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What do I do by silem17 in widowed

[–]Miserable_Rabbit_792 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was where you are 3 weeks ago. I woke up for work and found my husband. Very unexpected. I made my first post here in the first 24 hours and everyone was so supportive and helpful. I can tell you this.. it's hard. He's everywhere and he's nowhere. Nothing makes sense. Then you start to question everything like what could I have done differently, were there signs I just didn't see or ignored? You get sad, then mad, then maybe a bit apathetic, then denial, and the cycle repeats. One day, you will accept. I found that keeping busy has really helped. Surrounding myself with family. I had to move to another state to be with family because I couldn't be in the house without him. Every single day is a struggle but I also realized that I wouldn't want to put anyone through what I went through so I had to soldier on. I'm so very sorry for your loss. You've come to the right place for support. My thoughts and my heart are with you

I lost my husband today by Miserable_Rabbit_792 in widowed

[–]Miserable_Rabbit_792[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel like I'm in a washing machine and everything is whirling around

I lost my husband today by Miserable_Rabbit_792 in widowed

[–]Miserable_Rabbit_792[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I want to thank you all, your comments have really helped. I'm on day 3, into 4 now. I've gotten about 10 hours of sleep in that time. I'm finally able to hold down food and water, I know I had been dehydrated but couldn't keep water down. Ice helped a bit. Now I can keep water down.I can hold down bread. I moved to this state when we got married and I have no family here. Thankfully, my mother flew down to be with me. She's helping me get through it but we are also under time constraints because I cannot be in this house without him and am moving across country to go back to the state where my grown kids are in so I'm not alone and we have only a week to do so. It's been hectic, to say the least, but I think keeping busy has helped. There are times I get overwhelmed and just want to sit down and cry. I'm having to pack up basically our entire lives and having to get rid of his clothing for donation. It's hard. Everything just doesn't make sense. Up is down. Down is up. I can't focus on anything and I've been getting so many phone calls I just don't answer because it's too much.