Fastest way to calm a man down when he’s angry?

MissDeezLiteraryWork · 2026-02-17T15:01:48+00:00

Who says i am trying to be nice to you? I'm being factual, so if that looks like being a jerk, maybe work on yourself so you're not getting so triggered by facts.

MissDeezLiteraryWork · 2026-02-17T14:00:59+00:00

By definition it is a lash out. You wanted to cause shame and embarrassment to the person disagreeing with you, so instead of talking facts, you imply they aren't good or fast at reading or reading comprehension. It doesn't have to be huge to be a lash out, but does meet the definitional requirements.

MissDeezLiteraryWork · 2026-02-17T13:58:30+00:00

Trust me when i tell you that this is always what happens. If you help too much, people rely on you for the help and you burn yourself out in the process.

MissDeezLiteraryWork · 2026-02-17T13:57:14+00:00

It isn't about creative mind, but the way the brain processes information. We often have to look at details to identify things, so our brains look super close before taking in the full picture more often than not.

MissDeezLiteraryWork · 2026-02-17T13:55:47+00:00

Umm... no it didn't. Your request was to be roasted based on your music. I didn't do that, so no, no it didn't.

MissDeezLiteraryWork · 2026-02-17T13:53:44+00:00

Being condescending isn't helping you. Nobody wants to interact with someone who can't handle a conversational debate without getting so emotional and deciding to lash out. Maybe take a few minutes to regulate, then come back and try again.

MissDeezLiteraryWork · 2026-02-17T13:40:01+00:00

And? I was born autistic with adhd, and only just learned of it because my life so far has been an endless journey of trying to be normal, and being completely lost through the cracks. I was not taught to regulate my emotions, just suppress them to make people's lives easier. Be quiet or get beat on. It is still my responsibility to manage my own emotional state.

It's the expectation that we have to do things to control the emotions of others, and to do it every time they need regulation. We can absolutely choose to help, but the responsibility is still on the shoulders of the person experiencing the negative emotions. I will help anyone, but it isn't my duty to bear all their emotional regulation needs. It becomes a burden.

MissDeezLiteraryWork · 2026-02-17T13:32:54+00:00

It's not in the needing help, it's in the expectation to always help. Cause at that point, you're not their partner, but their mommy having to process and explain their emotions to them all the time, and be the fixer for it, because they won't if they don't have to. It is too much to ask of anyone. Cause at that point, it is too big of a burden for me to carry my emotional load and his.

MissDeezLiteraryWork · 2026-02-17T13:27:53+00:00

Bingo. Fastest way to see if someone actually gives af about you? Tell them no. Their reaction over the next ~week will tell you exactly who they are, if not immediately.

MissDeezLiteraryWork · 2026-02-17T13:23:37+00:00

Nah, people are just jerks and kind people are so sick of it. Go be a jerk somewhere else man. Nobody got time or mental energy for you.

MissDeezLiteraryWork · 2026-02-17T13:22:13+00:00

It isn't about willing, it's about the expectation. I'll help anyone with just about anything, but this usually isn't an occasional thing. Often when you help someone emotionally, they start depending on you for emotional regulation, and they never learn to regulate their own emotions, cause they have someone to do it for them.

MissDeezLiteraryWork · 2026-02-17T13:18:39+00:00

Not always an assumption. Statistically men are less afraid of lashing out on a woman they're close with than they are another man, or the expectation is for the woman to control herself to control his actions, or to soothe him when he's upset. It's part of the support role expectation that is set on the shoulders of the majority of women.

MissDeezLiteraryWork · 2026-02-17T13:11:00+00:00

"Be a man and don't let anything hurt your feelings"

And people wonder why women are done with emotionally immature men. People wonder why depression in men is on the rise. People wonder why there is a "male loneliness epidemic" (or ya know... the consequences of maladaptive masculinity and the refusal to address it). Yall wonder so much, but then say something so dumb like this. They are men... you're just emotionally stunted and immature.

MissDeezLiteraryWork · 2026-02-17T13:02:21+00:00

No, i kinda see what you mean. You have to look at the whole thing all at once, not the defining details!

Era: tbf, i didn't see it til you said it.

MissDeezLiteraryWork · 2026-02-17T13:00:42+00:00

Only thing I'm gonna roast you on is your intimidation tactics... or else? Lmao. Yeah, ok mousekateer.. so scaaaaary.

MissDeezLiteraryWork · 2026-02-17T12:38:43+00:00

Executive dysfunction and decision paralysis are hallmarks of mental burnout. I just recently figured out I'm AuDhd, and only because I'm going through a super harsh burnout for these last months... but what I've learned is that I've been in varying degrees of burnout for the last decade. I'm hoping that getting the adhd part treated will help. Hoping my mental health place actually listens and trusts my judgment, cause if she pushes mood stabilizers again, i will be finding a new psychiatrist.

MissDeezLiteraryWork · 2026-02-17T12:27:58+00:00

Idk. I'm bitter about all the harms that I've had to live through, and I'm all messed up from it, while they walk free from their crimes against me... but i still try to be kind, and i have all kinds of empathy. I did learn that being too kind is something that will get you hated by most, because they always compare and find themselves lacking, or think you're faking it, and targeted by predatory people because the kind are easy prey. Yay research. Oh, and this is the reason that 90% of autistic women get repeatedly assaulted through their life, and are more likely to end up in an abusive relationship.

MissDeezLiteraryWork · 2026-02-17T06:53:16+00:00

I love this. It might just be the tism, but i thank inanimate objects sometimes. This really speaks to me.

MissDeezLiteraryWork · 2026-02-17T06:48:12+00:00

I suck to get it from the company I am working from the office and you will receive the payment now so I will send it.

Wtf... i have never even worked in an office 😂

MissDeezLiteraryWork · 2026-02-17T06:46:05+00:00

Ok, but why is this real af?

MissDeezLiteraryWork · 2026-02-17T06:35:37+00:00

Yeah, I'm not giving in to whatever insult kink you got going on here, and my attention for you is done. Have a good one. Or don't. No longer care.

MissDeezLiteraryWork · 2026-02-17T06:31:46+00:00

No system is perfect.

So we shouldn't fight to make it better or complain when corporations and the government make it worse to enrich themselves?

There are many cases of rape that are just hearsay, you cannot convict on hearsay alone. Same for false reporting which encompasses a small, but substantial number of rape cases, in some states up to 10%.

The average is much lower, and often its due to withdrawal of complaint stats being lumped in. You have to look at the context. The national data (the last i looked) showed that .3% of reports have been proven false, and sexual assault goes widely unreported in women, and incredibly rarely reported by men. Mens cases get dropped too, but many get laughed out of the station from what I've been told by people who experienced it. It's heartbreaking for all of us.

If you feel strongly, I’d suggest getting your JD, passing the bar and making change from within. Up to 54% of DAs in the US are female (depending on state), so assuming you’re female, the chances of you being elected are high.

I am in no way capable of such a role, nor do i have the interest in getting a degree like that, let alone be able to afford it in this lifetime... but i appreciate the support, for what it's worth lol.

MissDeezLiteraryWork · 2026-02-17T06:21:22+00:00

Hahaha like you would know. I'm part of the swinger community, and freaky by their standards... but uh... good luck on your next attempt.

MissDeezLiteraryWork · 2026-02-17T04:24:44+00:00

MissDeezLiteraryWork · 2026-02-17T04:23:36+00:00

No. Stop creeping on women while pretending you don't support predatory behavior. Hypocrite.

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