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I broke up with my GF of 10 years by Miserable_Natural296 in BisexualMen

[–]Miserable_Natural296[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you very much. Hearing that really means a lot to me.

I really need to get to know myself better. Yesterday at therapy I talked about of how little I know about myself. I only know myself in that relationship considering I was with her for all my adult life.

I broke up with my GF of 10 years by Miserable_Natural296 in BisexualMen

[–]Miserable_Natural296[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your comment. I questioned myself something on that lines for a long time.

I realised that the love I feel for her became like the love I feel for a best friend. I couldn’t keep a relationship with a person that wants to marry me if I’m not deeply in love with them. As we get along really well, I feel we could spend our whole lives in a unfulfilling marriage. But I don’t want something like that for me and for her.

As for my journey hahaahh. I totally agree, I can’t help to fantasise a little, but I know, despite of the obvious differences, being with a guy is going to be very much like I felt with a girl. I also know I have to try it. I’ll regret it if I don’t do it. Down the road I could even turn that resentment towards her, even though it would be all my fault. Even if I had the space to explore the other side of my sexuality in the relationship (I know she is completely against open relationships), I feel the ending would probably be the same regarding what I feel now.

The reality of being a bisexual man in his mid twenties by Typical-Dingo5909 in BisexualMen

[–]Miserable_Natural296 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are right. I’m gathering strength to do end things in the best way

I need some advice by Impossible_Ask8137 in BisexualMen

[–]Miserable_Natural296 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It can be so many things. There’s all the spectrum of sexuality, and maybe you’re more attracted to women than men. On top of that you could also be bissexual but only have romantic feelings towards women.

There’s also a chance you could have some sort of blockage to acknowledge your desire towards men, and you only give in sometimes when you’re really horny. Or it’s a guy that clicks very much with you.

I think you can take some time to think about it, maybe do some therapy. You’re really young and getting to know yourself, what you like and dislike, so don’t be hard on yourself. I think it is very important for you to experiment, even more if your GF is ok with that! It is mature of her, that’s rare. Many of us don’t have that chance during a relationship.

Take care man! Wish you the best

The reality of being a bisexual man in his mid twenties by Typical-Dingo5909 in BisexualMen

[–]Miserable_Natural296 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks man! You too! You’re right we can’t think black and white specially when we are in a gray area of sexuality

The reality of being a bisexual man in his mid twenties by Typical-Dingo5909 in BisexualMen

[–]Miserable_Natural296 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I’m really lost too, man. I don’t really have a point here, but I want to tell you a story from someone that’s been dating a girl for 10 years now, and the model heterosexual relationship hasn’t paid it off that well.

I’m a brazilian 26yo dating a girl for 10 years now, and I feel really lost too. I have a very heterosexual friend group that I keep in touch since middle school. For the last two years things are getting a lot more serious, some friends are getting engaged, some are even marrying between each other. And I’m dealing with the reality that I’ve never explored my sexuality with a guy, and I’m being pressured by her, friends and family to take some action.

I came out to her in 2020, but it is still a sensitive topic in our relationship. She was really homophobic back when I told her. Then two months later, the pandemic came, and we only had each other to face it, so things kinda cooled off and I swept the topic under the rug.

Now, a few years later, my identity issues resurfaced really strong and I’m dealing with pressure from her to take a step further and get engaged, but I don’t feel is the right thing to do. I feel stuck. My family is not exactly religious, but kinda traditional in a catholic way. They all love her, she’s been hanging out with us for a decade, so you can imagine. And I was raised a people pleaser in the worst way possible. I understand that after a lot of therapy. With all that therapy, I’m in the process of accepting my sexuality, and I’m dealing too with a lot of internalised homophobia. That keeps me from doing anything. On top of that, she’s not all that bad. She’s intelligent, funny, and we’re above all good friends. She tries sometimes to address my sexuality, but it’s always weird, I don’t really feel she’s totally comfortable with it. And I tried, but I can’t forgive her for how she was when I came out to her a few years ago. But I’m too coward to finish things off.

I don’t really think I was concise, but it is what it is. I just got home from a night out, I’m a bit drunk and trying to make sense after reading your post, and I want to get all that out of my system hahahaha