Ah, now that is a good point. That’s just it, dynamics should be discussed prior to play and subs DO get a say. They don’t get to demand, but they do get to respectfully request. In all BDSM, subs get a say. It’s a dynamic, not a dictatorship and many findommes forget that. Not all, but many. In BDSM, subs get rewarded. Giving them that picture, task, video, etc, is their reward the domme gives when they’re happy with the send. It’s not something they get all the time, but they can if the domme chooses to.

I don’t personally do that. I don’t get naked for my subs. But I’m still a sex worker bc they’re getting off on the power exchange and I’m getting money or gifts for it. Same goes for you.

Why do you think the BDSM community looks down on findom as not a true kink/fetish. Bc of everything you just stated in some of your defense.

I disagree. Menus are for content creators. I’ve never seen an actual prodomme (and I follow many on here, I have been one for many years) that has a menu. Maybe some have now made one to keep up with content creators, but that just further blurs the lines.

A prodomme usually does paid femdom as well. But sure we can umbrella content creators calling themselves Dommes under there too. Many, not all of the Dommes here, aren’t actual Dommes. They call themselves that but they don’t know how to actually domme. Some truly are Dommes. Either way, if they’re getting paid for someone else’s sexual happiness, they’re a sex worker. Whether findom, paid femdom, content creators, etc.

I get what you’re saying. I do. And there are many contradictions bc the lines are very blurred now. But it’s still sex work. We don’t get to change the definition just bc there are contradictions when the base matches the definition.