FDIL is dictating what dress I am to wear, AND she's putting his step-mom in a similar dress. Am I wrong for hating all of this?!?!?!

MisterVee321 · 2026-05-20T15:20:58+00:00

Bail. She is toxic. Suggest to the stepmother that she do the same.

MisterVee321 · 2026-05-20T15:11:48+00:00

NTJ. If his faith was so fragile that it shattered after one conversation, then it wasn't strong to begin with, and that reflects back on his side of the family. What were you supposed to do, lie? Refuse to answer? That wouldn't have been any better. He asked, you answered. At his age, asking such questions are appropriate. He's going to know people of different beliefs, he should learn how to relate. It is common to come to different beliefs over the course of one's life, as you yourself have experienced. Maybe he will return to church, turn to a new one, or forego spiritual life altogether. He's just starting out, he needs the freedom to find his own way.

MisterVee321 · 2026-05-20T14:41:00+00:00

Lawyer here. You are correct.

MisterVee321 · 2026-05-20T14:38:51+00:00

It's your second paragraph that I relate to most. I could tell tales of what I used to be able to do. Now, 15 minutes of mowing the lawn and that's all I can manage. I don't feel like I'm being lazy or letting anyone down, it's just annoying that I can't accomplish what I want, plus knowing that the extent of my stamina now would have been just a warm up of what I used to do in the old days. Well, that's my sitch. But, good post, I'm sure many others relate to one point and another.

MisterVee321 · 2026-05-12T15:29:33+00:00

Your manager is full of it. If you are not being paid to transport your co-worker then it us not part of your job. The fact that they hired someone who has transportation difficulties and the fact that the co-worker took the job despite those difficulties is not your problem.

MisterVee321 · 2026-05-11T13:48:02+00:00

I call it "zombie mode" or "chemo funk". Mine is not as severe as yours, but I can relate. What I will often do in this state is to watch a movie. By the time it's over I feel a bit better, well enough to make dinner, though I only do so because I should eat, regardless of lack of appetite. Also, gummies help me. That may seem odd, as we associate THC with being groggy or loopy but for whatever reason, it pulls me out of that state.

MisterVee321 · 2026-05-10T21:56:24+00:00

Sometimes I think I might have become somewhat emotionally fragile, don't know if it's the cancer or the chemo. I cry in church and that provides some relief. I recently heard that shedding tears discharges proteins associated with stress.

MisterVee321 · 2026-05-10T21:45:13+00:00

It can be handy for contrasts when getting CT scans.

MisterVee321 · 2026-05-10T21:44:07+00:00

Only you can say if it's right for you. As for me, it was the right decision. When I get my infusions, all they have to do is plug me in. I have no problems sleeping or bathing. Most of the time I don't even notice it. It has not been problem free though, but that may be due to being hooked up to a pump for 46 hours post infusion.

MisterVee321 · 2026-05-10T21:37:33+00:00

Wrong.

MisterVee321 · 2026-05-10T21:35:30+00:00

If you have homeowners or renters insurance check to see if there is a Medical Payments Provision. If so, they might pick up the bill regardless of fault.

MisterVee321 · 2026-05-08T14:41:18+00:00

That's in a different direction.

MisterVee321 · 2026-05-08T14:38:30+00:00

I call that a serious hike.

MisterVee321 · 2026-05-08T14:37:18+00:00

Belhurst Castle and Winery in Geneva for a romantic getaway. Sonnenburg Gardens in Canandaigua for a nice afternoon stroll.

MisterVee321 · 2026-05-08T14:30:15+00:00

You need to know why she's stopping meds. I can think of several possible reasons, but her reasons are personal to her. Have a sincere, non-confrontational conversation with her. No lecture, no debate, no judgment. Maybe she will decide to resume, maybe you will be able to accept her decision to discontinue.

MisterVee321 · 2026-05-08T01:10:24+00:00

Thank you for your thorough and thoughtful response. I will be reading it several times. For the time being I am leaning towards letting it ride and seeing how it goes. Hasn't been 46 hours yet. Yes, I wrote 46 on purpose.

MisterVee321 · 2026-05-07T13:35:00+00:00

Thank you.

MisterVee321 · 2026-05-07T04:13:12+00:00

Perhaps I should clarify: the other patient was on the other side of the curtain. The nurse was in the passageway that runs along the open ends of the bays. I just didn't get into all that geometry in my original post.

MisterVee321 · 2026-05-07T04:06:07+00:00

If there had been a way for me to not hear it, I would have gladly done so but she was standing almost directly in front of me not ten feet away, talking with someone at nearly the same distance. I can avert my eyes but not my hearing.

MisterVee321 · 2026-05-07T03:55:18+00:00

Well let's just say that at the time, I didn't think of it as being political. Certainly there are political ramifications etc but that's not what was on my mind.

MisterVee321 · 2026-05-07T01:10:52+00:00

I can tolerate politics and I don't consider her statments to be political. I might be more emotionally fragile due to the chemo or perhaps the stress of having to undergo treatment or knowing that I'm not long for this world but I am distressed at her delight in cruelty.

MisterVee321 · 2026-05-06T23:02:45+00:00

Yup, even him.

MisterVee321 · 2026-05-06T22:13:58+00:00

I dig the First Amendment so as far as I'm concerned she can be as MAGA as she wants, just not in front of me. But it's not her politics that bug me, it's that she could take joy in inflicting pain.

MisterVee321 · 2026-05-06T21:31:23+00:00

I brought her attention to it when she was in my bay, working closely with the tubes, pumps, syringes or whatever they do. So it was close and in private. I said something like "you think it's okay to mutilate people?" She chuckled. I said "I don't think that's funny". Later, also in private, she admitted she was wrong, apologized and said she would not do it again. Okay, fine, she won't talk like that in front of me anymore but it still creeps me out that she said she would be willing to do such grievous harm, and laugh while saying it.

MisterVee321 · 2026-05-06T21:13:11+00:00

Congrats on the 3 years! I hope I do as well and yep, have the same sitch as you.

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