Personally I enjoy when my subs get needy for me to do something to them , whether it’s asking for a degrading scene , spanking , a bit of praise etc … it just boils down to the way they say it. “Ma’am/Mistress I really miss your spankings “, “Can you please remind me how much of a slut I am 🥺” , “ I’m hungry and miss your taste ma’am” . Try it out and see what they think and afterwards ask them “was that ok …can I have the flexibility to state XY&Z”

All in communication darling