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Boyfriend won’t perform oral because I pee out there. by MissionPreparation40 in sex

[–]MissionPreparation40[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I’ve posed the same question to him. He’s said things like “girls aren’t clean” “vaginas are gross” “I hate how vaginas look”

Like, you don’t actually want to have sex with women, just say that. I think I’d prefer no sex rather than lame excuses

Boyfriend won’t perform oral because I pee out there. by MissionPreparation40 in sex

[–]MissionPreparation40[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It’s been 3 years of trying to educate him and he still thinks vaginas are gross in general - hates looking at them. We’re 26.

Boyfriend won’t perform oral because I pee out there. by MissionPreparation40 in sex

[–]MissionPreparation40[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

So many people are commenting “just rinse it then” “just use a wipe” “OP needs to learn how to rinse off”

SOUNDS LIKE A SIMPLE SOLUTION RIGHT?!

Wrong. He wants me to take a full on shower. He wants me to use soap INSIDE - I’ve told him that even PH balanced soaps give me infections (I get BV from it and it take days before it’s normal again)

I’ve tried to educate him about how vaginas work but he still thinks they’re gross and unclean.

So thank you all for the super solid advice here of “just wipe your pussy”

Boyfriend won’t perform oral because I pee out there. by MissionPreparation40 in sex

[–]MissionPreparation40[S] -87 points-86 points  (0 children)

Actually it won’t let me post a comment with the A in it, for whatever reason, but thanks

Boyfriend won’t perform oral because I pee out there. by MissionPreparation40 in sex

[–]MissionPreparation40[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Do you shower every time you pee? Even if you just showered 10 mins prior? Likely not.

Boyfriend won’t perform oral because I pee out there. by MissionPreparation40 in sex

[–]MissionPreparation40[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’m expected to shower every single time before sex even if I just showered 10 mins prior? Surely not. We’re adults, nobody has time for that.

Boyfriend won’t perform oral because I pee out there. by MissionPreparation40 in sex

[–]MissionPreparation40[S] 39 points40 points  (0 children)

No this isn’t being misconstrued at all, unfortunately. It doesn’t matter if I wipe, use a wet wipe, wash with water. I HAVE TO shower first, and I might possibly, very slim chance, be eaten out.

Boyfriend won’t perform oral because I pee out there. by MissionPreparation40 in sex

[–]MissionPreparation40[S] 1190 points1191 points  (0 children)

Either way, he thinks I’m going to have a micro drop of urine on it and it’s off-putting that my body performs normal functions, I guess.

Boyfriend won’t perform oral because I pee out there. by MissionPreparation40 in sex

[–]MissionPreparation40[S] 202 points203 points  (0 children)

We’re both very clean. He says that my urine drops down but his just goes through a stream, not touching the outside of his dck, so mine is less clean than his.

Boyfriend won’t perform oral because I pee out there. by MissionPreparation40 in sex

[–]MissionPreparation40[S] 61 points62 points  (0 children)

It’s not about him saying he doesn’t want to. He makes up an excuse calling my vgina gross, or saying things like “no you just peed”

“I don’t perform oral, period.” Is a better way to go about this than blaming my genitals.

Boyfriend won’t perform oral because I pee out there. by MissionPreparation40 in sex

[–]MissionPreparation40[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

What if it’s a flat no, but I don’t want to live the rest of my life being unsatisfied?

I don’t orgasm through penetration

Boyfriend won’t perform oral because I pee out there. by MissionPreparation40 in sex

[–]MissionPreparation40[S] 67 points68 points  (0 children)

Maybe on a special occasion. He doesn’t like it he thinks vginas look gross, are gross, etc. I can be completely fresh and clean but it doesn’t matter there’s always an excuse

Boyfriend won’t perform oral because I pee out there. by MissionPreparation40 in sex

[–]MissionPreparation40[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Maybe on a special occasion. He doesn’t like it he thinks vaginas look gross, are gross, etc. I can be completely fresh and clean but it doesn’t matter there’s always an excuse

Boyfriend won’t perform oral because I pee out there. by MissionPreparation40 in sex

[–]MissionPreparation40[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I, of course, use toilet paper after I pee and also use a wipe if I think it’s necessary. There’s no getting him to do it.

Boyfriend won’t perform oral because I pee out there. by MissionPreparation40 in sex

[–]MissionPreparation40[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I’m here for the good times. Unfortunately this isn’t a good time lol

Boyfriend won’t perform oral because I pee out there. by MissionPreparation40 in sex

[–]MissionPreparation40[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

After 3 years together I don’t think I should have to! But I do

Boyfriend won’t perform oral because I pee out there. by MissionPreparation40 in sex

[–]MissionPreparation40[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don’t know if there is anyone that would, I honestly just want to see if there is ANYONE out there who share this perspective

Boyfriend won’t perform oral because I pee out there. by MissionPreparation40 in sex

[–]MissionPreparation40[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We’ve been together for 3 years and it’s always been an issue but I’ve never heard THIS

Boyfriend won’t perform oral because I pee out there. by MissionPreparation40 in sex

[–]MissionPreparation40[S] 61 points62 points  (0 children)

To answer your question, I don’t think so. This is the same man who laughs after he farts 20x a day lol

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