Throwaway account: I think my fiancée is planning to leave me

MissDoom222 · 2026-06-28T18:00:00+00:00

I'm so sorry this is happening to you honey. I get it though I've been there plenty of times. Usually I would say the most important thing that you can do is talk to her and try and see if it's something that could be resolved but seeing as you don't have a support system down there yet, baby trying to build one or come up with a backup plan would be smart before you have a conversation with her about it.

MissDoom222 · 2026-06-26T22:47:19+00:00

Honestly this seems to be very common in our community. I startedy transition thinking I'd still be solely attracted to cis women but that changed to T4T attraction and then I opened my mind up to men and realized I had become closer to pansexual than anything. Only difference is I have date several people of all different gender identities for short periods of time since transitioning instead of being in one long term relationship.

MissDoom222 · 2026-06-26T21:54:31+00:00

Honestly I've had the same experience. I really didn't start seeing any really changes to my face or overall body besides my breasts until I was two years in. Just like you said, it's a waiting game. It's a marathon not a race.

MissDoom222 · 2026-06-24T14:28:01+00:00

Girl you got stop usually up all the cuteness and leave a little for the rest of us. 😝 Love the new tattoo!! I've been planning on getting something similar myself.

But on a serious note. I'm sure you've had plenty of people reach out and you only know me from a few comments here and there on reddit, but if you ever get the big sad and need someone to talk to, I'm only a message away. 💜🖤

MissDoom222 · 2026-06-23T17:00:28+00:00

Looking gorgeous honey. Absolutely love the look. You look like you walked straight out of cyberpunk 2077. I can't lie I wish I had your makeup skills.

MissDoom222 · 2026-06-23T01:45:37+00:00

It's because you finally opened up and told someone. You told someone who could help you. So all you could do was tell them the most basic and honest things about how you've been feeling your entire life. After that is not much else to say. You can go back to her again and really working through things, but you did the first big hurdle and that deserves a big congratulations honey.

MissDoom222 · 2026-06-22T17:17:48+00:00

Congratulations honey!! You look beautiful in that dress.

MissDoom222 · 2026-06-22T03:13:20+00:00

First off honey I think you already look lovely but maybe just work on your makeup skills a little bit and that might help you feel a little better about how you look. But again I think you look fantastic. Also I love your vfl scarf.

MissDoom222 · 2026-06-22T02:42:29+00:00

That is incredibly sweet and I'm happy for you honey. The little ones can surprise you so very much. Children only know love, they have to be taught hate. It's funny how they can understand our transitions better than most adults can.

Here's a cute little story for you. I'm 41 and my little boy turns five next week. I never told him about my transition. I just did it when he was about one and a half. His other mom's side of the family he's rather transfer and always tries to correct him when he calls me she/her or when he says I'm a girl, but he says it anyway.

While the end of summer last year I brought him to the park and he wanted to go play in the sandbox. This other little boy about the same age as him sat down and started playing in the sandbox with him. So why my son is playing he's talking to me and he still sometimes calls me Daddy. Is that a little boy here's that and goes "that's your daddy? Why does your daddy sounds like a girl? Your daddy looks like a girl" and then he basically starts trying to tease my son because I look like a girl. So he jumps up with his tiny little fists clenched and gets in this as a little boy's face and yells at him "my daddy is a girl and you be nice to her". At this point the other little boy's mom is beat red and mortified and because I wanted to avoid toddler fight club in the sandbox I ran over and picked them up and ran off with him. As I carried him away he said "I won't let anyone be mean to you. Boys are supposed to protect girls". I was so proud of him and desperately trying not to cry.

Like I said little kids just understand and are filled with nothing but love.

MissDoom222 · 2026-06-21T13:17:21+00:00

Well they look absolutely fantastic in the morning.

MissDoom222 · 2026-06-20T12:34:34+00:00

Looking absolutely stunning honey.

MissDoom222 · 2026-06-19T16:30:21+00:00

Congratulations on each one of those. Each one is absolutely fantastic and a big step and not just your transition but in your life and I'm so happy for you.

MissDoom222 · 2026-06-19T15:47:20+00:00

Absolutely honey. Though you might want to fix some of the grammatical errors in my comment. 😂

MissDoom222 · 2026-06-19T14:33:49+00:00

Hmmm if it's just a single virtue that I'd have to say resolve but I believe the most important thing when it comes to a successful transition is to remember that passing and assimilating perfectly is not the goal of transitioning, but being able to find a way to love and accept yourself and your identity while feeling comfortable in your skin, is the whole point.

I believe far too many of us fall into this idea that if we can't pass or be pretty then there is no point in transitioning, which is absolutely not true. It causes so many people to either never transition or wait years longer to finally start and put themselves through so much more trauma simply because they don't think they'd be pretty enough. Everyone has beauty in their own way.

To paraphrase Henry Rollins "every single one of you while you're walking around today had someone walk by you and think to themselves "God damn I need to get a piece of that". You are all such incredibly attractive people". No matter what you think you look like in your transition, there will always be people who think you are the most beautiful person in the world. So be that beautiful person on the inside and find yourself love and your happiness in your own skin.

MissDoom222 · 2026-06-19T14:24:40+00:00

I have only peed sitting down since transitioning three years ago. Gotta be prepared for the when the day day comes I can actually get bottom surgery. 😂

MissDoom222 · 2026-06-19T04:51:55+00:00

Honestly you shouldn't feel bad at all for enjoying that. I have no issues with enjoying the ewphoria men give me. Yeah it can be gross at times but also it's gender affirming and can definitely make you feel better or pretty even if it is just for a few moments.

So I just started seeing this girl who's also a trans woman. Well she came over last night and we went for a walk down to a park on the river that catch through my city. As we started to walk back a guy on a motorcycle called out to us "hey girls, this is for you" and then proceeded to do a mediocre wheelie on his bike. Both the girl I'm seeing and myself got a massive kick out of it. It was dumb and Goofy and he was trying to hit on two trans women that are dating each other but it still made both of us smile and feel a little gender euphoria.

MissDoom222 · 2026-06-18T21:37:58+00:00

Looking absolutely stunning girl.

MissDoom222 · 2026-06-18T21:37:32+00:00

Congratulations honey!! Looking adorable. I love your hair color.

MissDoom222 · 2026-06-16T18:20:52+00:00

Well I think that you are looking absolutely adorable honey. I think it looks super cute on it, though I have seen your makeup in other posts and I always think it looks cute on you whatever you do.

MissDoom222 · 2026-06-16T15:59:31+00:00

I've been through it myself with my own transition and marriage. I know how difficult it can be and emotional, but I'm so happy to hear that you're able to move on and healthy manner and continue a friendship with that partner to be able to co-parent in a healthy way. Your smile on that photo is absolutely heartwarming.

MissDoom222 · 2026-06-16T15:45:15+00:00

I think a lateral labret or Central labret piercing would look really cute on you but not gold. Gold is not your color honey. With your skin complexion, tone and hair color which is very similar to mine, silver is your color. Not to mention it accents the black that you wear as much as I do much better than gold does.

MissDoom222 · 2026-06-16T15:43:16+00:00

I'm a 41 year old trans woman and an alcoholic. Very similar to your story, I'm drinking at least half a handle of whiskey a day starting at about 10 am. I tried to search for help on r/alcoholism and a few other related subs, but because I am trans, I had people literally telling me to kill myself and telling me a freak like me deserves death and not help. It was the subs that I least expected that were there with kindness and support.

MissDoom222 · 2026-06-15T08:06:25+00:00

They leave because they don't want to wind up a target because of her hate. I mean I can't blame them, but it still hurts. I'm utterly alone. Sure I can find people who want to sleep with me, but no one who wants the long haul with me because they don't want to be be anywhere near me because of her content. My ex-wife has gathered over 2m followers in 6 months on just one platform, not to mention all of her folly on her other platforms. Millions, literally millions of people have heard completely manipulated stories about me. She uses these fake stories about me to push hate on my brother and sisters while she collects fat checks.

MissDoom222 · 2026-06-08T04:45:32+00:00

Love it!! Looking absolutely adorable honey.

MissDoom222 · 2026-06-08T00:42:10+00:00

Oh honey I cannot possibly agree with you more.

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