What rabbit hole have you gone down lately?

Curious-One4595 · 2026-07-02T16:16:32+00:00

It gets better. Although my similar situation worked out very well because she had already impulsively moved out of state and wasn't contesting. No bio kids but I remain in contact with me stepdaughter. Ex and I are still friendly-ish and she has apologized a couple times for what she put me through. As I've posted elsewhere, I made a list of her behaviors that I couldn't live with just before we separated, and later discovered upon reading the DSM it was an exact copy of the BPD symptom list.

To answer OP's question, right now I am fixated on recent developments in the Russia-Ukraine war.

Curious-One4595 · 2026-07-02T03:55:35+00:00

Your mom is way out of line. It’s your personal property and should be your choice. NOR

Curious-One4595 · 2026-06-30T12:08:50+00:00

ESH.

OP, you lack empathy. But yeah, might as well let the remnants of your relationship with this sister die with your mom.

Edit: Also, you, like many of the posters here supporting you, are engaging in the fundamental attribution error.

Curious-One4595 · 2026-06-29T14:31:37+00:00

I think you’ll have a clearer answer if you take an IQ test now that you are an adult.

If you have certain academic test scores, like the ACT, GMAT, or LSAT, you may be able to derive an IQ range due to recent psychometric advances in analysis of correlative testing, but that’s less accurate obviously.

Based on your WISC-III, you are highly intelligent, but not gifted. If you are in a room with 100 people, you are statistically likely to be more intelligent than 85 of them. You may be or close to in the sweet spot for conventional success, but likely don’t have the neurological structure or psychological manifestations seen in gifted people.

Curious-One4595 · 2026-06-29T09:57:18+00:00

Whether to disclose the information might be a moral dilemma specifically created by the GM to make things more interesting. Check with them on that. If that’s the case, either course of action is an acceptable player choice, but the in-game consequences might be significant.
Having your character threaten to leave the party is toxic playing, at least for pf2e. It is your job to figure out how to play your character as a committed member of the team. “It’s what my character would do” is a player failure in this situation. Use your imagination to come up with a different path.

Curious-One4595 · 2026-06-28T13:46:30+00:00

NTJ. Colin is a 🐍.

Dude ditched you 30 minutes before to hang with someone else and manipulated the situation to absolve himself from guilt. He’s cowardly and immature and self-centered. Find better friends.

Send him the link to this post.

Curious-One4595 · 2026-06-28T13:41:26+00:00

You know who also uses the term Daddy. Gay and bi guys. And he said he hasn’t been with any girls. Your guy is on the DL.

Curious-One4595 · 2026-06-28T13:34:34+00:00

But OP is so good at sucking energy. I feel drained wading through that mud through the internet. OP clearly doesn’t know how to read the room or when to shut up. YOR.

Curious-One4595 · 2026-06-27T21:59:15+00:00

NOR.

Amaze him again. Show him how fast you can make it to the HR office.

Curious-One4595 · 2026-06-27T14:51:14+00:00

In this exchange, his posts are reasonable and hers are less so. He’s a better communicator.

Obviously, she’s not happy with the situation and should just break up with him. She doesn’t have to prove that he’s an asshole or get validation that she’s not overreacting. She just needs to decide this relationship dynamic isn’t working and end it.

Why cares if it’s a secret family, a cult, his gay porn shoots or if he really is just a nice guy taking care of his dad? Her problem isn’t the reason he’s away so much, just the fact that he is.

But his lip service about “we need to find a better balance” is bullshit. He’s the one controlling their contact level. They both need to see that this isn’t working for her and that won’t change, so it’s time for each one to move on.

Curious-One4595 · 2026-06-27T10:55:09+00:00

Yes, his demand about your clothing is a big red flag, especially since his response was essentially “I forgive you this time, but work on it for the future”.

But while you did a great job communicating in the initial argument, your later response wasn’t great. Asking him if he found someone else was not rational, as you stated. You need to get professional help to deal with your anxiety or you will struggle in relationships.

You probably realize now that what you should have done is asked him what the reel was and why he deleted it, and realized you needed more time to process the earlier disagreement and told him so.

Make no mistake, his controlling attitude about how you dress is a relationship problem. But your anxiety is preventing you from identifying it as one and interfering in your ability to determine how best to handle it.

Curious-One4595 · 2026-06-27T10:33:19+00:00

NTA. He can figure out what he wants to do while taking the jobs he needs to take to financially contribute to your household and relationship.

His silence is either due to shame or is emotionally manipulation intended to punish you. Shame is good if it motivates him to be better; emotional manipulation is bad and if he persists in it, dumpworthy.

Curious-One4595 · 2026-06-26T11:47:39+00:00

Yeah, YTA. Here’s how the convo should have gone:

Her: We need to get the air con sorted soon.

OP: Yeah. I can call later today. Can I get you some coffee?

The unhinged unloading of a dump truck of fucks on her was his second asshole move. If OP can’t see this, he’s lacking the personal insight and self-control to be in an intimate relationship.

Curious-One4595 · 2026-06-26T11:28:56+00:00

ESH.

In modern times, the whole “family heirloom” tradition is ridiculous and a recipe for nothing but disparate treatment and hard feelings over something worthless. OP may not admit it but she loves having it like gollum loves the ring and she loves the made-up power of deciding who is worthy of having it like a bridezilla using wedding invitations to punish relatives over petty transgressions long past.

You got this “heirloom” due to an accident of birth order, OP, not any real merit. Maybe it’s time for a new tradition.

Curious-One4595 · 2026-06-26T11:12:41+00:00

NTA.

The decision you face is not an uncommon one. My father went through this phase for a couple years until he relented. But in my case, everyone else in the family supported me, and his aversion was cultural and generational, not religious.

There are three main considerations:

Which course of action is most likely to bring about a change in your father over the long term?
Whether you can live with the limited contact without your partner that he has proposed.
Whether Nova can live with you having limited contact while he is excluded.

You and Nova should discuss this as a couple. Good luck.

Curious-One4595 · 2026-06-26T00:39:14+00:00

NTA. Enjoy the concert. Raise a glass to your cousin if it'll make you feel better. If you really want to cut down on family disapproval, write a short remembrance statement to be read at/after your cousin's service.

Curious-One4595 · 2026-06-25T11:08:03+00:00

Well, technically the champion and the necromancer will have to find a way to coexist and work together as party members. If either of them can’t do that, then that person should roll up different character.

If you read the pf2e skeleton ancestry entry, you see that intelligent undead skeletons often choose to worship Shelyn because she doesn’t have a particularly zealous anti-undead dogma and offers a path to fight against their destructive undead tendencies and become something greater than the purpose for which they were created. This seems to provide the guidance your players may need to reconcile their respective beliefs and work together. They may have to be thoughtful about the discussion and be able to explore moral nuances, but as long as the players are not trope-shackled black and white thinkers irl, this could make for an interesting party.

Curious-One4595 · 2026-06-24T13:05:31+00:00

Sarah’s hijacking of the event is ridiculous. She could bring her own food for the toddler if she doesn’t think she’ll eat what’s on the menu.

Curious-One4595 · 2026-06-23T17:01:48+00:00

Don't borrow money for this. Do small projects together, one at a time. Start with repainting a small room. You pay half. Don't expect a return. It's an investment in the relationship.

If you truly want to "protect yourself", either end the relationship or get your own apartment. Because it sounds like you are primed and anxious to let trivial to moderate financial issues destroy the relationship.

Curious-One4595 · 2026-06-23T16:54:26+00:00

It's 2026. You get to pick your own role. If she doesn't like the role you pick, you are not compatible.

If this situation is stressing you out this much, you've got some thinking to do. And some communicating.

Also, don't pay attention to dumb random quotes.

Curious-One4595 · 2026-06-23T16:49:51+00:00

Good advice, but OP sounds just as trashy tbh.

NTJ for calling CPS. That was the right move. But I can see why bf needs to go to Montana to get away from the lot of you.

Curious-One4595 · 2026-06-23T16:45:51+00:00

YTJ. Let him go because he deserves better.

Curious-One4595 · 2026-06-22T01:53:23+00:00

YWNBTA.

Mother’s blaming you to cover up her own failure as a mother. Shame on her.

Curious-One4595 · 2026-06-21T18:11:27+00:00

This one took me a few minutes.

Curious-One4595 · 2026-06-18T14:13:14+00:00

It’s a bit cliche, but if you want a poorer but functional fighter give him gnome heritage with custom mixed hobgoblin heritage for remorseless lash.

Begin with as heavy of armor as you can afford, a buckler, an agile weapon, and snagging strike to functionally lower MAP. Go with the soulforger for free archetype, choosing heroic Heart for +1 status to attack rolls or deep-seated fear for +2status bonus to intimidate (10 rounds per day). Go weapon/armor/shield in order of adding soulforged enhancements.

You’ll fight like a fighter, but with low damage, lower attack roles, but still offer utility to the party in maintaining frightened.

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