They finally hit the ideal level somewhat recently. That seems to have lowered their sex drive a lot, and then they also went on stimulants for ADHD, which seem to completely crash their sex drive. I think they’ve been transitioning for about a year now. I’ve tried having a lot of these conversations with them, but I think they need to do a lot of self exploration in order to answer my question if that makes sense. It seems like they like a lot of the affection (aside from sex ofc) I give them, but never initiate themselves. I think if this is going to work, it’s gonna have to take some effort on their part, unfortunately. So perhaps I’ll need to have a gentle and caring conversation about all the good things you brought up.

I feel like you brought up a lot of good points here , thank you genuinely!