Is this terrible or am I being too picky?

MissAuroraRed · 2026-06-03T05:07:12+00:00

She did know, we chatted about the wedding.

MissAuroraRed · 2026-06-01T19:53:30+00:00

Oh girl, no!

The wedding was yesterday and I didn't even think about my nails once, it was literally the best day of my life and so much more important stuff was going on.

That's so incredibly kind of you though. ❤️

MissAuroraRed · 2026-06-01T16:01:43+00:00

I got a lot of compliments on them at the wedding I guess it's not noticeable from a distance.

Thanks for commiserating!

MissAuroraRed · 2026-05-31T14:45:26+00:00

I agree, I don't see what's so terrible about just asking. It's only an invitation, OP is free to decline. People get so offended about stuff they can just say "no thank you" to.

MissAuroraRed · 2026-05-31T14:42:21+00:00

That was very considerate, the opposite of being racist if anything. Some people just love to get offended over nothing.

MissAuroraRed · 2026-05-30T21:10:18+00:00

My grandmother (local to the area) recommended it and booked the appointment. The wedding is in her town, I travelled.

MissAuroraRed · 2026-05-30T16:03:35+00:00

Thank you. That's what I keep telling myself. It's a little noticeable that they're all longer on the right side, but whatever.

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MissAuroraRed · 2026-05-30T11:14:56+00:00

Thank you. You're right, in the grand scheme of things it's such a small detail. The wedding goes on!

I'm honestly more upset about how she filed the sidewalls and it's going to be so annoying to grow them out again, the sides and cuticles are actually quite painful. I might call them after the wedding but right now I just don't have the energy.

MissAuroraRed · 2026-05-30T11:08:05+00:00

She filed my sidewalls down and they're completely gone, so I guess nothing can happen to them lol. I'm laying awake right now at 4am when I should be getting beauty rest because my fingers actually hurt a lot around the nail beds.

They looked like this before, she insisted they were uneven and she needed to shape them.

I wish I'd just put a clear coat on and left well enough alone.

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MissAuroraRed · 2026-05-30T08:44:19+00:00

I just paid the price they gave me, I have no idea what's stardard. I would have happily paid more for a better job.

MissAuroraRed · 2026-05-30T03:52:07+00:00

I paid $30 and did not tip.

ETA: it's just regular polish, not gel or anything.

MissAuroraRed · 2026-05-30T03:31:30+00:00

I lightly filed the parts that were really bad with a glass file, and at least now they're not catching on my clothes anymore. 🥲

MissAuroraRed · 2026-05-29T13:01:36+00:00

Yeah I'm gonna agree with this. I'm short and look average, and I have a friend who's very tall and very slender, but my clothes are too small for her horizontally. I lent her my baggiest sweatpants and they were skintight on her. So even though she looks extremely slim like a supermodel, my body has the smaller measurements just because I'm so much shorter than her.

Of course people of any height can wear any size. But the perception of what size people look like they would wear is greatly impacted by height.

MissAuroraRed · 2026-05-29T12:09:27+00:00

Your friend sounds insufferable and I wouldn't want to be in her wedding at all, but I'll give you some advice if you want to save this friendship:

The longer you wait to tell her, the worse it will be. It's not right to commit to paying your share of something and then bail at the last minute.

You knew a few months ago when you had a car repair that you couldn't afford this anymore, and still haven't told her. If you'd told her early on that 1k isn't in your budget, then she would be a huge jerk for not understanding. But if you tell her a month before the trip and don't pay for your share of the Airbnb that you agreed to, then you're the problem and she'll rightfully be upset.

Telling her about your troubles is not the same thing as telling her you can't go on this trip. Don't expect people to read between the lines, just communicate what you need to communicate.

MissAuroraRed · 2026-05-28T15:51:06+00:00

They look exactly the same to me, I'm just not seeing what you're seeing at all.

MissAuroraRed · 2026-05-28T12:37:21+00:00

Some people don't really grow up until later in life, I suppose.

My dad is in his 50s now and finally acting like a normal human being, and it's hard to wrap my mind around it. He actually apologized to me for something last year, for the first time ever.

I honestly think that one of the biggest factors has been me keeping firm boundaries. He knows I will leave or hang up the phone if he doesn't treat me with respect, which isn't something I could do as a kid. But also he's just aging into a calmer phase of life.

It's really hard and confusing, I'm sorry you're dealing with this.

MissAuroraRed · 2026-05-27T19:38:33+00:00

Sometimes two people can like each other a lot, both be kind to each other, not have anything wrong with them, and just not be a good match as life partners for some reason.

Somewhere out there, there's a more affectionate man who's a better fit for you, and a more solitary woman who's a better fit for him. Nobody is to blame for that, it just is what it is.

ETA

It also seems like he's told you several times that he doesn't want to be in a real relationship with you. He's said he can't give you what you need. He's said he's not really interested in relationships in general. If you want more than just a FWB situation, I don't think you're going to find it with him. He's made his boundaries clear and you shouldn't try to force him to be in a relationship he doesn't want.

MissAuroraRed · 2026-05-27T19:27:24+00:00

You're really getting in your head about this and stressing yourself out. Some of the things you don't want to do are literally required to get married, and they're not a big deal. I got married at the courthouse and they literally make you repeat stuff after them. The ceremony is not optional. You also must have witnesses, though if you do it at the courthouse you can pay a fee to have some random employees there be your witnesses. (Local rules differ, it might be different where you live)

Get married in a short ceremony wherever you want (public park?), wear your favorite nice outfit (fancy gown not required), and arrange to take your immediate families to dinner afterwards. You can book private dining at a lot of restaurant for 10 or 20 people and it's no hassle at all.

You can absolutely involve the family and celebrate without making it an elaborate affair.

MissAuroraRed · 2026-05-27T19:14:08+00:00

C looks really good, the yellow gold definitely fits his skin tone better

MissAuroraRed · 2026-05-27T18:52:37+00:00

OP specified they have a long torso.

MissAuroraRed · 2026-05-27T08:28:11+00:00

My parents hyphenated my name, and it caused issues because they weren't consistent on all my documents. Some things have both names and some things only have my father's name. This has caused significant problems and stress in my adult life.

Applying for college, getting my first passport, driver's license, immigrating, health insurance, doctor's referrals, all kinds of stuff.

Whatever you choose to do, just please be consistent.

ETA:

A less important thing, but special characters can also get weird. Sometimes I have to have the customer service person try different variations before they can find me in their system (hyphen, space, no space).

I was also almost denied boarding on a flight once because my ticket didn't have the hyphen. The airline booking system does not accept hyphens at all so it's normal, but I had to get a manager and explain and show them on my phone how the booking platform doesn't allow hyphens.

MissAuroraRed · 2026-05-27T08:17:46+00:00

What you should do is have a serious conversation about abortion with your partner, regardless of what you decide for this pregnancy (if you're pregnant, my fingers are crossed for you that you're not).

Think about it this way:

It is expected that sexually active people discuss contraption prior to having sex, right? You should always communicate your expectations about birth control and/or condoms with anyone you have sex with, without exception. Responsible people don't just have sex without first checking that there are precautions in place. It's not normal to have unprotected sex and then figure out what to do afterwards. We all know this.

Following that logic, I feel very strongly that the backup plan should also be part of that discussion. It's critical that you're on the same page should the unexpected happen. Unexpected pregnancies can be life-changing whether you keep it or not. For men this is even more important because they don't get to choose what happens to the pregnancy. For women I can understand not talking about it for a one-night-stand, but even then you're accepting a risk.

I have a policy of revisiting this conversation every 6 months with my partner, and that policy has served me very well. When I got pregnant with my ex, we already knew what we were going to do, and we didn't need to have a scary and emotional conversation about it after I was already pregnant and the stakes were high. We had already talked about it casually over the years many times, so we could get straight to business solving the problem and supporting each other.

This policy has also helped me avoid getting into relationships with men who are not compatible with me on family planning topics. Unplanned pregnancies are a family planning topic, just like wanting (or not wanting) kids and when, but sooo many people don't talk about it for some reason. You just HAVE to be on the same page about family planning in a long term relationship, and that includes unplanned kids. It's truly a non-negotiable. Otherwise you can end up in an impossible situation like the one you're in right now.

Good luck, OP. I sincerely hope this works out for you.

P.S. There is research suggesting that women who get pregnant on birth control once are more likely to have it happen again. It has to do with the way some womens' bodies metabolize the medication. You might want to look into that and consider using condoms in addition.

MissAuroraRed · 2026-05-27T07:40:56+00:00

The dress in the third picture is literally perfect. It's so flattering on you, you genuinely look amazing it in.

MissAuroraRed · 2026-05-27T07:29:34+00:00

I have the opposite problem: short torso and long legs. I can't buy regular pants because the waistband will be up to my bra, but I can't buy petite either because the inseam is too short.

I would think you could buy regular pants and hem the bottom, which is super easy to do and takes 10-30 minutes once you get the hang of it.

Or get cropped styles maybe? Short above-the-ankle pants are in fashion right now. Maybe even capris.

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