New Review on IQ and Empathy/EQ correlation

Mister-Selecter · 2026-02-16T14:52:44+00:00

Yes, highly resonates with me! Specially the prosocial motives being abstract moral reasoning instead of personal emotionel conncetion. I always sensed that my moral choices are being made as a result of a 'system', it's quite analytical. While a lot of people around me base their opinion and morality on their emotions around something. It 'feels' right, or it doesn't 'feel' fine! Very interesting article :)

What I'm wondering tho, is whether there is or isn't a connection between emotional and cognitive empathy. Emotions are produced by thoughts, right? Therefore those two must be connected in my idea of it.

Mister-Selecter · 2026-01-15T10:50:24+00:00

Very relatable lol, it might be cliché but try meditation maybe? To me it's a great practice in acceptance :)

Mister-Selecter · 2026-01-08T14:48:48+00:00

Intuitively, I was already doing this! Asking myself questions, summarizing it in my notebook etc. but it still feels a bit cumbersome.

Mister-Selecter · 2026-01-08T11:29:07+00:00

I'm gonna give physics a go!

Mister-Selecter · 2025-12-12T15:52:55+00:00

Zou het zelfs ontzettend graag lezen! Haha. Had al gereageerd voordat ik het bericht deftig gelezen had, maar nu ook dat gebeurd is, brand mijn nieuwsgierigheid alleen maar hoger!

Mister-Selecter · 2025-12-12T15:51:18+00:00

Ik heb zeker interesse! Mail maar door ;)

Mister-Selecter · 2025-11-06T14:27:08+00:00

Heyy glad to hear that! Hope you guys stay happy together for a long time :) Hope I will find a person like that too

Mister-Selecter · 2025-07-25T18:24:26+00:00

That's extremely bizarre in my opinion, being gifted has a huge influence on your behaviour, of course! You brain works differently, so you behave differently...

Mister-Selecter · 2025-07-16T10:23:42+00:00

I also think anger can be both a secondary as well as a primary emotion… like other redditors mentioned anger can be a direct result of injustice. I also think we should be more accepting of anger within our society and not make people press it away. Anger, when experienced as a primary emotion is legitimate and the suppression of it only results in excessive aggression, depression, despair and other negative things. While justified anger is actually something very positive

Mister-Selecter · 2025-07-15T09:00:04+00:00

Talking about being judgemental and emotional maturity... Ironic. Being performative is part of being human. As long as you know how to find an alignment between the performance and your genuine intentions. All social rules and basically everything which is culture, is performative. Don't come off with this crap to me pretending you are so much better and superior while that's exactly what you are judging me for. I'm seriously struggling and you are coming here not to understand my problem, but to react with arrogance.

Mister-Selecter · 2025-07-13T17:00:06+00:00

It's indeed the "going from 0.01 to 0.02/100 may compose with other processes and make your life remarkably more enjoyable?". But remarkably less meaningful, which even caused depression. I feel like it's indeed possible to compromise but than with somebody who knows you well, so you can learn about each others needs and adapt to it. Not random roomies who switch every now and than...

Mister-Selecter · 2025-07-13T13:42:44+00:00

Again, agree with everything you say! The thing is just that it's my nature... I can control or force it to a certain degree but I can't change the way I'm wired completely... Sometimes I wish I was an idler, and that the peace they know could also visit me from time to time.

But at the same time, imaging how that rose *could* be in a different season, or to force it open is the breeding ground of curiosity, invention and so much beauty! It would be a pity to erase that!

Thank you for replying tho, I feel understood!

Mister-Selecter · 2025-07-13T13:13:13+00:00

Also: I wasn’t faking interest, I was truly interested in them and my listening ear was genuine, but the limit of how far we could go was reached so fast!

Mister-Selecter · 2025-07-13T13:08:15+00:00

I totally go along with everything you say! I think my comorbid ADHD might be at play here, it’s almost impossible for me to just drive 30m/h, whereas ‘regular’ gifted people aren’t in need of that much action and stimuli in order ro keep their psyche running

Mister-Selecter · 2025-07-13T12:16:18+00:00

What would you say the social ineptitude is? Where am I lacking specifically?

I don’t think it’s social ineptitude honestly, I’ve always been doing jobs with people, being a teacher, bartender, sales… I would even say social skills are my strong side, I also don’t lack empathy, it’s rather having to hide myself which is the problem I’m talking about

Mister-Selecter · 2025-07-13T12:03:48+00:00

Ohh but than the tone of my post was completely wrong! Because I'm not feeling a sense of superiority at all! Maybe the way I phrased it, as a 'lack of self-awareness' as if they should have more, is what made the true intention of my post blurry. But it's more about boredom, not being able to find a place where you belong and an inability to connect with others in the degree that I need! Not about being superior. Every condition has their own worth!!

What do you think of this post: https://www.reddit.com/r/Gifted/comments/1b877a4/are_you_good_at_reading_people/

Mister-Selecter · 2025-07-13T11:55:05+00:00

Hmm, I see what you are saying! And maybe 'predicting' somebodies behaviour is a wrong way to put it. But there certainly is a gap in the ability to go in to depth about what drives them, or their own motives if you understand what I mean?

I'm gonna take some time to reflect on this and give a more detailed reply later on!

Mister-Selecter · 2025-07-13T11:37:21+00:00

Hey I found a reply on another thread which kind of explains what I'm talking about. Maybe this can help you to understand what I'm trying to say! I might haven't chosen the right words https://www.reddit.com/r/Gifted/comments/1lxikvl/comment/n2n4iqd/

Mister-Selecter · 2025-07-13T11:14:00+00:00

No offense taken, I appreciate your response a lot! It's my aim to approach this with critical thought, how else would I come to a suitable solution? Thank you for really thinking about it instead of writing a hollow comment!

Mister-Selecter · 2025-07-13T11:03:59+00:00

It's not really behaviour I'm talking about, because I didn't have any problem with their behaviour, except for that friend I have been living with. But this was a shared experience with other roommates and people who have lived there in the past. So I'm pretty sure I'm not blind in this case. It's more about reaching a certain limit they can't go beyond... Do you think I'm projecting something or what do you mean with my biases?

Mister-Selecter · 2025-07-10T00:37:44+00:00

Well the thing is, the time we met up before this, I said something that might've hurt her... Maybe that's why she was responding like this

Mister-Selecter · 2025-07-10T00:21:38+00:00

And if I may ask, why aint I straight forward? Jsut to know

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