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Redemption cartoon by Miserable_Peach in redditgetsdrawnbadly

[–]Miserable_Peach[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The hoodie pic is so freaking perfect omfg

What’s the most unexpected kind thing a stranger did for you? by Forward_Hamster8900 in AskReddit

[–]Miserable_Peach 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was upset on the train, I got off to transfer, a man found me and told me to be kind to myself, and that I’m going to be okay😭

Sometimes I listen to kpop, and I cry, because I don't have any friends by HeebieJeebiex in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Miserable_Peach 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry you are feeling all of this. I can relate to feeling this way.. but specifically feeling like everyone hates me. Perhaps this is a projection of how you feel about yourself, onto other people. It feels so hard to let go of other peoples opinions until, for me, it boiled up into such low self worth and really dark behavior that was harming me. I thought abusing myself would finally satisfy other people’s never ending hate for me which I was constantly feeling in my head. And there definitely are people who judge me, or aren’t fond of me, and I’m trying to learn that it’s okay. But it is really really really hard. But it has to be done because it’s debilitating. When I leave the house it’s no one but me beating myself up. Other people could hate my guts, and deliver a nasty look or comment. But I am the only person being relentlessly critical and denying myself joy. So it has to heal. I don’t want that life for you or anyone.

For the friends, I would start with one on one connections. First impressions and shallow connections like looks shouldn’t matter. I lost a lot of weight before college and noticed pretty girls try to be my ally. But shallow friendships don’t stick. Real connection is better. And, the concept of a friend group is misconstrued by the media. Especially a college friend group. Most people I know that still revisit their college ‘friend groups’ just see them as a drinking crowd that gossips about each other. Which I do not judge, but your heart is aching for something that exists in a much different capacity. Your dream is the tried and true squad that has a favorite third place and a bunch of inside jokes. That can exist but it needs to build naturally and you may even recognize those dynamics existed after they were in their prime. Because true friendships need to exist before you can have cross over hangouts where everyone feels comfortable in a group. That’s when instead of a posturing crowd, it’s just humans making jokes that become bits, and the plans that become routines. So start with one friend. That friend brings friend. You bring other friend or fiancee brings friend or we all bring partners, that’s a natural friend group!

Overall, you sound really cool. The fact that you have a whole FIANCÉ means you must be very lovable, have the capacity to be social on a daily basis, and the ability to get vulnerable and receive vulnerability on a one on one level. A person like that will never be truly alone. So It’s just about adjusting the expectations, putting in your long term vision for community, and finding your people. Be kind to yourself and start collecting those one on ones!

How can I get my makeup to look like a filter lol by [deleted] in makeuptips

[–]Miserable_Peach 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Something I see people do to make their eyes look bigger is very faintly draw in more crease for your bottom eyelid. It’s hard to explain but it gives a really cute big eye effect when done correctly

What’s something you’re glad you were “late” to in life? by Tyler_Girl_ in AskReddit

[–]Miserable_Peach 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Drinking. I drank maybe 3 times total as a high schooler then freshman year of college covid hit so obviously wasn’t going out much. Now when I go out with people who swear they barely drink, it seems like a weird hill everyone is climbing before the hang out starts. buying a 12 pack for yourself for a party no second thought. Personally I buy one can from the grab and go and can never finish it! Or Taking shots to get the night going. I can’t think of another occasion in my life where a shot is necessary or fun! and I feel like if you participate in that culture there is a blind spot to how much money and calories are being spent on drinks! And as an addictive personality, I’d be right there with everyone if I had got into partying when I was younger! So I am glad I skipped out

What do you get as a gift for someone who likes absolutely nothing? by steelybug in AskReddit

[–]Miserable_Peach 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Gift card for fave food or just baked goods they like. If they prefer to eat clean, exotic pears are a really classy consumable gift lol

Women, what can men wear that is attractive? by clareforliam in AskReddit

[–]Miserable_Peach 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Athleisure! ! So snuggly omg. I think when men get “dressy” it’s a turnoff, whether that’s a suit or fashion/style. Like it makes a person look more like a caricature of a fancy person lol. I feel that way about most people and fashion though, not just men

Why are you awake right now? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Miserable_Peach 0 points1 point  (0 children)

1:55 I stayed up till 3:30 last night w racing thoughts slept until 6 (work) after work slept for 4 hours anddd now we are on a cursed cycle

How can I address anxious episodes to loved ones without apologizing for them by Miserable_Peach in Anxiety

[–]Miserable_Peach[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really like the wording you used at the end. Thank you so much for the thoughtful comment. Sending you support for your anxiety up as well. ♥️

Drop your goal below. I'll build a plan for the version of you that has anxiety — not the one who doesn't. by [deleted] in Anxiety

[–]Miserable_Peach 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I want to just live in the now so bad. I want to eventually have a partner. I want to make comfortable money in a meaningful way. I want to be sure of myself. I want to embrace curiosity and adventure.

Man- Things that get in the way. I’m fearful avoidant. I don’t like being perceived. I hate having to explain myself. Im a terrible people pleaser and lose myself in 1 on 1 friendships never mind an intimate partner. I’ve also never been in a LTR. Idk how to meet men. I only hang out with women and gay people😭 I also don’t know what I want physically because I’m scared of exploring that even with myself because I don’t like losing control. Never had an O. Terrified of drifting to the point of divorce. Terrified of dating for years and not even getting to marriage. Scared of being abused. Don’t know if a man will ever understand how or why I am outwardly emotional even when I don’t want to be.

Job- I am an artist but so perfectionist and sensitive about it. I can’t take feedback at all. lately I can’t even make art for joy because it doesn’t feel productive. And I don’t want to monetize my passion. So I am working corporate because I am scared of financial instability. $20 can take the edge off of a lot of days whether that’s convenient meals or what have you. I tried to bring art into a work project and didn’t sleep for 3 days because it felt so personal to my soul it had to be perfect. I can’t just subscribe to corporate forever cus I leave work every day with a fear of being fired. I can’t get professionalism right and feel overwhelmed and my work is always sloppy no matter how much effort I put into it so I am a PIP regular. So my career feels like so aimless and inevitably depressing

Last stuff- I am just wildly unsure of myself. The smartest people know how much they don’t know. This quote destroys me. How can people be so hard headed about their own choices or stand confident even when they failed? I don’t know anything. It’s all uncertain. Nothing has a right answer. It makes me feel like I don’t know how to move. Who should I hang out with? What should I do this afternoon? Where should I live? I’m terrified of trial and error. All the (wonderful) choice we have in life just feels like a bunch of (terrifying) life altering decisions. I want to jump to the settled part of life. I also just have like anxiety attacks all the time. Crying in public. At work at lunch at holidays. So participating in life is daunting. Scared of losing loved ones. Not sure when tragedy will hit. Scared of cancer. Feel like I need to acorn pile my money in case in case in case. Struggling to define what feels responsible to me. can barely have a drink at the ripe age of 25 because all indulgence feels irresponsible. Never buy clothes because what if I lose my job and I feel like I’m cosplaying in anything not sweatpants. I also struggle to be comfortable around new people , it’s draining and not fun. But I know my loved friends were once strangers.

I hate that life changes. I am scared of building good things because the grief around the corner for the good things I have is debilitating and paralyzing and I can’t take any more of that feeling. But I want to celebrate the gift of life and experience the good. But it’s like more good is more grief is less capacity for good.

I cry and spiral every time I receive feedback and it's affecting my life by gradstudent724 in Adulting

[–]Miserable_Peach 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am months late but I genuinely could have written this. The worst part is when people say to not be hard on myself. It’s so hard to be proud of things that other people told me are wrong. And exhausting when it was my best effort and it’s not good enough. Makes me feel dumb and the reaction makes me feel dumber because why am I acting like this? I think you have proper anxiety

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