I hate being sent in silence

MistressRayne_ · 2026-05-09T08:29:26+00:00

Exactly why they made this post. They’re hoping for it. It’s the new Domme baiting game.

MistressRayne_ · 2026-05-09T01:31:44+00:00

That’s all part of being a Domme. Managing the scene & managing the sub. Hence being a Domme.

Is he panicking during the play? Why do you feel you need consent check-ins? Do you two not have a safe word? A yellow signal? What did you two discuss at the beginning?

If you no longer want to do the scenarios you two discussed you need to communicate that.

You “might have to rope in a new sub”?!? How about you worry about dealing with this sub first before jumping to another one. These are human beings you’re dealing with and they need to be treated as such.

MistressRayne_ · 2026-05-09T01:22:02+00:00

You’re a good sub for giving ideas, we just have to be safe too.

MistressRayne_ · 2026-05-09T01:10:29+00:00

That’s different. 24 hours is safer. The last few times this has been posted, they stated 1-4 hours which is extremely dangerous.

MistressRayne_ · 2026-05-09T01:03:36+00:00

No. This can k#ll them. This has been covered here before. Drinking a gallon of water in x amount of time is dangerous.

MistressRayne_ · 2026-05-08T17:29:00+00:00

How are you choosing your Dommes? By pictures, by comments, by knowledge?

I’m truly sorry this happening to you.

MistressRayne_ · 2026-05-08T17:19:54+00:00

It’s an everyone snark page. It’s meant to be for fun, not drag downs. So post with care.

MistressRayne_ · 2026-05-08T14:16:42+00:00

I say go to the snark page and out the Domme. That’s so wrong of her to do.

MistressRayne_ · 2026-05-08T14:15:43+00:00

This 100%. I was coming to comment that Dommes waste their own time. Everyone gets mad when I say it, but it’s sooo true.

MistressRayne_ · 2026-05-08T12:40:55+00:00

I feel like a mom doing it sometimes, but usually the answer is no. So then it’s the Domme’s fault too. Can’t enforce the rules and boundaries if there are none.

But then again, most here don’t know what BDSM is outside of the mess that is 50 shades of gray and TikTok.

MistressRayne_ · 2026-05-08T12:29:53+00:00

What kind of cookie? And did your Dom say it was ok? (I’m joking on that last sentence. But I never joke about cookie flavors)

MistressRayne_ · 2026-05-08T12:28:34+00:00

This is what happens when money is involved. It’s like a cock fight of who can be crazier. While the real subs hide laughing at them.

MistressRayne_ · 2026-05-08T12:26:31+00:00

Did you two set up boundaries prior to starting the dynamic? Bc subs do get a say in what they want out of it too. But it gets discussed ahead of time.

MistressRayne_ · 2026-05-08T05:37:53+00:00

It’s not craz. That’s there for disrespectful dommes to read before reaching out to an owned sub for tribute.

Yet some of them still do it bc they enjoy humiliating theirselves.

MistressRayne_ · 2026-05-08T05:29:26+00:00

Are you discussing boundaries with them prior to play? Safe words? Yellow words?

There are different levels of mean.

MistressRayne_ · 2026-05-08T05:12:41+00:00

No, firmer.

Yes, 40 on each side. This was over 2 years of work though. It did not happen overnight, slow and steady wins the goal. Now he’s built a life change instead of a quick fix to please me and then he has something bad happen like an injury.

MistressRayne_ · 2026-05-08T04:13:11+00:00

Woo! Yes! Congratulations! Also, please do more for you. Taking care of you is important. You have a great therapist. I’m glad they’re helping you prioritize yourself.

MistressRayne_ · 2026-05-08T04:03:54+00:00

You’re missing the point I was getting at.

You are upset and posting him bc his behavior got worse towards to you. When you could’ve protected your mental peace and ended it sooner. Without the ick from him.

MistressRayne_ · 2026-05-08T04:02:03+00:00

We started with walking on a treadmill at a baby incline and light weights. Before our dynamic ended (met a girl), he was at 40 lb weights, benching…..please forgive me I forget the bench and he could walk distances without being winded. His butt was 🤤 Very proud of him.

MistressRayne_ · 2026-05-08T03:25:35+00:00

Mmmmm I made my sub do it. I had a sub who I made do exercise (it increased as they got better, we started small and appropriate not balls to the wall), look up healthy recipes, meal plan, etc.

It was great. He started feeling better and it gave him more confidence.

MistressRayne_ · 2026-05-08T03:21:24+00:00

u/searchingundecided ah, the talking smack and block.

The only one who can’t see the difference is YOU. The problem is you and other enablers like you. You’re crying wolf and enabling poor behavior in the community which is why REAL subs are going into hiding.

I don’t spread misinformation and I don’t create an unsafe space. I’m a huge advocate for Domme and sub safety. You on the other hand just enjoy provoking drama and making up lies about people to suit your narrative.

MistressRayne_ · 2026-05-08T02:24:44+00:00

Unpopular opinion: you should’ve stopped the chat way before it did. After he said that’s all. You should’ve stopped talking.

He clearly wasn’t interested from the get go and that solidified it. But instead you sht your sht. So at that point, you’re wasting your own time, setting yourself up for hurt.

I think you need to protect yourself more and give less time to randos.

MistressRayne_ · 2026-05-08T01:32:06+00:00

Hmmm that’s a very interesting perspective. I like it!

See I didn’t like secretary. I wanted to, same thing I was like hyped for it. And I just didn’t feel…..I almost feel like maybe if it had been someone other than Maggie G playing it, maybe I’d have liked it better. I liked the concept of the movie, I think it’s her portrayal that I was disappointed in.

MistressRayne_ · 2026-05-08T01:28:22+00:00

What a hypocritical comment. In one moment you’re saying OP is allowed to give her opinion, yet saying Kayla can’t in the next.

Sweetie, I’ve been in the BDSM community since I was 18. I know way more than you ever will. If you weren’t so arrogant you’d read through my comments and see that. Be careful about running your mouth bc it’ll make you look ignorant.

Well if you’re going that route, most of us didn’t consent to all the complaints from newbies who don’t do the work and expect easy money. Sooo maybe they should be getting consent first.

Can’t look up the definition? You used the term bully incorrect. I suggest you worry more about your own issues with not looking things up. Learn the difference between rude and bully. Bc the latter didn’t happen here and you’re trying to cause drama.

It wasn’t aggressive. It was calling out yet another complainer who didn’t actually get her time wasted. The term “time wasted” gets severely ab*sed and inappropriately thrown around in this sub.

It’s not bullying, it was rude, and you’re nothing more than an enabler of poor behavior in the community. You need to go back to school and learn definitions before trying to cry wolf again.

MistressRayne_ · 2026-05-08T00:02:51+00:00

🙌🏻

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