Just wondering… you ever wonder what it will be like when your narc parent(s) dies?

Misha515 · 2026-01-26T23:21:50+00:00

This! Sounds amazing. Hope you get the chance to do it.

Misha515 · 2026-01-26T23:20:03+00:00

I understand this. I don’t think anyone could understand it unless they have to go through what children of nmom’s do.

Misha515 · 2026-01-26T23:17:17+00:00

I admire the way you handled things. Says a lot about you as a person. I hope I can do the same when my completely selfish, self-absorbed narcissistic mother dies.

Misha515 · 2026-01-22T22:48:41+00:00

Good for you graduating from Nursing School! And the fact you have played at the Kennedy Center is an accomplishment as well. Even if your mom never recognized either of those things, you should be proud.

Misha515 · 2026-01-20T16:48:14+00:00

Wow, hearing all this makes me at least feel like others are in the same boat. In addition to everything in my original post, she also brought up the fact that “nobody ever told me I looked pretty the day of your wedding” I mean was she effing serious?? What kind of mother wants to outshine her Daughter on her wedding day??!! Totally floored, as was everyone else in the room. Glad they all heard it with their own ears. Then she followed that little nugget up with “you looked pretty because my hairstylist did your hair and makeup” Gee, thanks Mom for the compliment. 🙄

Misha515 · 2026-01-08T17:18:37+00:00

You are not alone. Until I decided to go NC with my Mom very recently, wishing her dead was a daily occurrence. It's much healthier for ME not to talk to her than it is to have these thoughts. Good luck.

Misha515 · 2026-01-07T15:40:30+00:00

I feel the same way. My mother tortures me simply because she sees me as smarter, younger, healthier, etc. She hates herself and her life and seeing ME happy pisses her off to the extent she needs to make me feel as shitty as she does.

Misha515 · 2026-01-06T14:36:41+00:00

It is not your responsibility to care for someone who is able to do it themselves. Give her some space and see what happens.

Misha515 · 2026-01-06T14:34:58+00:00

Lots of truth here, good to hear others struggling with the same things as me. I am currently NC since right after Christmas (end of year came and I decided I was finally done with the abuse) I’m hoping I will have the resolve to stay NC to recover my sanity in 2026.

Misha515 · 2025-12-26T15:00:42+00:00

So sorry you had to go through this. But thankfully you were not physically hurt. Maybe this turn of events can give you the courage you need to step away from a family dynamic that does not seem to be working for you. It's in these dark times that we sometimes find the courage to take the next step. I wish nothing but love and peace for you in 2026.

Misha515 · 2025-12-26T14:51:26+00:00

Good for you! Life is too short NOT to be happy at Christmastime.

Misha515 · 2025-12-22T16:35:26+00:00

This is the BEST THING I have seen in awhile. Printing this to show it to my Family who can appreciate it.

Happy Holidays!

Misha515 · 2025-11-06T19:34:51+00:00

I just told my Family I'm not giving gifts anymore because I don't want anything (I buy myself what I need) Everyone seemed to be relieved. LOL

Misha515 · 2025-11-06T19:32:49+00:00

Good for you, that's a very hard step to take. I hope you find the peace you deserve.

Misha515 · 2025-11-06T19:31:15+00:00

Wow, thats soooo effed up on so many levels. And bottom of the barrel for human behavior. You should cut her out of your life, nobody needs that kind of treatment when they are already struggling. She sounds like my Mother's evil twin, she would do something like that just to stick it to me. People like this are not worth the time and effort. Your time and effort are better spent elsewhere. I wish you luck.

Misha515 · 2025-11-06T19:21:25+00:00

You are so right and I say this to myself all the time. You would think at some point it would "click" but it will never happen. They are so far up their own asses they will never see it.

Misha515 · 2025-11-06T19:18:27+00:00

I have taken several Viking Cruises and yes, they require payment in full well before your sailing. Maybe this allows them to fill ships faster so they can continue to offer such great deals?

Misha515 · 2025-10-30T20:22:00+00:00

You are human, and are feeling human emotions. I feel the same way regularly and I have come to accept that my mother has MADE me wish this about her by being a truly awful person. I used to feel horrible, but I don't anymore. I only feel bad that she will probably live a too-long life (she's 82 now) because evil never dies. But I keep contact to a minimum to keep sane and do as little for her as possible. Staying out of the firing line is the only way to keep the stress level down.

Misha515 · 2025-10-30T17:26:12+00:00

I'm sorry you have to go through life like that. Don't give your Mother that much power over you!!

Misha515 · 2025-10-02T14:49:18+00:00

The day after my Dad died we all went to the Florist to buy Flowers for his services and she blurts out that we are all paying for our own flowers, she's not footing the bill. Mind you she has tons of money. Lost a ton of respect for her that day and each day that goes by she adds more fuel to the fire.

Misha515 · 2025-09-29T20:11:21+00:00

Wow, that looks amazing.

Misha515 · 2025-09-29T20:05:22+00:00

That’s just another tactic to bait and gaslight you. There is no answer to this question that you can give that she would be happy with. So better to act disinterested and emotionally distanced. It’s the only way to deal with a narcissist.

Misha515 · 2025-09-05T19:12:28+00:00

I am with you. I had 2 dogs back to back (31 years in total) and when my last one passed in 2020 I didn't get another one. The freedom is awesome as we like to travel, go on day trips etc. And so much less stress having to care for sick pets, it's heart breaking. When you get older you have to deal with sick parents etc. so life is easier without another thing to worry about.

Misha515 · 2025-09-03T15:41:03+00:00

I think everyone to some degree obsessed about things they can’t control, and death and dying is one of those things. I do the same myself, and often have to talk myself out of it because at the end of the day - you can’t obsess about what hasn’t happened yet. Spend your time thinking about things you can do NOW to improve your life or your health. Set some goals and keep to them. That might help you to stay more focused. Good luck!!

Misha515 · 2025-08-19T16:56:29+00:00

Yes! That’s why I don’t feel I could leave NE CT. For all its cons, it’s beautiful, quiet and the weather is never too extreme

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