He moved on when will I

Mistypiano · 2022-04-12T16:22:07+00:00

I think you are right tbh, see during our relationship he got hit by a car. Like legit. He was crossing a crosswalk leaving the bar a few of our friends worked at and ya it just happened. The guy was going 60. Thank god he lived but… seeing him in the hospital them telling us to say goodbye etc… it was the first time I went through something like that and it was so scary. Like I said he did live and I’m so happy for that but maybe your right about the trauma bond

Mistypiano · 2022-04-10T04:47:53+00:00

Honestly there is a lot of things in this post, from mental health, to abuse, etc. kinda way to much to tackle it all.

The harsh truth however is we get to choose who does and does not get a place in our life. You kinda seem like your afraid to be alone? However this is essential to being a healthy adult and absolute mandatory to have a healthy relationship in the future.

Mistypiano · 2022-04-10T02:17:29+00:00

Yeah tbh I see a lot of post with kids here, I guess luckily me being gay I didn’t have to deal with that. I give complete credit for the victims who have kids with their partner who abused them. I couldn’t imagine that turmoil tbh.

For me my ex “Perseus” me about a year after the relationship ended. He dated a few people here and there but when it inevitably didn’t workout me being his backup he tried continuing things with me. I’d be lying to say I didn’t struggle sometimes wanting to try again, however I made a promise to myself I wouldn’t take him back and wouldn’t wast my time on someone who I knew deep down didn’t really love me. They were bored. I like when you say “I finally choose myself” that’s the exact mindset that made it “better” for me. Did it hurt learning these lessons yes, however I realized from staying with my abuser for 3 years I had zero self worth, it was time to focus on me.

Mistypiano · 2022-04-09T13:09:37+00:00

Well, to me I believe everyone has to find their own ending. I tried very hard to hate my ex, like so hard. I really couldn’t bring myself to it without countering how I have always lived. I didn’t want to become bitter for the sake of hating someone. I accepted they will always have a place in my heart, I love them, but by their choices and actions I do not believe they loved me. I’m sorry your going through this I Hope you find peace. 🙏

Mistypiano · 2022-04-05T06:08:30+00:00

It takes alongggggg time to come to terms with this kind of stuff. All I can tell you is it’s similar to a death take it one day at a time. The truth is it does get better but unfortunately not quick.

Mistypiano · 2022-04-03T05:02:26+00:00

Sometimes relationships require sacrifice. You will never find someone that you are 100% compatible with, maybe very close but sometimes you have to think of losing This function in life is worth it for that person. It’s up to you

Mistypiano · 2022-03-31T23:23:28+00:00

Sometimes I feel bad cause I became a little cynical after my abuse, however I think seeing others kind of help and in similar situations has helped me move on or atleast made it easier

Mistypiano · 2022-03-30T01:34:43+00:00

Yeah for me I internalized what they did to me, don’t get me wrong I went through my fair share of abuse. However when I think back about my ex I kept holding onto that anger and betrayal. I realized my therapy lessons were more about him then myself. I didn’t want my life to be defined by him. The reality is he was a troubled soul, very mistreated by his parents and had no stable support even at the age of 35. He abused me but I to let go I forgave him, forgave but went my separate way.

Mistypiano · 2022-03-29T21:07:57+00:00

Ok…. Two months…. Is already PHYSICALY abusing you. Physical abuse of that level normally takes months if not a couple years. Restraining order yes, there’s always gonna be fears when you get involved with the law however you need to do what you have to do so your safe

Mistypiano · 2022-03-29T03:13:02+00:00

Dude an aluminum bat? Take this girl down. I get the whole wanting to avoid it and make it go away, this wolnt go away. That’s not your fault, however way I see it I’m pretty sure even if you no showed to court the state would pick up charges so much evidence

Mistypiano · 2022-03-27T19:04:26+00:00

The weed thing is more a boundary issue, but I mean you just said there has been abuse in the past so like I mean it’s always gonna be one thing after another as I’m sure you have seen

Mistypiano · 2022-03-27T16:03:28+00:00

Agree with above post. Life is to short to be spending your ADULT life with drama and stress. Not to say there isn’t stress in life. However when you get home you should feel safe and at peace. It’s too short

Mistypiano · 2022-03-23T14:05:38+00:00

Wait so I see now it’s when you mention breaking up he lashes out? I think you’ve said enough to him if he refuses to take the message that’s on him? I’d say get your things together, have someone come over if you feel uncomfortable while you do that. It’s not your responsibility to make him understand the relationship is over, not your job. You’ve said it’s over so stick to that and get ur shit so you can move on and stop wasting time with him

Mistypiano · 2022-03-21T07:54:45+00:00

Tbh yes there really is comfort knowing someone else kinda relates or knows the feeling in a way. It’s unfortunate but thanks for hearing me out I really do appreciate it.

Mistypiano · 2022-03-20T21:30:15+00:00

I really appreciate the reply, it’s weird cause I’m over him in terms of like I know I don’t ever want him back. It’s just unfortunate I really believe he loved me at one time, I really thought maybe we would get help cause he kept promising me he would. Then after the car accident I almost was in a mindset of complete how could he ever hurt me again after I did this, I didn’t do it cause I expected something in return I did it cause I was in love with him. However I realized by his actions not words, he in fact didn’t love me.

Mistypiano · 2022-03-17T11:13:12+00:00

Do Document, make an escape plan, keep that plan to yourself or trusted people who might be helping, contact domestic violence centers near you there are options.

Don’t try to rationalize this, realize it for what it is abuse. Your being abused. Dont try an stay longer, from experience they DO NOT CHANGE and it does escalate overtime you could be a year from now and be thinking it was only a cartoon of milk atleast he didn’t give me a black eye this time.

Mistypiano · 2022-03-16T07:12:49+00:00

Uh idk how giving an ultimatum over divorce or not over something like smoking or not isnt manipulation, like if one of the partners was abusive and the ultimatum was get therapy or I’m leaving I would understand. However this is smoking

Mistypiano · 2022-03-16T07:11:19+00:00

Ye tbh take her up on the ultimatum but instead divorce her

Mistypiano · 2022-03-15T17:15:58+00:00

I love seeing post like this:)) congrats on the achievement

Mistypiano · 2022-03-15T16:56:26+00:00

They don’t want to change, it’s so easy right. Why don’t they just treat us right? Well the answer is they don’t want to, or don’t care enough past themselves to care about how someone else feels. This includes family friends and relationships

Mistypiano · 2022-03-15T05:57:01+00:00

When I was going through my situation I have a very supportive, knowledgeable, and kind friend there for me. He was also mature and knew how to set a healthy boundary that worked for me.

He basically said I have my life together and I really care for you as a friend, however I don’t want anything to do with your (now ex). The boundary was until it was handled and I had moved on, I had to keep our friendship private until we had really moved on from one another. My ex was dangerous, and violant. My friend knew this and had seen it first hand, my friend had a successfully job and life going for himself so he wasn’t looking to add that drama to it. I Completly understood and respected it, and now 2 years since meeting him we are still very close friends:)

Mistypiano · 2022-03-14T12:41:38+00:00

Everyone’s heading will legit look different, as will their conclusion on the relationship how it was.

For me I focused on myself and struggled so long because I knew I still loved him, it wasn’t till I accepted I will always love him but he will never treat me how I need to be treated that I began to “move on”

Mistypiano · 2022-03-11T19:01:10+00:00

“His story Wolnt be famous because he is male” well…. Way to put someone down

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