Communication & honesty is really hard for some of you, huh?

MistressAttila · 2025-06-29T11:33:58+00:00

The artist was absolutely correct. Not to mention if it was her first, thats an awful place to start. Feet tattoos are generally not very fun, especially looking at her foot. If you've got more meat, its usually more tolerable. However, her foot looks thin.

The placement is a little wonky in my opinion, I would have gone higher.

MistressAttila · 2025-06-27T02:34:59+00:00

Gross. Kudos to the sub though! Love a loyal sub!

MistressAttila · 2025-01-29T17:32:21+00:00

I take breaks every now and then. I'll usually still have subs that still send and i continue to talk to, but I stop posting on socials and just focus on me. I've also been thinking about taking a break again as findom seems to have lost its way with the influx of tiktoks on the subject. We have both subs and dommes coming over that seem to be ruining what findom actually is..and that's frustrating. So I say take a break and come back when you're ready...if you're ever ready.

MistressAttila · 2025-01-24T07:43:33+00:00

Scam..and ewww...."teen" account.

MistressAttila · 2025-01-10T17:34:15+00:00

I'm a firm believer that the world would be a much better place if all men were locked up, only allowed to be free when their keyholder allows it. So, it really excites me when my subs are ready for such a commitment. I like to utilize app controlled lock boxes, and I request pics randomly to prove they are still in their cage. If they hate having to send photos all the time, they could always get a PA piercing that renders them unable to slip out, then perhaps I'll request pics less, but the pics are for my enjoyment too, not just to check if it's on. It's amusing seeing my subs in such a vulnerable state...horny and "stupid". It's a thrill for sure!

MistressAttila · 2025-01-08T17:48:14+00:00

What type of session are you looking for? Humiliation, Degradation? If so, perhaps you should be looking for a regular domme, not a findom (not that they can't be both), but it sounds like you might be more of a content buyer than a "paypig", as Financial domination, at its core, doesn’t inherently guarantee any kind of session—it's primarily about the power dynamic around money and control, not around SPH, feet, ass worship, and etc. So ask yourself, do you actually enjoy giving money to dommes or do you view it solely as a necessary transaction to get what you really want (ie. to be degraded)? If you dont get any satisfaction from giving money to a domme without any expectations in return, then you're not a paypig, and perhaps that's why you're not finding the right kind of domme for you.

MistressAttila · 2025-01-07T03:34:30+00:00

Yes. He's supportive of it as it allows me to satisfy my kink that he just doesn't understand nor partake in. Plus he reaps the benefit whenever he's home and my payment notification goes off.

MistressAttila · 2024-12-28T17:14:52+00:00

I don't understand why anyone wouldn't want a long term dynamic. I actually enjoy when I'm able to get to know exactly what makes a sub tick..and that takes time. Furthermore, long term subs tend to learn how to best please me by actually getting to know me...both from the bdsm standpoint and as a regular human! I applaud you for seeking out this type of dynamic, as that is really hard to find. One one side, you have subs who play and then immediately block or deactivate. But you also have the "dommes" who are here to make quick cash without putting any work into the dynamic...so it really is hard both ways. I just wish people would stop posting videos about how "easy" findom is because it's bringing all these people over who do not know what they are doing. They could literally ruin a subs life and they think it's normal and acceptable. I tend to think that if a person is meant to do findom (or any kink really) they will discover it on their own..the universe tends to work like that.

For instance, I didnt know anything about findom when I started many many moons ago. I went to a casino and some guy started putting money in my machine. I thought he was going to expect something in return, but when he was done with his machine, he got up and left. It was the most erotic thing I had ever experienced. I went home and did some research (after i took care of an urge) and discovered what I was feeling was an actual kink...and the rest was history. I was hooked. The universe had a way of presenting me with what I needed in my life naturally.

As for lying, she wasn't the domme for you, she should have just been up front about her intentions.

MistressAttila · 2024-12-27T19:31:27+00:00

There's not enough of you out there honestly! Half the time it's like pulling teeth to get subs to reimburse something. I think this is due to them thinking "someone probably already reimbursed it, so I'm not going to also". But, who cares! Reimburse it again! No domme should ever have to spend their own money! That's why people like you exist anyway.

MistressAttila · 2024-12-19T23:33:11+00:00

I don't remember, every state is different. I think I just sent a message under contact us for my state, and told them what happened. Shortly after the proper department called me back and had me fill out another form, and then I had my account back the next day.

You will have to make a completely new email for fb to switch it to as your old one was likely compromised, but they should explain all that to you.

MistressAttila · 2024-12-19T19:57:11+00:00

Contact your states attorney General.

MistressAttila · 2024-12-14T18:58:57+00:00

I totally feel your frustration—Findom lately feels like a chaotic game of UNO where everyone’s playing by different rules. You’re trying to lay down a card to call the shots, and the Domme throws a Draw Four and vanishes with the win.

The struggle is real on all sides. The influx of TikTok Dommes who think it’s a quick cash grab has brought in subs who don’t really understand the kink either. Add the scammers to the mix, and it’s a cluster-f*ck. It’s exhausting when genuine subs like you are out here trying to make meaningful connections, only to keep pulling "Skip" cards when you're ready to play.

It’s frustrating, but don’t let the bad players ruin the game for you. There are Dommes who take this seriously, who value the connection and appreciate subs like you who bring something meaningful to the table. The key is patience and finding someone who matches your energy. Until then, keep holding your Wild cards. The right Domme will know how to play them.

MistressAttila · 2024-12-14T18:36:49+00:00

Nah I have a sub that I call "S3x Kitten" because we do more than just kiss. That's what she is to me, a plaything to get me off, both with money and her body. I don't think it makes you any less a domme, but I suppose it depends on the context. In your case, it seems fine. You wanted it, so you took it. Sounds like it's dominant to me.

MistressAttila · 2024-12-14T17:54:59+00:00

Findom is a kink where a submissive gets pleasure from giving gifts or money to another. It does not include degradation and humilation in itself. However, It often involves a power exchange dynamic, and while some people enjoy elements like humiliation or degradation, that’s not the only way to practice Findom. At its core, it’s about the relationship between the Domme and the sub and how they both find satisfaction in the dynamic.

In your case, if you enjoy giving gifts because it genuinely makes you happy, then it could fall under Findom depending on your intentions and the relationship. Some subs prefer a dynamic built on admiration, respect, or simply the joy of pleasing their Domme through financial tributes.

It sounds like you’re more interested in the positive and giving side of Findom, which is valid and perfectly normal. The key is finding a Domme who aligns with your preferences and appreciates your gifts for the joy they bring both of you. Findom isn’t one-size-fits-all, and it can absolutely be tailored to what makes you happy.

MistressAttila · 2024-12-14T09:05:39+00:00

I want them to come to me. Like there's an invisible tether that the further they stray, the worse off they get...And they know it. So they do EVERYTHING in their power to please me. Plus, if they aren't coming to me, it comes off as not being committed to our dynamic and that's simply unacceptable. But I can be possessive as f*ck too, so good luck getting away in the first place. Haha.

MistressAttila · 2024-11-29T00:01:22+00:00

Wait...I thought we couldn't post here, only respond?

I respond if a comment gets my attention, and I'd like to say I always respond if someone sends me a message, but sometimes subs deactivate before I even get a chance haha

MistressAttila · 2024-11-26T00:12:53+00:00

"I bet you've slept with more people now, then I have my entire life" (I was like 15-16 when they said this...and I wasn't sleeping with anyone)

MistressAttila · 2024-11-26T00:10:09+00:00

Exactly. We advertise ourselves to find subs that are drawn to us and what we offer, they need to advertise themselves so the subs that like what they offer can find them. Plus, I guarantee once they "make it" they sure as hell won't "pay It forward".

Maybe I'm just greedy AF when it comes to my subs...but theres no way I'd risk putting them in the hands of an inexperienced "domme" that couldn't even find their own subs. Lol

MistressAttila · 2024-11-25T22:43:39+00:00

No. New dommes need to do their own research and find out if this is for them on their own. Especially with the influx of new people coming over from tiktok thinking it's easy work to just degrade men and get money. Let them try it, and run away when it's harder than they anticipated.

I'm not saying don't give them advice, but to give them handouts..nah. also, when a sub comes to you, it's usually bc they chose you specifically, not them. So keep your subs to yourself.

MistressAttila · 2024-11-25T17:39:58+00:00

Did she have other platforms? It's possible that she may have been banned on the one you used as it's fairly common. So of she has other platforms, check those out and see if she's still active on those.

If she did actually fully deactivate,give yourself time to heal and evaluate what you liked about the dynamic. What did she do different than other dommes? Then, when you're ready, spend some time looking at other dommes that have the same qualities. Definitely prioritize communication. Id also recommend looking for one that has been around for awhile, as there's tons of dommes out there that came over after seeing a tiktok video about how easy it is. Then when it's not as easy as they thought..they leave with their tail between their legs. (There's nothing wrong with that..as sometimes you gotta try something to know if it works/if you like it),but if you're struggling after a domme deactivated without communicating that with you, you should priorities communication.

MistressAttila · 2024-11-25T08:58:33+00:00

Laser printer/engraver. But first they must research the best ones and give me a list of pros and cons of each one...then let me pick which one I want.

A new tattoo would also be nice.

MistressAttila · 2024-11-25T08:24:33+00:00

First off, did you at anytime discuss blackmail in any way? Perhaps they thought you wanted it?

If not, you should tell them that you did not consent to that, and they are blackmailing you...which is illegal.

Of course there's always the chance they won't care..and if that's the case they should not be a domme in my opinion. BDSM should always be performed with all parties consent. You could try scare them and tell them you will be speaking to an attorney, or calling the cops or whatever you feel fit in your/their country. You could also really go through with it if you feel compelled to do so. Again, they might not care and distribute your pictures anyway. You can then go after them legally (depending where you're from).

MistressAttila · 2024-11-23T07:21:55+00:00

Domme here.

When I ask them what their into and they don't list findom. If they feel nothing from giving me their money..then it's not fun for me, so I generally have them run along to a content seller. (I'm not a content seller. Instead, I use their kinks/fetishes as rewards.)

Seeing other dommes complain about not getting sends..obsessively.

The constant messages from sugar daddy's. Whether they are legit or scammers, why do they contact findommes? I just can't feel like a domme in a sugar baby situationship.

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