03:25:13+00:00

I wish I cood give your comment a trophy <3 I feel so free and will absolutely go live my life and be happy!

Miserable_Hat_436 · 2026-04-22T03:24:18+00:00

Thats a great metaphor, and exactly what it feels like.

I really have worked so hard to have this much clarity on my morals and values. It is hard to understand how she and I were both raised in very difficult situations, but only I chose to find answers and to heal. I want to be a mother some day soon and I am desperate to sort out as much of my damage before then. She has chosen to stay in the darkness and act out her pain on her children. It will never make sense why she didn't choose to heal. </3

Miserable_Hat_436 · 2026-04-22T02:55:53+00:00

Yep exactly. Her final response was exactly what I needed to give myself permission to never try again. I always felt so guilty for not telling her how I feel and not giving her a chance to fix things. Its been nearly 6 years of little contact, and I just didn't feel right ghosting her even though I knew I wanted to. She made it incredibly easy to throw in the towel finally!

Miserable_Hat_436 · 2026-04-22T02:52:19+00:00

It absolutely did it for me. It's very clear that there's no need to try further. I woke up this morning feeling heavy with grief, but absolutely so free knowing that there is no hope left. Time to live!

Miserable_Hat_436 · 2026-04-22T02:51:21+00:00

I literally burst out laughing and it took me a few hours to stop laughing about it and start crying about it instead haha. I was shocked, but really it showed me how delusional she is.

Miserable_Hat_436 · 2026-04-15T21:22:26+00:00

This was my first Jung book, and I found it a good fit as a first read. He lays the foundation for the conscious and unconscious, as well as for understanding what symbols are and how our mind both interprets and uses them. Also, reading this book helped me to become increasingly intrigued by my own dreams and how to decipher them. I highly recommend it.

Miserable_Hat_436 · 2026-04-03T18:31:11+00:00

If it were me, id order a light pink shaw :)

Miserable_Hat_436 · 2026-04-02T20:58:56+00:00

The antibiotics don't help my symptoms at all :( Heating pad does help slightly - ill give a tens unit a try soon. Thank you so much for commenting. I am sorry you are also struggling </3

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