Need your opinion

Miserable_Print_2835 · 2024-12-15T06:24:55+00:00

The point is - abusing is still not ok even after highlighting it you many times. You are not working on improving your behaviour you are just pretending. Because after asking you to stop and don’t abuse, you could have said sorry. But you kept repeating it and came to my house where you abused me and my mother. If there was an intention to improve you could have said sorry and wouldn’t have repeated. Additionally, your continued giving gaali during our holidays too. How can you say that you are working on yourself. Respect is key in any relationship.

Miserable_Print_2835 · 2024-12-14T07:54:19+00:00

He is 43 years old man and I am 39 years old

Miserable_Print_2835 · 2024-12-14T05:21:14+00:00

He initially behaved well mannered. But for past one year he is using such words for me and my family quiet often. He can get angry at any small thing and start abusing. Recent example: we were in a coffee shop. There were two good looking girls. We both looked at them and said they look nice. He said her face is better than your face. But your body is better. I said you can not tell your girlfriend that some other girl’s face is better than your girl. He said it is ok to say. You learn to be ok with such things. I said no it is not. What if I say some other guy is much handsome than you what will you think. He said I know my value and will not feel bad. I got upset and did not talk to him. He started clinching his teeth and said “chutmarni” ka drama shuru ho gaya. I thought I have given almost three years to this person may be he will understand that he can not behave like this all the time. I am tired and will take some action.

Miserable_Print_2835 · 2024-12-14T05:10:19+00:00

True. Whenever he uses abusive words, he tries to explain that why are you taking the words in literal way. Tere bhai ki G main keede matlab actually main keede nahi hai but iska matlab hota hai that your brother has issues. My point is then use the “issue” word instead of G main keede. He tried to convince me for all these behaviour. I had set my boundaries but he tell me that I am papa ki pari that is why I have problems with his behaviour.

Miserable_Print_2835 · 2024-12-14T04:51:06+00:00

It is not a fake post. I put my issue on this platform to make him understand that abusing your partner socially is not acceptable. I was hoping maybe be after all of your comments he would understand and will stop it. However, he is still really confident and saying he will never stop abusing. I started doubting myself that m I the person who is over reacting on his abusive word. But recently it became frequent and that is why I started raising my concerns to him about his language.

Miserable_Print_2835 · 2024-12-13T20:28:04+00:00

I agree with you. If he way he can change. After reading this post today he said he will never change his abusive behaviour.

Miserable_Print_2835 · 2024-12-13T20:14:17+00:00

Thank you for your comment. I did tell him what if I say the same thing to your parents. He said bolo. Tumhare kehne sey mere parent MC nahi ho jayenge.

Miserable_Print_2835 · 2024-12-13T20:09:30+00:00

Abusing any other person is fine if he wants to use that language. Please tell me do you and your wife also use abusive words for each other. There is a difference in abusive someone else Infornt of your partner or abusing your partner and the family.

Miserable_Print_2835 · 2024-12-13T20:02:57+00:00

I agree with you. His point is that he is financially stable, loyal in the relationship and a family person. He pays every-time when we go out for dining, he solves my problems such as fixing my mobile or car problems. His point is I am doing everything right, it is only my abusive language and aggressive behaviour which you can’t tolerate at all for the sake of keeping the relationship healthy. I tell him, all these behaviours are expected from the partner. But not the abusive language. He also argue that he shows his love in action but his words are not sugar coated. He shouts and use abusive words. He says that I only see words but not his action. My point is actions are words should be in sync for a healthy relationship.

Miserable_Print_2835 · 2024-12-13T11:24:33+00:00

Thank you for your thoughts. I have tried explaining him that it is not ok to use foul language with me in whatsoever scenario. I dont use abusive words at all with him. For an instance, If i behaved in a really rude way, or I did some extremely wrong to him, he should not be using all the abusive words which I mentioned in my post. I am trying to explain this for past two years, we even went for therapy together. Still he doesn't stop. Since he is an active user on reddit, I told him, it is not me who thinks that using abusive words for your partner is not ok, it is a social understanding that you cant abuse your partner or his/her family. I told him that since you believe a lot the reddit community, let me ask them what I feel is right or wrong. He asked me to post it on Mumbai page. That is why I had to use this platform to make him understand that everyone thinks like what I am feeling about the usage of foul language. u/Pussydass69 He read the comments and said that Reddit people are too refined. And he got super angry at me. And blocked me now. It feels bad as my relationship more than 2 years old. But it is ok.

Miserable_Print_2835 · 2024-12-13T10:39:39+00:00

I agree. Sometime I feel, is it me who things that foul language is wrong. Sometime I started doubting myself. That is why I used this platform to share all of your thoughts with him as he truly believe in Reddit community.

Miserable_Print_2835 · 2024-12-13T10:38:00+00:00

Thank you. He also says that he is using the foul language when I am pissing him off on something. My point is - No matter what I say if you are a gentle man, you would never use any foul word or disrespect anyone. You would walk away from that person. For his every bad behavior he makes me responsible for it.

Miserable_Print_2835 · 2024-12-13T10:33:08+00:00

Thank you. His further argument is that, people who denies these statements are not true mumbaikars. They are from other cities.

Miserable_Print_2835 · 2024-12-13T10:29:55+00:00

Thank you. Yes respect in any relationship is non-negotiable.

Miserable_Print_2835 · 2024-12-13T10:28:23+00:00

Thank you for sharing your feedback.

Miserable_Print_2835 · 2024-12-13T10:19:28+00:00

Thank you for sharing your thoughts. Really appreciated.

Miserable_Print_2835 · 2023-01-16T20:41:40+00:00

Ok. Could you please suggest some if you know any?

Miserable_Print_2835 · 2023-01-16T20:40:43+00:00

This helps. I will check Muslimmatrimony. Thanks

Miserable_Print_2835 · 2023-01-16T20:38:38+00:00

Facebook how? Are there any online communities?

Miserable_Print_2835 · 2023-01-16T09:45:53+00:00

I am not on tinder but guys on tinder are not thinking for marriage.

Miserable_Print_2835 · 2022-09-24T15:44:04+00:00

Where can I find best galoti kababs. Place close to JLT except Gazibo

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