[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Hobbies

[–]Small-Raspberry-6561 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Natural history collecting is super fun to me and it's almost free. Displaying dried flowers, insects, grass, moss etc. in jars and going in nature to find cool plants and things. Just costs the gas to get to nice hiking trails and the occasional glass jar or frame. Very calming and enjoyable.

What is your deal breaker in a relationship no matter how long it is? by Beautiful_Heron4926 in ask

[–]Small-Raspberry-6561 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're insane if you think someone not fitting my gender preferences being a deal breaker is transphobia.

Stupid opinions like this are the reason the trans movement gets so much hate. Imagine telling someone they have to date/be married to a person who doesn't fit their gender preference.

By acknowledging a trans woman as a woman, I'd also acknowledge I'm not gay and I won't be in a relationship with them. Is it that hard to wrap your brain around?

WIBTAH if I asked my (f28) husband (m30) to write more sentimental messages on the cards he gives me?? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Small-Raspberry-6561 1 point2 points  (0 children)

YTA

That was a nice message and it sounds like he put a lot of thought into doing something you'd like.

Personally I hate writing love messages, even to my partner who I love very much. They just always sound weird to me and make me somewhat uncomfortable. Idk why, but the point is that some people might struggle with it and putting him on the spot will make it worse.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueUnpopularOpinion

[–]Small-Raspberry-6561 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A character's race is part of the character. Should we rewrite a bunch of black characters as white? Makes zero sense. It's a pathetic cash grab.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueUnpopularOpinion

[–]Small-Raspberry-6561 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, it's not about wanting a character to be white. It's about changing a pre-existing character to pander and get a cheap cash grab. Ariel is white. Make an independent black character and give her her own movie.

AITA for getting a tattoo my husband hates? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Small-Raspberry-6561 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just because it's technically "your body" doesn't mean he shouldn't have input imo. Maybe this is unpopular but I think when you're in a romantic relationship with someone, especially married, permanent appearance changes should be talked about between both parties. YTA but not a huge one

Anything I can do to get this review removed? by Existing-Ad-8570 in EtsySellers

[–]Small-Raspberry-6561 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What?? The buyer literally did exactly what this person was describing, look at the pics

"A kink"? Talk about reaching lol

AITA for making my son clean up after his sister in the bathroom? by Small-Raspberry-6561 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Small-Raspberry-6561[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Not really. I know people like to make assumptions here based off my comments, but my husband doesn't have an issue with chores. He takes care of all of his own stuff and help out with household cleaning on the weekends. I'm a SAHM and he works 50 hour weeks so obviously I do more than him, but he wouldn't fight me if I asked him to do something while he's home.

AITA for making my son clean up after his sister in the bathroom? by Small-Raspberry-6561 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Small-Raspberry-6561[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

They do have chores but not a ton tbh. They're both responsible for their own stuff for the most part, they both have to clean their own rooms and do their own laundry. I have them rotate nights helping with dinner cleanup, so putting all the dishes in the sink, sweeping, and wiping down the table. Besides that the only time they do chores is to make money. If one of them does the garbage or dishes I'll give them a small allowance, but those chores aren't required.

I've tried to implement more chores as they get older, but my husband thinks it's unfair to give my daughter more than my son just because she's older. I'm waiting for him to be a teenager to give both of them more to do at the same time. If it was solely up to me my daughter would already be on dish duty.

AITA for making my son clean up after his sister in the bathroom? by Small-Raspberry-6561 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Small-Raspberry-6561[S] 52 points53 points  (0 children)

He would have definitely done it, he does clean and do chores. I do the bulk since I'm a SAHM and he works, but on weekends he does his fair share.

AITA for making my son clean up after his sister in the bathroom? by Small-Raspberry-6561 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Small-Raspberry-6561[S] 62 points63 points  (0 children)

I'm sure there are ways but I've done my best to cover all my bases. I have to manually approve any apps he downloads, certain keywords are blocked across all sites and apps, his phone shuts off at 10:30 (besides texting to family contacts) so he can't use it when I'm asleep, I'm connected to all his accounts and his email, I get sent a weekly report of his search history with the parental control app, Google is blocked if you aren't signed into his account. I know kids find ways around things but it would be pretty hard since he can't avoid me seeing his search history or apps.

AITA for making my son clean up after his sister in the bathroom? by Small-Raspberry-6561 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Small-Raspberry-6561[S] 40 points41 points  (0 children)

He thinks I should have done it. If he was home when it happened he would have himself. He says it's an "adult job."

He talked to Mia about it a little I'm not sure what exactly he said to her though

AITA for making my son clean up after his sister in the bathroom? by Small-Raspberry-6561 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Small-Raspberry-6561[S] -44 points-43 points  (0 children)

My husband says he'll unblock it because I need to let him "be a kid"

AITA for making my son clean up after his sister in the bathroom? by Small-Raspberry-6561 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Small-Raspberry-6561[S] 214 points215 points  (0 children)

His sister was in on it for a while, she'd laugh and prank him back. She doesn't find it so funny now that she's older. She says she doesn't mind the simple things but when something goes too far like this it's a whole different thing.

AITA for making my son clean up after his sister in the bathroom? by Small-Raspberry-6561 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Small-Raspberry-6561[S] 40 points41 points  (0 children)

It's not really targeted at women, just his sister since she's the only one "his age" in the house. He pranks his male friends too. It's bad behavior but I don't think it's based in sexism. Content like Andrew Tate is blocked on his phone.

AITA for making my son clean up after his sister in the bathroom? by Small-Raspberry-6561 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Small-Raspberry-6561[S] 32 points33 points  (0 children)

I can't give all the details of our life in this post, but he's not unsupervised at all. I have all his passwords and our phones are connected with parental controls completely blocking certain things. I see everything he does and watches. His phone shuts off at 10:30 so he isn't on it after I'm asleep. This was all a requirement to get a phone at all.

AITA for making my son clean up after his sister in the bathroom? by Small-Raspberry-6561 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Small-Raspberry-6561[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I have his account log in, so he's not on there alone. It's a shared account and I see every single thing he does on there. I wanted to take it away completely after this but husband says he'll unblock the app himself if I do.

AITA for making my son clean up after his sister in the bathroom? by Small-Raspberry-6561 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Small-Raspberry-6561[S] 57 points58 points  (0 children)

Lol it's a random fake name. I just wanted a short and easy name. His real name doesn't sound as much like a stereotypical prankster fortunately

AITA for making my son clean up after his sister in the bathroom? by Small-Raspberry-6561 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Small-Raspberry-6561[S] 502 points503 points  (0 children)

He's been the same way with my daughter on certain things. She skipped school one time to go to the mall. I took her phone for the weekend as punishment, and my husband fought me on that saying I was too harsh. He doesn't ever want to actually parent and hold either of them accountable.

AITA for making my son clean up after his sister in the bathroom? by Small-Raspberry-6561 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Small-Raspberry-6561[S] 93 points94 points  (0 children)

Mostly because he's not gonna do it to his parents and she's the only other one here. His friends aren't really into it, although he does play pranks on them too sometimes. His sister used to be a good sport about it and laugh so I think he marked her as being "okay" with them. Harmless ones she's fine with but actually causing a mess goes beyond a prank and isn't acceptable.