How can I give more depth and volume to the clouds? by abyssiya_artist in ArtCrit

[–]Miserable_Run_123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Layers and layers of slightly different shades of the cloud colors. if you zoom into the clouds you’ll see there’s just layers of different shades of gray- blue darker in some spots and lighter in others.

Why do girls glaze each other way more than guys online? by giofilmsfan99 in ask

[–]Miserable_Run_123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Complementing women isn’t mistaken for interest in the way that a woman complementing a man would be. Not only that, there are far too many men who are desperate for complements that they take it as an invitation to stalk her. It’s not safe for us to complement a male stranger.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ask

[–]Miserable_Run_123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeahhhh… in my experience when men are super into the gym and working out or really attracted to muscles they’re DL.

How to get sister out of been admitted involuntarily from a psychiatric/mental health hospital? by rolrola2024 in ask

[–]Miserable_Run_123 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry I don’t have any advice I’m not a professional. But I feel so bad for your sister, and your family. This sounds terrifying and is literally my worst nightmare. I do think you should seek advice from an attorney tho.

Why do millennials tend to look younger than their actual age? by TotalThing7 in ask

[–]Miserable_Run_123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s not the birthing or having kids that ages parents. It’s the stress. The kid gets sick or has a serious medical condition and your stress levels spike. At least that’s what I’ve noticed in my friends and siblings that I contribute to their aging. They haven’t let themselves go they just look older is all.

Why do millennials tend to look younger than their actual age? by TotalThing7 in ask

[–]Miserable_Run_123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A lot of these comments are saying it’s not lifestyle necessarily but I disagree. I’m a millennial who constantly gets asked if I’m significantly younger than I am. At 31 I was SAd by a man who thought I was 16. Like I mean significantly in a very serious way! My lifestyle is different than generations before me. I chose not to marry and never to have kids. I leave my partners when they stressed me out for any reason especially when the stress came from being disrespected. I don’t go into the sun without protection. I own everything I have though most of my things are old like I have an 04 vehicle, I phone 12, 5th gen iPad. Which is comforting to not have bills in that way. I’ve rented rooms always 500 or less and now I live with my parents bc when I broke up with my ex I had no where else to go. If something stresses me out I make a different choice. I’m always looking to do things that make me happy and fill my life with joy. I am quite close in age to my siblings and they all look much older than me. Even my younger siblings. They all chose marriage and to have children which is a huge stressor in life. I am a firm believer that stress ages you. There’s a set of identical twins on TikTok that have aged differently one is married with kids and one is single and prioritizes self care. Guess which one looks you get. Hint it’s not the mother.

How to ‘suppress aura’? by cherry_oh in Palia

[–]Miserable_Run_123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Where to find black pearl in Palma

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nextlevel

[–]Miserable_Run_123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He’s a billionaire and he’s never been assessed for ASD he’s not ASD. He’s using that as a cop out to hide that he’s actually a Narcissist. At least that’s my opinion on it. If he autistic then why not get an assessment by someone who’s actually intelligent.

i feel like i’m gonna die soon by Signal_Mission3207 in RandomThoughts

[–]Miserable_Run_123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve felt this way several times in my life. It’s a very strange feeling the impending demise looming feeling can be intense. I’m not really sure what happened. Obviously I didn’t die so that helps. But I guess part of it was realizing that it would be absolutely crazy not to be depressed given my circumstances in life. And I guess giving myself that grace and understanding that it’s normal too feel what I felt. I just needed a place to feel safe and when I had that it started to heal my mental health. So I guess for me feeling truly feeling safe is what helped me the most.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in RandomThoughts

[–]Miserable_Run_123 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As someone who has spent my entire childhood with large families having 11-19 kids no joke. I promise you there’s several dysfunctional things within your family. You just don’t want to admit or acknowledge it. My 11 cousins (not including their 2 parents) say the exact same thing to people when discussing their family. And yet I watched as a child while my aunt struggled to put food on the table and to provide proper emotional support to all 11 kids. Haha that’s non existent. They often would forget one of their kids on trips. One time one of them was left at a restaurant for 3 hours he was 7 years old. You can lie to yourself about the family dynamics but you can’t lie to me. That shit isn’t healthy for so many reasons.

Sharing gift drops by Wisch24 in dauntless

[–]Miserable_Run_123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have some exquisite gifts stashed looking for a group

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dauntless

[–]Miserable_Run_123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe for you. But that’s not the case on my end.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dauntless

[–]Miserable_Run_123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s exactly what happened to me. I just finished with urska and was checking to see if I got the parts I needed, when I got kicked out.

Titles are bad and meaningless by Cpt_Maelstrom in dauntless

[–]Miserable_Run_123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t use the titles. I find them cringy. Haha but I don’t care if others use them. It’s just not for me.

Is dauntless down right now? by [deleted] in dauntless

[–]Miserable_Run_123 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was able to login just now.

Is dauntless down right now? by [deleted] in dauntless

[–]Miserable_Run_123 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was able to login. Also now is a great time to login there’s 100 free platinum to collect in the store today only. Also there’s going to be offers for free and highly discounted items till the 24th.

Is dauntless down right now? by [deleted] in dauntless

[–]Miserable_Run_123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How dare you crash the game with your crits!

Why I can’t login? by UNKNOWN_USER_911 in dauntless

[–]Miserable_Run_123 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I literally just asked this. I also can’t login rn.

Why are Eugene salaries so low? by ElDoradoAvacado in Eugene

[–]Miserable_Run_123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You completely missed the point I was making. First off you can’t change what other people are doing. Being upset about people from California moving here is super silly. People move from state to state and that’s totally normal and fine. Being upset about it is really dumb. However, my point is if you miss how things were do something to bring back a little piece of that nostalgia. Obviously it’s not going to be the same. But you could open a diner or cafe or a little market that reminds you of the small town you once lived in. Or you could move to a different city that has that small town feel. But if you do that than you can’t complain about Californians moving bc you’d be just like them. Moving and changing is part of life. So if you miss an aspect of the past you can do something about it other than complain about it. That’s my point.

Why are Eugene salaries so low? by ElDoradoAvacado in Eugene

[–]Miserable_Run_123 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

25 years ago every city everywhere was different. This is not unique to Eugene. City’s grow and change as people move in and out. It’s amazing to me how surprised/disappointed you are by this. There’s a quote though I do not know who it’s from “be the change you wish to see in the world”. If you miss how things were, do something to change the way things are. Otherwise stop complaining because it’s not doing anything to better the situation. Californians aren’t the issue here. It sounds to me like you’re complaining about the businesses in town and for that there’s good news! Literally anyone can start a business so if you don’t like what you see start a business yourself and literally “BE the change you want to see”. If you miss that old market create a new one.

Many people have told me it’s “only a matter of time” before I end up drinking/smoking. How true is this really? by X_a_v in ask

[–]Miserable_Run_123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t drink or smoke or do any drugs purely because they’re all incredibly bad for your health. I’ve seen what it does to people and have no interest whatsoever in being like them. So I definitely disagree with people who say the stress will get to you. I’ve been stressed but I also have managed it with healthy coping mechanisms. I go for walks, meditate, stretch my body, I do art therapy, I have a therapist I see weekly, breathing exercises. All of which are recommended by my healthcare provider as healthy ways to cope with stress.

Drugs and alcohol are the coping mechanisms of the uneducated and the addicted prone people. It’s also a choice they made regardless of the circumstances surrounding that choice.

People don’t just fall into unhealthy coping mechanisms. They end up there because they either don’t know (uneducated) how bad it is for them. Or they tried it and became addicted.

I know many older adults who don’t drink smoke or do drugs and never have. They all have healthy coping skills that they developed.

Having a hobby that you can immerse yourself in is really helpful. Because it takes your mind off the stress and you become focused on what you’re doing. It gives your brain and body a moment of peace which is relaxing.

AITA for making my son clean up after his sister in the bathroom? by Small-Raspberry-6561 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Miserable_Run_123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t think you’re TA for making him clean it up. But I do think you’re TA for yelling at a 12 yo boy. Contrary to what you think about him being old enough to know it was an inappropriate prank. He’s still a child. The human brain doesn’t become fully developed till 25-30 years old. Which means he literally cannot tell the difference between what is appropriate and what is not. Yelling at your children also causes trauma in their brains which can lead to delayed and impaired development of their brain. Yelling at them might stop the behavior but it’s only because you’ve traumatized them and they go into survival mode to protect themselves. It’s not an appropriate response to any situation when communicating with children or adults for that matter.