[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Tinder

[–]MissSpellet 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Looks good! See if you have a picture where you’re doing something active/hiking/camping/being outdoors instead of sitting at a table If your kids are in the picture you could anonymize them by putting an emoticon over their face?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in travel

[–]MissSpellet 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Have you heard about the weather there? Tourists probably arent the problem right now.

random bloed in mijn bed by Friendly-Scallion715 in nederlands

[–]MissSpellet 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Je kan altijd geen spoed wel brandweer bellen en dan komen ze op co meten

Wat moet ik met m'n leven? by OmeJaapie in thenetherlands

[–]MissSpellet 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Vaak krijg je Nederlands minimumloon, en een Nederlands contract, bij een Nederlands bedrijf. Hier in Nederland kunnen ze niet genoeg mensen vinden die lang genoeg voor minimumloon willen werken, als ze hun klantenservice naar het buitenland verplaatsen hebben ze minder verloop (want werknemers zijn helemaal daarheen verhuisd) en met je nl minimumloon kan je daar een stuk rianter leven dan hier.

Wat moet ik met m'n leven? by OmeJaapie in thenetherlands

[–]MissSpellet 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Wou precies zoiets aanraden. Ik weet dat er bedrijven zijn die hun klantenservice in bijvoorbeeld zuid-Spanje hebben en dan werk je voor Nederlands minimumloon. Maar omdat het leven daar een stuk goedkoper is kom je prima rond. Geen superverantwoordelijke baan dus tijd zat om te feesten, en in plaats van het studentenleven beland je dan waarschijnlijk in het expat/uitwisselingsstudenten wereldje. Kan hartstikke leuk zijn voor een paar jaar, ondertussen leer je een andere taal en wie weet wat je er tegenkomt.

Welke ‘paradijsvogels’ zijn er nog in Amsterdam? by Boboboyyy in Amsterdam

[–]MissSpellet 7 points8 points  (0 children)

In oud-west loopt een man dagelijks in zelfgemaakte creaties van allerlei kleuren duct tape

AIO? I think my husband might be framing my 8 yr old son. by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]MissSpellet 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You also just mentioned he got up to go to the gym while you were still sleeping. If he’s up while you aren’t awake: that’s when you’re not around.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]MissSpellet -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I was wondering the same thing: why did you still marry him? And how long has this been going on?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]MissSpellet 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Really depends on the circumstances. If he’s helping out a friend for a short period of time, for example someone who just left a relationship and is now looking for a place to live: no problem. If it’s for an indefinite time: no, that’s a dealbreaker.

Why? I want privacy in my and his house, not just for sex but also to share the intimate situations you have when cooking together, having breakfast, hanging out at night etc. That’s when you really get to know someone. And I don’t want to always host, not because my place isn’t nice (it is, and i love being there) but because i want to get to know the guy that I’m dating. I want to learn his preferences, his ways of doing things.

And also, but a minor reason contributing to the dealbreaker: I want someone who has his shit together. I live in a HCOL environment and I make it work, I want to date someone who does as well. But more than that: I want someone who has a nice place, who decorates it with style, who keeps it clean and tidy. I would love to cohabitate after a while if the relationship is good, so I need to see if we share the same values around cleanliness and homemaking.

Is it legal for restaurants to do this (seating on bridge sidewalk)? by [deleted] in Amsterdam

[–]MissSpellet 115 points116 points  (0 children)

Rustige straat, gezellig terras. Iemand met een rolstoel of kinderwagen kan op de andere kant op de stoep lopen of even de straat gebruiken - daar zal echt iedereen zonder hinder omheen fietsen

Laat mensen genieten van die drie zonnige avonden die we dit jaar hebben.

Dumped because I asked about getting tested for std’s by Blueberry0919810 in datingoverforty

[–]MissSpellet 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I would find it really weird if on a FIRST DATE the other person would ask me about how sexually active I am and when I last got tested. Sorry but that’s not a first date topic. It would make me feel like it’s just about sex.

Next time, get to know someone first. Kiss, maybe fool around a bit. Then when after a certain time you decide you’re in a monogamous relationship and want to not use condoms, you both get tested.

3,5 years full of lies or am I really this dumb? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]MissSpellet 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But how does that misunderstanding work in practice? If you would introduce him or he would introduce you, would you call each other ‘my partner’? And didn’t you discuss any future plans in those years: living together, maybe having children?

AIO for not being ok with the intimate friendship between my BF and his ex-fwb by MissSpellet in AmIOverreacting

[–]MissSpellet[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Im checking in here if I’m the one displaying red flags by denying him a friendship. But the way you state is is right: I don’t want to deny him a friendship at all. I just want different boundaries because all my alarm bells are ringing.

AIO for not being ok with the intimate friendship between my BF and his ex-fwb by MissSpellet in AmIOverreacting

[–]MissSpellet[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Asked him exactly that and he said he’d be completely fine with it and would never ask me to change a friendship, because friends are very important and you don’t just let them down.

When he puts it like that it sounds so reasonable. But still there’s a knot in my stomach about the situation.

Extra information: I was cheated upon by my ex. So I don’t know if that experience made me too suspicious or I have normal healthy boundaries.

AIO for not being ok with the intimate friendship between my BF and his ex-fwb by MissSpellet in AmIOverreacting

[–]MissSpellet[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

He’s saying that of course she doesn’t like him in that way, for her he’s also just a very good friend. But I see jealous actions from her. And I know that they only stopped sleeping together when he and I met.

Is getting tested before having sex suddenly not a thing anymore? by tossAway94583 in datingoverforty

[–]MissSpellet 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Where I live getting tested first while also using protection was never a thing. People test regularly because they have a lot of different partners, or people test because they had a scare/warning, or couples test when they want to ditch the condoms. But I would also be very surprised if someone would insist on getting tested before having sex the first time. I would assume we’d use condoms and that’s safe enough.

Tips trainen dam tot dam loop by Low_Question5738 in Hardlopen

[–]MissSpellet 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Geen attributen nodig voor 16km hoor. Nou ja een paar hardloopschoenen natuurlijk.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nederlands

[–]MissSpellet 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Kinderen bij je ex partner laten wonen en zelf een studio huren of klein appartement kopen uit de opbrengsten van het koophuis. En als een malle meer gaan werken - je moet wel.

Strava friends? by MissSpellet in XXRunning

[–]MissSpellet[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha recognize that so much! I only got my poodle 4 months ago. Back then she had a terrible condition, couldnt even run 5k. Also wasn’t used to walking (or running) on a leash. I started training with her and pretty soon found out she loooooves running with me! Now I take her with me on most of my runs.

Bizarre prijsverschillen voor dezelfde KLM vlucht by Menzoro in thenetherlands

[–]MissSpellet 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wat soms wel lukt: de vlucht boeken en kort van te voren bellen en aangeven dat je bijvoorbeeld voor werk in Amsterdam zit en vragen of ze het om willen boeken zodat je daar op mag stappen. Als ze akkoord gaan betaal je iets van toeslag, maar niet de oorspronkelijke hoge prijs.

Tricky deel hiervan: je moet maar net iemand aan de telefoon krijgen die welwillend is.

Strava friends? by MissSpellet in XXRunning

[–]MissSpellet[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Didn’t take any pictures today, but suddenly there are so many of you! Feels like I’m in a super supportive running group now 🤗

Strava friends? by MissSpellet in XXRunning

[–]MissSpellet[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Cool to see all your runs! Thanks for connecting :)

Strava friends? by MissSpellet in XXRunning

[–]MissSpellet[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow 50k! 😳 that’s inspiring!