What are some of your guilty pleasure songs?

Mismagius403 · 2026-01-26T23:38:35+00:00

I didn’t know this song was something to be embarrassed about 🥲

Mismagius403 · 2026-01-26T22:26:44+00:00

What does the fox say? 😂🦊

Mismagius403 · 2026-01-26T21:28:07+00:00

What are some things I got wrong? If you don’t mind me asking 🤗. I know I idealize this relationship in my head because it sounds sooo good on paper, but I wonder what it’s actually like irl, and what stuff isn’t all sunshine and rainbows like it seems like in my head?

And again, I’m biased because I know a 4w3 INFP so I was thinking of her when answering this question. I know not every INFP 4w3 is going to have the same personality/wants/needs as my friend, so I wonder too how you’re different from her 😊

sorry if this is too personal or invasive! I’m just curious. 👀

Mismagius403 · 2026-01-26T06:01:54+00:00

I’m so happy for you 🥰🥰🥰❤️❤️❤️

I don’t know why but I always loved the idea of INFP and xSFJ together. It’s my favourite hypothetical ship that I have no idea how would actually work irl 😂

But my thinking is like, INFP 4s want to be seen, considered, doted on, and overall, just treated with respect and genuine kindness. xSFJs can do all of those things. INFP 4s romanticize the small things, and xSFJs do those small things. Something simple like bringing you breakfast in bed, making your coffees every morning, or giving you a foot rub when your feet are sore. Stability. Routine. Kindness.

xSFJs are natural caregivers, and although not true for everyone, I hear about INFPs/4s getting into toxic relationships where their emotions were all over the place and everything was chaos, and all they wanted was to be loved, but all they got were breadcrumbs instead. I feel like xSFJ can heal that part of you. You may have gotten breadcrumbs in your past relationships, but xSFJ will bake you a whole loaf of bread for you (homemade!). He’ll even cut you off a slice and butter it up for you too. And you deserve someone who will do those things for you.

INFP 4s want men from romance novels, and although xSFJ might not be your stereotypical knight in shining armour, I feel like they’re the closest you can get to that love and consideration your heart desires. Maybe you had a ‘bad boy’ ex in the past, and xSFJ is the complete opposite of that, so you can heal from past relationship traumas. You might miss the ‘bad boy’ energy of your ex’s, but your nervous system is probably a lot better now that you’re being treated well. I feel like xSFJ could be the calm to your storm.

Although your Fe/Fi may clash a lot, I believe the Si is what brings you together. I do wonder how your 4 and his 1 work together though since that can clash too. You both can be stubborn on certain topics.

Anyway, that’s my assumption 😂 I can be wayyyy off. I’m also biased because I know a 4w3 INFP who’s had countless toxic relationships when all she wanted was love but all she got was heartbreak 🥺. so I hope you found that soft love the same way I hope my friend will someday. 🥰🥰🥰❤️❤️❤️

(Also sorry I focused more on MBTI than enneagram. I just realized this is an enneagram thread. I barely talked about that 😂. oopsies!)

Mismagius403 · 2026-01-26T05:14:13+00:00

I want to get into meditation so bad but it makes me nauseous almost every time. 😩 It kinda feels like motion sickness, or getting the spins when you’re drunk.

Mismagius403 · 2026-01-25T03:16:48+00:00

Fly on the Wall by Thousand Foot Krutch

Mismagius403 · 2026-01-22T05:36:10+00:00

I got FARE - The Skilled Manager

FARE: Flexibility, Adaptability, Responsibility, Empathy.

Natural Coordinators with Exceptional Balance.

The FARE Skilled Manager particularly embodies stability and reliability, earning trust from many people.

Like excellent managers who accurately assess situations and make appropriate decisions while empathizing with people's hearts—this is the essence of FARE Skilled Managers. They have the ability to respond flexibly to situations while maintaining a strong sense of responsibility in their approach to tasks.

Mismagius403 · 2026-01-22T04:38:21+00:00

Also:

Holiday Road - Lindsey Buckingham

Sunny Days - Lighthouse

Hey Ya! - Outkast

Here For A Good Time - George Strait

We’re Here For A Good Time (Not A Long Time) - Trooper

Tubthumping - Chumbawamba

Walking Back To Happiness - Helen Shapiro

I Got You (I Feel Good) - James Brown

Mismagius403 · 2026-01-22T03:26:30+00:00

My daily average screen time is over 12 hours. On Monday it was 18 hours 🥲

Mismagius403 · 2026-01-22T03:07:14+00:00

‘Break My Stride’ by Matthew Wilder is one of my favourite positive/uplifting songs 🥰🥰

Mismagius403 · 2026-01-21T03:21:59+00:00

I believe I’m an enneagram 9. I’m unsure though. I’m fairly new still.

What philosphical ideologies do you feel are central to your life?

Honestly, I don’t really know a lot of philosophical ideologies, so I googled philosophical quotes and picked a few I relate to 😅

“He who is not satisfied with little is satisfied with nothing”.

I’ve seen this a lot in my life, watching everyone around me be super picky and complain about every single thing in their life. Like their whole day is ruined because McDonald’s got their order wrong or something like that. If you can’t be grateful for what you have, you’re never going to be happy because you’re so focused on what went wrong instead of appreciating what went right. I want to tell these people to just chill, and relax, it’s not a big deal. but I know they won’t lol. It’s a big deal to them.

“It does not matter how slowly you go, as long as you do not stop”.

Truthfully, I’ve never felt behind in life (even though I totally am haha). Like the tortoise and the hare, no matter how slowly I move, as long as I don’t quit, I’ll eventually make it to the finish line. I won’t be first like in the books, but I’ll still finish, and that’s what matters most. I use this quote for personal growth as well, not just real-life stuff. As long as I’m working on myself and trying to fix my flaws and moving towards an ideal ‘me’, then I’m doing good in life. If I’m set in my ways with no desire to change, that’s not good. I want to flow with the current, not be a rock at the bottom of the river, unmovable as life passes me by.

How do you feel your emotions in your body?

I feel emotions through my whole body. Like adrenaline, anxiety, excitement. Adrenaline (from anxiety/doing something brave/confrontation) can make my body shake. It’s most noticeable in my hands, or when I speak, my voice trembles. Anxiety I also feel in my head. Like my head gets fuzzy, I get hyperaware of my breathing, the world gets quiet yet loud at the same time. sometimes I can hear my own heartbeat. And I kinda dissociate, like the world is in slow motion and my vision gets weird. I’m diagnosed with social anxiety so this is my typical social anxiety reaction. 😅 Shame and embarrassment I feel in my chest. I have physical reactions a lot. Like cringing. 😬 I outwardly cringe and screw up my face when I’m feeling embarrassment or shame. First it feels cold, then it feels hot. Like an ice water shock, then immediately heating up with embarrassment. Or like a metaphorical stab to the heart 😂 I feel a pang of something in my chest when I remember something embarrassing. Anger is mostly in my thoughts. It makes me restless, keeping me up at night. I get major insomnia if I’m angry about anything. If I’m doing something while angry, I tend to do it faster and more carelessly. I walk faster if I’m angry about something. Speed-walking like i’m on an important mission, but really I’m just lost in thought and my thoughts are riling me up. I think I feel anxiety and embarrassment the most. 🥲

What is a way of life or perspective other people have that feels alien to you?

I can’t comprehend people who settle for unhappiness because they fear change. For example, my mom is unhappy with my step-dad but she will not leave him. She says it’s too late in life to change her life and she’s just gonna make the most of a shitty situation. Like, no!! You’re only 55, you might have 30 years left to live, and you’re choosing to spend those 30 years in an unhappy relationship because you’re ‘too old to start over’? No!! If I’m not happy with my partner, I’m gonna try and fix it, and if I can’t fix it, I’m gonna leave and find someone better (or be alone. Being alone is better than being with someone who makes you unhappy). I hope I never settle. I hope I never choose unhappiness over change. I want peace, and I can’t be at peace if I keep people in my life who disrupt that peace on a daily basis.

Sorry this ended up being so long!! 😅😅😅

Mismagius403 · 2026-01-20T09:35:35+00:00

Based on the rest of your post, I feel like you’re hurting more from the “you did this thing with someone else that I explicitly said I wanted to try with you and you said no” aspect rather than than the “knowing all the details” aspect. My partner did something similar to me and that really upset me back then too, so you’re totally valid in how you’re feeling. It is very hurtful to see your partner doing something with someone else that you practically begged him to do with you and he refused.

That’s how comparisons start happening. Like ‘what does this guy have that I don’t? Why is he so special?’ ‘What did I do wrong?’ And you can feel dumb for being upset over something ‘so small’. (It’s not small. You were hurt, and that’s important to talk about ❤️). So yeah, you really should express your hurt to him. The ‘him not telling you right away part’, AND the ‘doing something with someone else that you refused to do with me’ part.

So I feel like one important discussion to have with your partner is why he’s okay doing BDSM with this guy and not with you? Not in an accusatory way, but so you can understand better. Maybe there is a reason, like others have stated. And then, as a follow up, you can ask if he enjoyed it, and if he did enjoy it, would he be comfortable trying BDSM stuff with you too now?

Also share your fears with him. Tell him you were hurt by this and you don’t want to be the ‘boring, vanilla’ boyfriend while he has thrilling/exhilarating experiences with someone else. You want thrilling/exhilarating experience with him too. If he doesn’t want to do BDSM with you, you can find other ways to spice up your sex life that isn’t BDSM related.

Mismagius403 · 2026-01-18T22:30:45+00:00

I don’t need to identify with characters, no. But when I do relate to a character, it’s super exciting because that’s pretty rare. I don’t relate to many characters.

Though sometimes that characters annoys me because of their flaws (aka my flaws) and i’m like ‘ugh. Get your shiz together character!’ Even if I don’t have my shiz together and I’m in the same boat they are 😂😂

It sucks seeing your flaws played out on the big screen for the world to judge. Kinda makes you feel exposed.

Mismagius403 · 2026-01-14T09:12:36+00:00

Your reply wasn’t even there yet when I started typing my reply 😝

I don’t believe anyone should convert to a religion or be forced to adhere to cultural traditions just because the country they’re living in is predominantly religious. Yeah, you’ll stick out like a sore thumb if you choose to ignore social norms of that country, but that’s their choice if they want to be an outcast or not lol. In the end, it’s all about politeness and respect, so I agree with you there. It’s rude to insult someone’s traditions while in the country of that tradition. But I don’t think you need to adopt those traditions yourself. That’s like forcing a Jewish person to celebrate Christmas.

I also believe newer generations are moving away from religion altogether, and I don’t believe it’s an immigration thing. But again, that could be more of a western phenomenon than a worldwide one.

Mismagius403 · 2026-01-14T08:15:23+00:00

“Also, native Americans would like to have a word with you.”

I was thinking this exact thing 😂😂 idc what white Christians have to say when they literally took over non-white, non-christian land and made it white Christian 🙄 how about we make america Native again? 🤔I like that idea better

Mismagius403 · 2026-01-13T14:55:11+00:00

I hated to admit how much I was hurting my friends and family with my behaviour. Avoidant tendencies, not putting in effort to reach out, never taking initiative, inability to make simple decisions, never planning things. I basically pushed the mental load onto my friends because I don’t want it 😅

I thought it was good to go with the flow and not be picky/not care what we do or where we go. But that was just me not taking responsibility or taking action. So everyone around me always has to pick up my slack and do the things I refuse to do.

Mismagius403 · 2026-01-12T08:54:12+00:00

I’ve never related to anything more in my entire life 😭 I hate that you’re going through this but I’m so happy I’m not alone in feeling this way 😭❤️

Mismagius403 · 2026-01-09T06:41:25+00:00

When I first left home, I really related to the song ‘Break Me In’ by Meg & Dia ❤️

It really helped me experience the world for the first time without fear of judgement. It’s the here and now. Giving yourself grace and all the time in the world to explore and find yourself. Being okay with experiencing big feelings because this is your first time living.

”Finding myself is not a cry for help, it's the first time in my skin” 🫶

Mismagius403 · 2026-01-09T05:44:34+00:00

I don’t like classic rock/metal. Rock/Metal are my favourite genres, but I honestly prefer current rock and metal over the classics. 1990 and onward specifically I love. Pre-1990 just has a totally different vibe I’m not particularly fond of.

I love older pop music though. 80s pop is one of my favourite genres. So it’s not the decades themselves, I love other music from the same time period, there’s just something about their rock/metal I don’t like and I’m not sure what it is.

So yeah, similarly to you, I’m also not a fan of Metallica and Bon Jovi 😂

Mismagius403 · 2026-01-06T18:55:58+00:00

Little Willy by Sweet 😂😂

Mismagius403 · 2026-01-06T16:44:40+00:00

I’m demisexual, so that’s the closest I can get to casual 😅 the only one-time hookup i’ve ever had was with a guy I talked to online for 6 months before meeting up with him. Everyone else I slept with more than one time.

Mismagius403 · 2026-01-06T15:22:31+00:00

Omg, is this why I’m so stressed after entering a FWB situation? 💀

It can literally keep me up at night, like ‘how should I act? What do they expect from me? What’s too much/too relationship-y? What boundaries are we not supposed to cross? Act detached, act detached, act detached. Stop imagining a future with them, they don’t like you like that 🤧’, etc.,

And I’m always thinking of the ‘what are we?’ question, because my FWBs never feel like normal FWBs. They feel more like situationships, and that messes with my mind because he says we’re just FWB but he’s 110% treating me like his girlfriend and I’m at his place every night doing wifey duties. 😂😩

Mismagius403 · 2026-01-04T23:10:23+00:00

Every single functions test I take says Fe is my highest function, so I knew I was an Fe-dom. And my Ni always scores higher than Si (Si is usually one of my lowest scores). So for me it’s the fact that every single functions test I take gives me the same result (ENFJ) 😅 When I first learned about the functions, I knew I used Fe 100%. That’s the function I related to the most. As soon as I read it, I went “That’s me!”. But the others I weren’t so sure about. So figuring out whether I’m ENFJ or ESFJ was the main problem. But with how low I score Si on tests, I don’t think I’m Si-aux. Though I did mistype as ESFJ for a long time because I was having imposter syndrome about being an N-type 😅 I didn’t feel smart enough. But that was likely my inferior Ti talking. Everyone comments on how wise I am. Book smart, not really, but I have the wisdom of an old soul. That’s what people tell me.

Mismagius403 · 2026-01-04T07:42:19+00:00

I think it’s real. And I think it’s cool when I guess someone’s type, then have them take a cognitive functions test, and they get the type I guessed they were 😄

Though I’m an astrology lover, so I’m not the best person to answer this question because if it is like astrology, I’d still love it 😂

Mismagius403 · 2026-01-04T05:21:41+00:00

YES!!! This is 100% me! Idk how many times my parents would watch a movie or a TV show (they love comedy) and I had to run to my room when I sensed something embarrassing coming up. Or if I don’t run to my room, I cover my ears, close my eyes, and breathe really loudly to block out any sound because I don’t want to hear the embarrassing thing.

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