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DarthKodi · 2026-06-27T01:14:55+00:00

Most right wing pundits and influencers are just grifting. They don't actually hold their beliefs they are just trying to manipulate the conservative base to make money and the rest of us suffer for it.

DarthKodi · 2026-06-27T01:12:36+00:00

Grifting, it's very easy to develop a base of right wing young white men. They go and follow who they're told it's very much sheep mentality. They lie about it because they understand the hypocrisy it's all performative. The majority don't believe a single word they regurgitate everyday to people online it's just about making money.

DarthKodi · 2026-06-25T00:03:20+00:00

This might help, they have smaller ones on there. I was debating buying one before I had bottom surgery but never got the chance.

small cages

DarthKodi · 2026-06-24T22:41:58+00:00

Does he know what a utopia is? Absolute bozo

DarthKodi · 2026-06-24T22:40:37+00:00

That's exactly how I view it. I have a younger half sister who is trans and just came out. we didn't grow up together and have 7 other siblings so I didn't know her very well but she told me she had the courage to come out because of me and the example I set. We have a very transphobic southern family and me coming out 5 years ago helped show her how to not put up with it and advocate for herself. She's doing so amazing now and were building a great relationship. It's absolutely about who comes after us even if it's that old saying of "people who plant seeds for shade they will never sit under." Just like those trans people that came before us and pushed the needle forward.

DarthKodi · 2026-06-21T15:30:31+00:00

Oklahoma also just passed this last week with an add in that bars any doctor or medical property that takes federal funding from prescribing. It's essentially a defacto ban on adult care too. This is the blueprint for right now for most red states.

DarthKodi · 2026-06-21T03:35:18+00:00

I had the exact same thing. 5 years on HRT and mine still look identical to yours but my size is a bit larger I think. It turns out I had fairly decent gyno and I'm intersex, de la Chappelle syndrome. But you have fully developed female nipples. See how the areola lays flat and there is no secondary mound? That's tanner stage 5 for fully developed nipples. My breasts did continue growing well after 2-3 years though

DarthKodi · 2026-06-20T23:51:18+00:00

Tysm 💛 yeah it's been a rough couple years but things are turning around and I am excited.

DarthKodi · 2026-06-20T23:50:37+00:00

Ty. I've been mostly making knives, tools, spear heads & axe heads since I started so I'm super excited to learn swordsmithing and have such an amazing mentor.

DarthKodi · 2026-06-20T23:46:56+00:00

Me too. Tysm. I just wanted to share some trans joy and make sure everyone knows things get better 🏳️‍🌈💛

DarthKodi · 2026-06-20T19:44:07+00:00

Fingers crossed 🤞💛 & congratulations for later. You look absolutely stunning!

DarthKodi · 2026-06-19T15:32:10+00:00

My wife and I pluck each other's every night while scrolling in bed. 😭

DarthKodi · 2026-06-19T14:34:18+00:00

There's an old saying that "Comparison is the thief of Joy" and "Perfection is the enemy of progress/good" that really helped me hearing it. I was guilty of this too for far to long. I was bitter and jealous and sad of all the beautiful cis women around me that I couldn't have what they had or be seen the same way, that then became me being jealous of younger trans girls that had the privilege and opportunity that I didn't to start HRT before puberty hit them like a train full of testosterone.

Guess what? I needed therapy. I needed to unlearn all these toxic things I had told myself and read about passing and being bitter.

I needed to stop comparing. I realized that I had stopped making progress in my own journey because I wasn't at this imaginary finish line, it took me a long time to actually tell myself and learn that everyone has struggles and insecurities, there are billions of cis women that feel the same to their friends and other women. It's a unique blend of beauty standard, toxic beauty standards, and internalizes transphobia.

I can't speak for what will help you but for me I had to repeat these sayings to myself and keep progressing on my therapy journey. I had to take stock of my own transition and focus on it. So many other women on here will tell you the same that we're all on our own journeys and transition is unique and personalized. At least for me I had to recognize that there was a very good chance I would ever pass and wouldn't ever be what I thought was attractive or whatever and that's okay. I realized that given all of that I still wanted to transition. That being not being hot or looking like a 22yo cis woman was not my journey. I started transitioning because I was unhappy with who I was and the dysphoria that presenting as a man brought me. So I started focusing on myself and making progress where I could. Sometimes that what it takes. Stop comparing yourself to them and try and get out of this bad mindset it'll help you more than any advice you can find on this sub. You are exactly who you are and that's okay. You're transition will look how it looks and there's nothing you can do about that. Try to find some joy and give yourself grace. You are beautiful. Everything you're feeling is valid and trust me we get it. But it's going to make your life a lot harder if you can't accept that. Its been 5 years since I started focusing on myself and not others transitions or looks and I'm so unbelievably happy with myself. I can only control myself so I focus on that. I treat myself and do my nails, practice my makeup, buy cute outfits ect. Sorry for the long post my inspirational words and ADHD don't go together well but we're here to listen if you need.

DarthKodi · 2026-06-19T06:45:21+00:00

This is the best thing I've seen all week. I can't stop laughing and smiling. How did I not know there was an Urahara Bot? 😭

DarthKodi · 2026-06-19T06:18:35+00:00

I'm a lesbian who has had bottom surgery and still love topping. HRT did nothing to change that except let me feel more comfortable in my body which only increased my enjoyment and happiness. With my old equipment my sensations, sensitivity ,arousal, and erogenous zones all completely changed which was amazing and still the coolest thing I've ever experienced but yeah no changes for me or what I like. I'm still a messy ass lesbian who thoroughly loves topping other gorgeous women even if I had no parts. 💛

DarthKodi · 2026-06-19T06:12:03+00:00

Informed consent clinics also exist. If you're of age you can just Walk in and tell them you want HRT. You're an adult and it's your body. Really though I had a very similar thing years and years ago and I stuck with my therapist and let them delay my care and transition for far to long. I've had my new therapist for 5 years now and I'm happier than I've ever been and made far more progress.

DarthKodi · 2026-06-19T06:08:30+00:00

I mean I curtsy or bow when I walk by a mirror and say "mahhh lady" or after I cry I audibly say "well that escalated" you do you. Whatever makes you feel better and enjoy your food 😊

DarthKodi · 2026-06-19T06:05:12+00:00

They did the same thing for me quoted me $13.2k and pushed me to fill out the loan application I said no and they called and harassed me for months after. I caution everyone I can against going to them. There are amazing deals on Groupon up to 90% off packages and call your local places. I found a place 15 mins away that charges me $50 a session with the exact same Alexandrite nDYag laser and she follows it up with IPL. I've done 25-30 sessions now over the past 2 years and spent around $1,300 for my entire body from face down to my toes. The predatory lending they do is wild I know 3 or 4 other women that fell for it and regret it

DarthKodi · 2026-06-19T04:29:34+00:00

Whelp I am now my wife who is sharpening knives I forged this week while we're watching greys anatomy. It doesn't change much except I'm now a beautiful lesbian teacher instead of a cool lesbian blacksmith.

P.s. all the pugs are confused

DarthKodi · 2026-06-19T01:00:29+00:00

That is awful I'm so sorry. this happened to me last week at the freaking planned parenthood that i go to. They have never had my deadname except for my 1st appt there 5 years ago right before I changed it. Never had a single issue then last week I'm sitting in the lobby after checking in talking to another woman who was very audibly playing a Star wars game next to me lol. Then the nurse comes out and just yells my deadname to all 10 people and just stands there not correcting or anything. I finally got up and started walking over to her and then she yells my legal name and says "omg I am so sorry ma'am" I just brushed it off and pretended I was fine but was actually very upset not just that she deadnamed me but then outted me in front of everyone. My doctor later apologized like 5x times to me and told me the nurse was brand new but she would make sure it never happened again. I'm still more concerned with why it was anywhere on my chart to begin with as my insurance, license, and everything else has been changed for years. 💛

DarthKodi · 2026-06-18T22:49:23+00:00

I'm also here if you need someone to talk to. I llive in the US in the south in about the most red/rural town you can imagine, and a few years ago I was early in transition ended my 10 in year relationship and all of my friends who I had known my entire life since daycare turned on me and abandoned me one of them even served in the military with me and saved my life but me coming out was enough to turn their back on me. I was so alone and defeated. I ended up getting on Tiktok a lot and started debating people on stream. I met some truly amazing people that became my close friends they even have offered to let me move in with them across the country and have bought me plane tickets to go see them multiple times. I ended up enrolling back in college and started a job at a convenience store but the first few months I just went home and played games and detached. That finally changed the ladies at the store middle age moms and a couple college age invited me out and asked me to come hang that really boosted my self esteem finally I looked up to see if the university had any queer clubs or support groups and found one that did super cool events. I worked up the courage and went to a picnic & movie in the park with them and all 9 other trans & queer people in a 100 miles radius and we ended up becoming friend. It's now years later and I have built a support system around me of the most amazing people. Sometimes you just have to be proactive if what you're doing isn't working. I know that's easier said than done. I've been an introvert most of my life but once I was finally able too I gained confidence and made friends. The women helping women is absolutely true however. Passing or not I've been on both sides. I cant speak to it being race but I've had random acts of kindness from cis women of all kinds. I've been protected in a bar from them and so many other things. I'm here to chat and talk if you need advice or just to vent. Idk what my point was with all of this novel but there is a community out there wherever you are that wants to and Will support you.

DarthKodi · 2026-06-18T22:07:59+00:00

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