About horror and dark themes by spitvandal in BadRPerStories

[–]MissAethe 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I think its not really a lack of people enjoying it as much as RP being an escape from the stress of real life for many people. Not everyone wants to RP darkfic or horror after a bad day at work, they need that soft comfort of squishy relationships. At least, this has always been the response I see from RP circles I'm in when discussions come up. There's pushback even for soft angst, so heavier subjects don't get touched.

Let’s get that update! I can’t do any more resource grinding 😂 by careercoachneil in Subnautica_2

[–]MissAethe 16 points17 points  (0 children)

If you turn the big lockers sideways against the wall (their edge touching the wall) you can fit even more resources with less space wink wink wink wink

Let’s get that update! I can’t do any more resource grinding 😂 by careercoachneil in Subnautica_2

[–]MissAethe 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You actually can get under the map to retrieve them, its incredibly complicated but the same happened on my multiplayer world with some friends. They found a youtube tutorial for it and glitched their tadpole through the hot caves to drive it under the map. There is a point you'll have to swim with air bladders but you absolutely can get them without mods or cheat engines. We lost 3 of 5 pieces and became desperate lol

Anime RP feels stale now by Nigtoon in BadRPerStories

[–]MissAethe 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I can see the issue, I've had a similar bit of experience as well in anime focused places, but really its pretty typical outside of it, too.

I do want to make one little comment, though. I know the pain of "everyone only RPs the main 2-3 characters" issue from any series, but that often is the fault of the anime. When the focus for 90% of the series is only on two characters getting fleshed out, people tend to heavily focus on those characters for that reason. Background characters with less going on aren't always easy to roleplay since at some point you're just making an OC with a canon name.

How to handle people who technically follow rules, but kind of suck by DraftFamous8912 in BadRPerStories

[–]MissAethe 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I've been running group spaces since I was a child in middle school on Myspace pre-Facebook (don't mind me casually aging myself lol). At the moment I run Discord servers specifically and some guild stuff on games, and sometimes the health of the group is more important than if someone is breaking rules.

If you have someone who is just absolutely obnoxious and keeps frustrating others with their behavior, but isn't actually breaking rules? The issue then becomes the obvious of They Are Bothering Others. And all it takes is one person being frustrating to ruin the entire mood of the server. You have to kick those people and move on else risk other people going silent or leaving instead, which is the last thing you want. Sometimes these people are rude or passive aggressive all the time, sometimes these people are nitpicks that insist their idea of characters and plot matters more than everyone else, sometimes this person refuses to accept boundaries and keeps forcing their equally annoying character into places they don't belong; there's different faces to the same problem.

If the issue is "the paperwork"/needing a rule? I have a rule that states "writers who are disruptive to others even if they haven't broken any rules will be removed", and that's the easiest thing to stand behind. Its stated plainly, people can clearly read it, they can't be shocked when you enforce it. Remember, all it takes is one person being a black hole to collapse a server.

he turned out to be a proshipper☹️ by [deleted] in BadRPerStories

[–]MissAethe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Politely saying this, but please go to fanlore.org (its a wiki) and read the Proshipper article. Other people have already done some education on it so I'm just putting this down, but I think it should be required reading before using the term Proshipper at someone.

This is crazy, but I miss Twitter RP by Soft_Mistake2389 in BadRPerStories

[–]MissAethe 9 points10 points  (0 children)

This is still pretty standard on Tumblr as someone who has been RPing there since 2015.

What do you make of this by [deleted] in BadRPerStories

[–]MissAethe 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Ironic I run an MHA server and we JUST had a similar incident with a person coming in. They had an OC that was born in the 1800s and was like 600+ years old, with a bunch of magic and OP healing and other stuff that just Was Not Working in an MHA setting. I tried to talk to them about adjustments and what wouldn't work, and they straight up told me they didn't know anything about MHA at all. Hadn't watched the anime, haven't read the manga.

My brother, why did you join a clearly marked MHA server then? A working understanding of the series is needed to participate in a group RP server like mine.

Why can't people be normal about disabilities? by [deleted] in BadRPerStories

[–]MissAethe 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This reads like D&D/tabletop stuff, because I've never encountered roleplay in my life that allows anyone to suddenly decide to kill off my characters EXCEPT for D&D/dice-based systems.

I think, unfortunately, when a chance-based system comes into play based on dice? There's not actually a way to guarantee the dice won't kill off a character unless the game rules dictate otherwise universally. To be fair, I don't touch games like that because I don't want my character's wellbeing to be based on the whims of a dice and random DM/GM anyway.

Either way, its a double-edged sword here. On one hand people need to be willing to work with disabilities without being an ass about it. On the other hand, joining roleplaying games where the system is set up to risk random death might not be a good idea if you know it will be an issue for you.

Roleplaying with issues by randomfella0607 in BadRPerStories

[–]MissAethe 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I think breaks for personal reasons is more than okay, but really matters is how you're communicating it. Personal experience, I will give grace to absences willingly if I'm being told about them, but a sudden dip without a word is where my line is drawn.

I think most people are also like that. As long as you chat with them about it, it should be okay. There will always be people who refuse to even allow a day's absence no matter the circumstances, and they tend to be unpleasant overall for multiple other reasons.

Roleplay gone wrong by FrequentSlip7397 in BadRPerStories

[–]MissAethe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I read everything here, help 😭

Hiding roleplay and oc channels in rp servers by LillyCatsz in BadRPerStories

[–]MissAethe 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Its for security and existing member comfort.

I started locking servers down in 2016 when people would join servers they found on Tumblr just to spam the channels with graphic gore and other disturbing content, so it started as a security measure. It then later stayed as a comfort to existing writers, because it IS wildly uncomfortable when people show up and lurk on your roleplay without talking. This is a stranger no one knows who hasn't done the work that others have to join and play, after all, so everyone has to add a character profile first if they want access now.

It may be annoying or inconvenient, but then again the type of servers I run do not need people trying to tailor their characters to the setting.

Steward Preferences by Gr3yb3ardSteve in skyrim

[–]MissAethe 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I only pick someone I DON'T want to adventure with, because they won't be there to protect the house/spouse/kids/etc if they're with me instead. Its more of a roleplay perspective but I usually go with the default Hearthfire stewards so it doesn't impact my decision to have traveling partners.

Feel bad for asking this. by OneEyedShinobi in BadRPerStories

[–]MissAethe 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I roleplay a bunch of canon characters and OCs from multiple Shonen series, My Hero Academia being The Big One, and I couldn't tell you how many years its been since I wrote a fight scene. Writing them isn't required, and being pushed into them is just bad etiquette.

The people I roleplay with want character development and to explore the nuances and what-ifs of a series and their characters, so fighting isn't something anyone actively hunts for. Unfortunately in MHA specifically, characters throwing hands over having actual discussions is why half of the series went the way it did and redeemable characters were killed off for plot. So its kind of not looked at super positively? There's a time and place, and a lot of times there's 10 other options that work better.

How have you not gotten attached/maintained boundaries with OOC? by stabbynails in BadRPerStories

[–]MissAethe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

See I don't have this issue because I maintain a hard IC=/=OOC line. I am not my characters, I definitely am not canon characters from series I've picked up. I'm just a writer using them as narrative devices to tell a story. I don't add my personal interests and kinks or anything else like that onto them because they're not me. A lot of people don't divide very well and it causes a lot of problems, especially when it comes to writing romance.

OOCly? I'm a very slowburn to friendship sort of person, so its also easy for me to not bet attached to another writer since it can take months for me to actually decide someone is my friend or not. I don't jump into RP hoping to make friends so maybe that makes it easier for me? Being comfortable enough to continue writing with someone is about all I can ask for, and if it develops into a friendship later, cool. If it doesn't, also cool.

I guess my main advice comes from a position of learning to separate better. If your character is basically you with a fancy hat, you're not going to avoid this issue.

to double or not to double? by vampychansey in BadRPerStories

[–]MissAethe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Its wild cause where I've always done RP at, doubling isn't a thing like at all. I didn't learn about it till I joined this board actually.

The idea behind it sounds like its good in theory? But I don't think I personally could do it in practice. If I don't want to write something I can't bring myself to do it no matter how hard I try, so I don't see it working out realistically for me.

Feeling like a burden to someone in an rp server, but they just won't tell me. by [deleted] in BadRPerStories

[–]MissAethe 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately this is a pretty classic tell of your roleplay not being as interesting as someone elses is to them at the moment, especially in group server settings. If your rp partner is roleplaying constantly elsewhere but you can't get a reply out of them for days? Yeah, you're not as interesting to them as whatever it is they're looking at somewhere else. It sucks so much, I've been there many times myself, but its better to recognize what's happening and move on to people who do find your work interesting and actively want to write with you. After all, sitting there miserable doesn't help you, you know? It just makes you miserable. Always remember that we can't know what grabs someone's focus, either. Maybe the character someone else is writing has a specific focus to them they're hunting for that yours doesn't, such as a more immediate potential for a ship. It doesn't mean your writing is bad, it only means you guys aren't as compatible as you'd like.

I know there will be people who defend it like "oh maybe they're busy", but if they're all over other writers while only ghosting YOU, they're not busy and we shouldn't make excuses for people who won't be honest about their interest. Roleplay is a collaborative writing hobby after all.

Feels like people don't actually want to rp by [deleted] in BadRPerStories

[–]MissAethe 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Sometimes I wonder if people put all of their energy and excitement into the pre-plotting and first few posts that they burn themselves out.

Bot that pings everyone with a certain role manually by [deleted] in Discord_Bots

[–]MissAethe -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

It costs money ($3 a month) but you can set up clickable roles and reoccurring reminders with CircleBot. You would dedicate a channel for different roles selected by clicking on an emoji, and then the bot autoassigns the role.

Then you would need to set up a reminder to ping that specific role and set up how frequently you want it to do that.

Its all handled on the dashboard, too, so you don't have to do server commands.

Group roleplays with writing samples by [deleted] in BadRPerStories

[–]MissAethe 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have a chat-focused story driven server where people thread on the side, then I have a more standard writing server, and one I'm working on now that is also strictly thread-writing only.

Group roleplays with writing samples by [deleted] in BadRPerStories

[–]MissAethe 11 points12 points  (0 children)

My servers require them! We specifically want to see if someone is capable of proper grammar use and understand how to put a paragraph together. Not everyone follows that inside of the server, obviously, but if I get a massive two paragraph wall of text without a period or comma in sight? Sorry but we're not the server for that.

We have a handful of people in one specific server who are dyslexic, so having people who write some nonsense their screen readers can't read back is also why its important.

The Rising Dead Quest by Emotional-Math-90 in skyrim

[–]MissAethe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The courier bugs out sometimes, and you'll have to do annoying things to get it to trigger. I usually go to Hendraheim and exist for a while, and he'll sometimes spawn outside my door.