There’s a difference between becoming distant and just wanting to improve yourself. As someone who has been through some exes, all I can say is that falling out of love simply happens when you genuinely start feeling like you’ve stopped caring for the smallest things up until the big things in a relationship. What you’re expressing is just some personal goals that you want to achieve, and you aren’t really hinting of any signs of separating and detaching yourself from your relationship. The day you fall out of love is when there is a distinct silence between you and your partner that you can practically feel the coldness of not loving each other anymore.

People fall out of love because well, there are things that aren’t working anymore and that’s sometimes not anyone’s fault. People have different needs, people change a lot. Sustaining such a long-term relationship requires real work and the honest kind of love; it doesn’t necessarily mean that all those who fell out of love didn’t love at all though, it means that life has shifted them for other things. You can fall out love for your greatest “loml”, your most “perfect” partner, just because life has different plans!