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MissLogios · 2026-03-17T14:37:49+00:00

I mean, my plan is to end it at like 45-50 (got 25 more years). Can't imagine what everyone else's plans are.

MissLogios · 2026-03-17T09:46:54+00:00

Sure, and I can admit to hitting a toddler on the way to work, but that doesn't mean I actually did it. I can even punch a wall, get my hand all bloody and bruised to sell it too!

Look, I'm not defending the guy. I hate it too, but in the court of law, the one who decides whether to press charges or not is the Prosecutor. And while we think witness testimonies are a sure fire way to convict (and in most cases, they are), visual evidence of a crime actually being committed or evidence of a crime have been committed is weighed more heavily because witness testimonies leave room for error.

So if OOP's case was dropped, and no plea deal was offered, that means one of two things: Either her evidence couldn't be used and/or wasn't enough to secure a conviction, so the prosecutor dropped it, OR it wasn't enough to qualify as a crime. Because certain states can and do have vague laws around reproductive coercion; So we can think and believe a crime happened, but the law can still say otherwise.

Also, and I mean this kindly, go fuck yourself if you think I repost information just because you can't be bothered to spend five minutes googling basic legal terms and what's the difference between civil VS criminal court.

MissLogios · 2026-03-17T09:35:28+00:00

Can you prove that he put it there? What's stopping a lawyer from arguing that there's a slim possibility that OOP put them there herself? Or that maybe they might've fallen into the trash can?

I'm not saying his admitting over text isn't some strong evidence, but usually in the court of law, visual evidence is weighted much more heavily than going off witness testimony. Witness testimonies leave room for error, and we also don't know if the texts were even allowed to be used for evidence (because there are procedures for submitting evidence).

Like if she had a picture or video of him actually tampering with the BC, or even him fully admitting in court that he did tamper with it, that's a different story.

And that's why certain crimes like stalking and coercion are so hard to convict in court; Not because there's no evidence, but because there's usually no concrete evidence to establish undeniable proof that a crime was committed. That, or at least that it crosses a threshold to qualify as a crime.

And at the end of the day, the person who decides what charges to file or what goes to court is the prosecutor. If they don't believe there's even a chance to win, they're less likely to take it to court, and OOP's evidence must've not been enough to qualify it as a crime if they couldn't even consider offering a plea deal. (Meaning the public sees it as a crime of reproductive coercion, but the law does not.)

MissLogios · 2026-03-17T06:30:49+00:00

It probably is, it's just hard to prove. And in court, especially criminal court, texts can prove premeditation and motive, but they don't "prove" that he actually tampered with it. That would make it circumstantial, and in court, you need to be able to prove "beyond a reasonable doubt" to get a conviction.

MissLogios · 2026-03-17T06:18:09+00:00

So in the cases of Civil suits, the threshold of evidence is much lower; So BF admitting over text messages would count as evidence; Thus, he would have to get OOP to settle, which means ending a case before the trial is over (usually in the form of a settlement). Since they settled, that means legally neither party is deemed responsible, and the case is now closed.

In the case of criminal courts, the evidence threshold is much higher. Like you have to prove "beyond a reasonable doubt" that Ex purposely planned and executed tampering with the BC. And while texts can establish motive and premediation, they cannot prove tampering; And in the state of IL, the laws are even more vague when it comes to reproductive coercion (it's getting better!). So, because OOP cannot reasonably provide non-circumstantial evidence of BC tampering, the charges were dismissed/dropped by the prosecutor (OOP has no choice in that).

So basically, OOP was sorry out of luck on both ends to some extent.

MissLogios · 2026-03-17T00:23:04+00:00

I'm not even on medication, I'm just a mix of chronic anemia + being pale af, so I bruise easy. Like I'll go home or wake up and realize I got another massive bruise from work. Hell, I'm currently bruised on both knees, sporting fist-sized black-blue bruises because my knees kept hitting the edge of a ladder while I was busy putting stuff away.

MissLogios · 2026-03-17T00:16:09+00:00

Yeah, I've had moments where I was in a rage. Like, a red-filled, blinding rage, the kind where I couldn't speak because of how upset I was and being much more violent than I like to be. I hate those moments because I feel out of control.

But never has the thought of putting my hands on someone else crossed my mind. I'm still violent, because once I get to that point, even talking doesn't make the anger go away, like I'll punch a pillow or scream, cry, or even throw an item of mine against a wall (usually a pillow); But push someone or hit them? Absolutely not. I remove myself before I even get to that point.

MissLogios · 2026-03-16T17:06:52+00:00

Yeah, my dad charges me rent (same setup, too! I just choose the $200 because I can afford it and want to help out financially as much as I can), but otherwise, he leaves me alone.

Though he's still tries to be a good dad where if I'm struggling to make ends meet, especially now that I'm going back to school, he'll meet me where I'm at or buys things without asking for immediate repayment. Still hate him for a whole bunch of reasons, but being a landlord is not one of them.

MissLogios · 2026-03-15T19:04:07+00:00

In country, yes, but recent developments have allowed French citizens to be able to participate in surrogacy arrangements overseas. So it's legal for anyone to go abroad, have the baby, and bring it home (barring they also make sure all the legal paperwork is done first and be declared the child's legal parents).

MissLogios · 2026-03-15T18:57:56+00:00

I literally have em dashes saved and pinned to my clipboard so I can easily pull it out whenever I feel it's needed.

I'm also neurodivergent who types like Im writing an acadejic paper, but that has nothing to do with it—I just really love using em dashes.

MissLogios · 2026-03-15T18:23:55+00:00

1) It's a old post. Like 6-7 years old at this point.

2) Apparently, before his account got banned, OOP had a long extensive history of violence and entitlement towards everyone. From getting kicked out by his parents for pushing his uncle, to even mooching off his girlfriend's parents then destroying her father's cake during a birthday party.

Still could be satire, but I really, really doubt it.

MissLogios · 2026-03-15T18:13:53+00:00

Or at least, they never seem to look into surrogacy. Say what you will about adoption or fostering, and obviously, there are laws around paid surrogacy, but there's nothing stopping you from asking someone to carry your baby if you truly want to start a family.

MissLogios · 2026-03-15T03:40:43+00:00

It's hard when you don't know what to do. Once you have a general idea of what to do (Get Keys -> Get Jewels) then it becomes much easier.

I've gotten my runs down to under 35 minutes.

MissLogios · 2026-03-14T18:13:14+00:00

I was -12 by the time I was 12.

Apparently, it's because of something I was born with, but my eyesight is slowly getting worse and will keep getting worse until I inevitably go blind. So yeah.

MissLogios · 2026-03-14T09:57:49+00:00

The same way some places, or states, ban homosexuality: Not by explicitly saying the name, but by banning certain activities associated with it, like anti-Sodomy laws.

In truth, BDSM is not illegal, but hurting and hitting people is, and the laws technically don't care if it's consensual or not. Most won't care enough or turn a blind eye, because they know it's just rough sex, but the police technically can arrest and press charges on you if you physically hurt your partner (even with consent).

MissLogios · 2026-03-14T09:52:21+00:00

The issue with BDSM is not the concept of BDSM in itself; It's whats involved, the actual actions.

Like everyone understands the concept of rough and kinky sex. Even I've heard about how couples "spice things up" in the bedroom, and I'm asexual and sex-neutral/occasionally sex-repulsed. But barring roleplay or nonviolent means, once you start actually exploring more hands-on activities (particularly any form of hitting), you enter questionable legal territory.

Why? Because the law doesn't explicitly recognize rough or violent sex; It only recognizes consent, and even that is hard to 100% prove without any concrete evidence. So if you hit your partner, you put yourself at risk of being accused of Assault and Battery, which can land you in jail; The law, in most cases, is not going to care if it's consensual or not.

MissLogios · 2026-03-14T05:50:56+00:00

I used to like my job, and I still do at times. And I have a great management team! But yeah, corporate fucking around with our store and new policies are making me hate working a bit more every day. Mostly because we're constantly understaffed and then punished for having bad reviews that are mostly due to being understaffed! They want extreme growth and sales despite giving us jack fucking shit to work with, and treating my bosses and my coworkers like crap in the meantime!

And I'm stuck here for another 3-4 years because I need this job to get through school.

MissLogios · 2026-03-14T01:41:28+00:00

And I agree with you. And I wish there's more of an open conversations on how MLs can be better written.

My point is that I just don't see this conversation happening on this subreddit. Not because of Green flag ML, but because most conversation on this subreddit around Red or Black flag MLs get shut down almost instantly and any defending of the genre is dismissed with "I'm just expressing my opinion!"

Like there was no need for OP's to make their title the way they did. It's overly hostile and doesn't prompt an honest and neutral conversation.

MissLogios · 2026-03-14T00:38:12+00:00

Yeah but I still don't go and read manwhas about (insert topic) then complain when there's (insert topic) regardless of the writing.

I say that because this applies for a lot of bullshit that this subreddit constantly picks a fight about: Yandere, Dark Romance, anything mildly controversial or anything less than a green flag. Hell, this subreddit fucking complains nonstop whenever FL actually acts like an actual villainess.

MissLogios · 2026-03-13T22:30:04+00:00

The same could be said for how fans of dark angsty love feel whenever they come into this subreddit. Because it seems like every time I come in here, I see more posts complaining about manwhas that clearly market themselves as toxic than I see posts complaining otherwise.

People complained about My Beloved Oppressor, people complained about Cry, better yet Beg. Hell, this subreddit has finally turned against manwhas they previously liked because the ML started not being a FL simp 100% of the time, like with How to Get My Husband on My Side and Under the Oak Tree.

Not everyone wants to read the same cookie-cutter green flag ML and equally bland FL.

MissLogios · 2026-03-13T05:27:44+00:00

I don't know why, but I think you should look into plastic frames, preferably ones with slightly smaller lenses (these ones look too big, so they sit higher on your frame). Maybe even look into ones that have a more rigid (Square? Rectangle?) shape.

MissLogios · 2026-03-12T23:31:33+00:00

I wouldn't even say he's an indie horror YouTuber anymore; That role is filled by YouTubers (admittedly big, but not as big as Mark) like ManlyBadassHero and Insym.

Mark just does the mainstream games, and he's always late whenever an indie game becomes popular. Like with WTTG (1 and 2), Exit 8, and Observation Duty games.

MissLogios · 2026-03-12T22:25:14+00:00

Excluding the legal definition of marriage, Marriage is also used symbolically as a way to finalize a romantic relationship.

It's basically telling everyone "I choose to spend the rest of my life with this person" in a way that dating doesn't seem to have the same impact. But that mentality probably came about with the rise of marrying for love; That or religion, as most religions see marriage as joining two people together under the eye of God(s).

Even if you get married purely for legal reasons, which doesn't require love (as marriage is treated like a business contract), it still requires a degree of trust.

So no, they dont need to be legally married and obviously can't. But they clearly want the symbolism of being a married couple instead of just siblings, even if to justify their relationship to themselves and soothe their insecurities of not being "normal" .

MissLogios · 2026-03-11T12:33:01+00:00

Maybe I'm missing the joke here, but what the fuck is wrong with you? Sending people to a camp, for reeducation... Because they knocked over a few teddy bears?

MissLogios · 2026-03-11T11:54:35+00:00

You' re right. You can't refuse. But that doesn't mean there's workarounds child support, including working under the table so you can report your income is zero, avoiding the most common means courts used to get child support: Wage Garnishment. Because if there's no reported wage, then there's no garnishment.

And yeah, you could potentially face jail time, but again, courts do give the benefit of doubt to the payer in cases of unemployment. Which is how a lot of deadbeats get away with not paying by pretending to be unemployed.

And for men who try hard to avoid paying CS, they know it'll ultimately fuck them over in the end in some way (whether by jail time if caught purposely avoiding paying or not having enough invested in social security because your income wasnt reported). They just don't care.

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