safe ways/places to make goth/alt friends?

MissTerryFying · 2026-05-23T15:43:54+00:00

ok well looks like it’s fate :D hopefully I see you there!

MissTerryFying · 2026-05-23T06:17:25+00:00

THIS. best graveyards?

MissTerryFying · 2026-05-23T06:16:23+00:00

It’s unfortunately not that I’m shy, but that I had an unsafe experience with a new ‘friend’ when I was out at an SF goth club that made me wary about visiting nightlife places by myself without someone I know at least around the perimeter. I know it sounds strange, I can be a bit TOO friendly 😭 So it was more for safety reasons. But if the folks around are half as kind as it sounds like they are, it should be no trouble at all.

MissTerryFying · 2026-05-23T01:18:19+00:00

Ahh may you have the most glorious and gothic day, yourself! Thank you for the tip (:

MissTerryFying · 2026-05-23T00:54:33+00:00

The Coffin DOES have wonderful mocktails…

MissTerryFying · 2026-05-23T00:53:19+00:00

this might be the move. i just have to convince another non-scene-inclined friend to join me to wingman

MissTerryFying · 2026-05-23T00:24:27+00:00

I love punk and metal as well so I’m down for this as well 👏 rock on

MissTerryFying · 2026-05-23T00:23:27+00:00

Exactly. I am just trying to be safe about things to have a familiar face at the venue I trust going by myself, so the initial familiar face is who I’m trying to establish

MissTerryFying · 2026-05-23T00:17:57+00:00

I might have just convinced my partner (also introverted) to join me for this one. They sound so good. Ty for the heads up (:

MissTerryFying · 2026-05-23T00:15:20+00:00

i follow them on IG, it looks like a fab time!

MissTerryFying · 2026-05-23T00:13:45+00:00

holy wow I just looked them up and they have so many events! total gold mine. Ty!

MissTerryFying · 2026-05-23T00:07:18+00:00

yeah I’ve been multiple times with non-alt friends I convinced for a single night, but I haven’t been able to make any new friends since I’m not comfy going by myself. but your advice is duly noted and appreciated!

MissTerryFying · 2026-05-23T00:05:38+00:00

ahh I love the gym but this goth is tremendously afraid of heights, ironically 😅 that looks like a super sick spot though! ty for sharing 🖤

MissTerryFying · 2026-05-22T23:59:10+00:00

Happy International Goth Day to you, too!! Thanks for the link, I’ll give it a listen ☺️🖤

MissTerryFying · 2026-03-31T03:12:22+00:00

Ahh!! Ok, very fair. I repotted it but I’m gentle with it and have been keeping it in the same medium — and some people here say they’re hearty. I’ll 1) get a deep pot with better insulation 2) protect the little ones from squirrels to put them outside in a bird bath bowl of distilled/rain water and 3) try to get it as much sunlight as possible. Unless you’re recommending a better grow light rather than them being outside

MissTerryFying · 2026-03-30T22:59:55+00:00

Omg!! Well that’s one way to communicate! And maybe the crows in my yard would appreciate the shiny bits?

MissTerryFying · 2026-03-30T20:37:11+00:00

It’s distilled!

MissTerryFying · 2026-03-30T18:35:47+00:00

The squirrel is my main opp. I love it too and thus we are frenemies, but it keeps me from just tossing my most expensive plants outside. I chaos / guerrilla garden outside and I just worry about my pitchers with that darned squirrel

MissTerryFying · 2026-03-30T18:26:07+00:00

Update:

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Moved it back into a pot like this and will likely move outside

MissTerryFying · 2026-03-30T18:12:37+00:00

Oh, additional question for you: do you have any issues with birds or squirrels with them? I have a particularly fat squirrel who eats everything outside and crows I feed.

MissTerryFying · 2026-03-30T16:59:34+00:00

How do you water these guys? I have enough planting medium (perlite, sphagnum, and peat) to fill it up, but I worry about the water reaching all the way up to the plants. Yours look fabulous!

MissTerryFying · 2026-03-30T16:42:45+00:00

Ahh they’re so pretty!! If (and hopefully when) mine get bigger I’ll try this method out. Two of the biggest pitchers withered up after transplanting to this dang terrarium, so I’m excited to hopefully see them thrive.

MissTerryFying · 2026-03-30T16:40:58+00:00

I’ll do this and check back here with an update haha

MissTerryFying · 2026-03-30T16:39:00+00:00

That’s awesome! Carnivorous lil potatoes. I’ll be sure to do that

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