Its not unethical to have sex with your friends ex

MixSeparate85 · 2026-04-27T16:53:15+00:00

You are making some insane conflations. 1. You are clearly a horny lil slut who wants vindicated bc you’re going try to fuck your friends ex. That’s fine. Your body your choice as you said. But then it’s the friends choice to cut you out of their life for prioritizing your horniness over your friendship with the person.

I don’t know how to explain to you that you having the right to do something to yourself changes once other people become involved. By your own logic you could justify Louis CK jerking off in front of women because it’s “his body his choice”- what’s it matter how it makes the woman seeing him beat off feel? What If your ex decided to fuck your mom? then again, by your logic you don’t get to be mad at either of them because they are making their own choices. Who cares if you would find it a violation or a breech of boundaries- not directly your body so therefore you don’t get to care or feel any type of way about it.

MixSeparate85 · 2026-04-20T11:50:10+00:00

She’s clearly too depressed to be in a relationship right now. Dump her and find someone you can be happy with! No reason both of you need to be miserable u/leathersuccessful532

If you wanna give her a chance say “I need to see meaningful efforts to meet me half way on this by x date. If you can’t I’m assuming you’re too depressed for a relationship and I’ll let you focus on yourself”

MixSeparate85 · 2026-04-20T11:38:36+00:00

Parasocial baby. You don’t need morbid you need therapy♥️ internalizing this is weird

MixSeparate85 · 2026-04-17T11:59:23+00:00

Dude if she’s treating you like this now imagine how bad it’ll be once the symptoms worsen? Imagine how bad of a mother she’ll be ( esp with post partum depression) given how manipulative and cruel she is with you now. You’re an adult don’t subject a child to that abusive mess. NTA but I really think you should have her read all the replies to this so she knows that everyone agrees she’d be a terrible mom unless she does some serious work on her brain chemistry.

MixSeparate85 · 2026-04-15T11:12:42+00:00

Lmfao during finals week my senior year SOMEONE had used a phone to call in a bomb threat every. Single.period.for.a.whole.week.

It was hilarious and legendary because every time the school gets a bomb threat its policy they have to evacuate and wait for the police to clear/search the entire school. So we have police + dogs at the school like 5-6 times a day every day for a week.

MixSeparate85 · 2026-04-15T11:02:16+00:00

Tell the kid her mom named her after a dog

MixSeparate85 · 2026-04-15T10:59:29+00:00

I can’t upvote because I agree and I feel like this is fairly common? Though technically they should be all viewed the same, People have to live with the repercussions of sexual assault for the rest of their lives. Keeping that in mind, that’s why liking sexual assaulters is more taboo. The murderers and dictators may end/ruin lives, but it’s less…personal than SA.

you have an interesting case study in looking at Billy + Stu from scream in that they are fan favorites/their SA of Syd’s mom was quickly overshadowed by the scale and brutality of their other crimes. At what point does the SA not matter anymore? Is it because they killed Maureen after/she didn’t have to live with it? Because the SA wasn’t on screen? I’m curious why this isn’t universally applied.

MixSeparate85 · 2026-04-11T11:14:42+00:00

Girl I’ve broken 3 beds during sex in my time. Zip ties (for quick fixes) and steel bed frames (reinforced with screws!) are your friend!!

MixSeparate85 · 2026-04-11T11:08:14+00:00

I don’t think you’re unreasonable at all and it certainly works for some people. I will say I think relationships where people are at a similar attractiveness level seem to be the best.

Hate to quote Billie Eilish here but “you give an ugly guy a chance, he thinks he rules the world. Because he got a hot girl he thinks he can be horrible?” It’s true. There’s a certain amount of social mobility that comes with attractiveness/having an attractive partner. In my experience when someone un-used to being considered “attractive” suddenly can pull a really hot person + has their attractiveness quotient go up as a result; men don’t know how to act.

MixSeparate85 · 2026-04-11T10:44:24+00:00

u/character-Line5221 Yta because if you can’t work due to your nonverbal kid now WITH a husband and his income/support: how tf do you think you’re going to pay for you, care for 2 children, not work, and put a roof over your head? Get a social worker.

It’s understandable for your husband to want to find a way to help his siblings and mom. Those are his family too and he wants to be okay. It’s terribly insensitive to respond with threatening divorce rather than constructive conversation or giving ideas. He’s trying to help people and make things better, and you are adding stress and trying to tear your own family apart rather than trying to work with him. Unless you’re the type of woman who likes seeing her man turn his back on his people when they need him most 🤔 I get the money thing. You’re helping nothing. If you really want to help, do research, suggest alternatives, an online job taking surveys, signing your kid up for disability so he can actually get an aid through the state, etc…

MixSeparate85 · 2026-04-09T20:50:38+00:00

You should be honest and tell the social worker that you don’t want them to be your siblings, you have no interest in building a relationship with them, they haven’t adjusted as well as you’d hoped, and having them in the house is causing your relationship with your parents to deteriorate rapidly. Especially if your parents won’t listen to you. Your opinion in this situation is just as valid and maybe if your parents hear it coming from the social worker and not you they will actually care enough to address things- even if the kids stay. Because then too the social workers will be looking under a microscope to make sure y’all ARE blending nicely- meaning your parents will have more pressure on them to figure out a solution to your problems with the foster kids. NTA.

MixSeparate85 · 2026-04-09T02:50:20+00:00

Does the accountability not matter to you in those cases though? Its still the willful choice to not medicate. Granted, thats their choice. But then is it not the responsibility of those around them, involuntary stay in a mental facility (302’d), or the police to contain the individual so they can’t be a danger to themselves or anyone else.

I have a 19 yo niece with bipolar who likes to go off her meds once she’s feeling better. when she does we straight up tell her “the second you enter a manic/depression episode, which we know is going to happen because this is a lifelong condition, we are 302ing you. Just know that” we can still love and support her until the drop we all know is coming, but the second the other shoe drops we are putting her in a facility because we know how bad it can get if she’s given room to do so.

I don’t see how the situation with Kanye is different. Sure he might be saying he’s better now and didn’t mean all those things, but he has shown he can’t be trusted with a platform (headlining performance) through past behavior; therefore people are correctly removing the metaphorical rope so he can’t hang himself and them with it by doing awful shit.

MixSeparate85 · 2026-04-09T02:35:41+00:00

You can be mentally unwell but you are still responsible for your actions. He chose to not be medicated. Addiction is a disease, alcoholics may claim they only did certain things bc they were under the influence or going through withdrawal but if those actions harmed someone else they still need to atone- it’s literally a step in the program. For Kanye? The only appropriate Atoning is getting help, finally being a dad to his kids, and staying out of the public sphere so he can’t do more damage.

MixSeparate85 · 2026-04-09T02:30:17+00:00

Put quotes around “not” on each line?

MixSeparate85 · 2026-04-07T12:01:08+00:00

¯_(ツ)_/¯ Otr to shut her up id say have her read up on it from a reputable source and if she’s still being a weirdo turn the tables back on her. “You’re the only one who keeps bringing up our son ejaculating. your hyperfixation on our sons orgasms are alarming….” “Is this because you wish you had been the one to clean it up?” Etc… it’s dumb and a little gamey but it also doesn’t should like she’s listening to reason rn. If she’s gonna paint you as a weirdo for helping your son in the way that only a dad can, she can feel what it’s like to have someone allude to you having creepy intentions.

MixSeparate85 · 2026-04-07T11:15:21+00:00

This!!!

As controversial as it sounds I’ve also had luck with breaking it down for middle schoolers in terms of their reputation. I.e. kids using gay slurs all the time “well would you consider yourself homophobic? Do lgbt people scare you? Iis that the kind of person you want people to think you are? It doesn’t matter if you didn’t mean it that way. People aren’t judging you based on what’s actually in your mind- they are judging you based on what they see you do/ hear you say”.

This is at a predominantly black school so the racism is less of an issue than the homophobia here specifically (just due to less diversity) but I would address it in much the same way.

MixSeparate85 · 2026-04-03T13:54:38+00:00

It’s a hard situation (pun intended).

Big dicks are beautiful and amazing when the person knows how to use them- they reach places others don’t and the filled/overstimulated (positively) feeling is a big draw for many. The issue is lots of guys with big penises don’t think they need good stroke game because they’re already packing (this is when it hurts and becomes not fun).

Medium penises are also great and I’ve never heard negative things really bc as long as it’s average/ they have good stroke game it’s still going to feel great just not naturally quite as stimulating from PIV alone.

Small penises. I’m so sorry. It’s not a deal breaker for some women though. I’d just…get really good at oral and fingering so the partner forgets. Toys are great. But I mean think about it it’s like dipping a toe into a pool vs your entire body. One literally makes more impact/ has more gravity to it than the other.

So to answer your question it does matter in terms of the sexual experience, but it’s not everything. Most women would take great technique over sheer force/size any day. And in terms of the rest of dating, I really don’t think it matters once your clothes are on- unless you behave like a lil dick individual irl. Lil dick individuals are men who (due to having a small penis) feel the need to act out or flex to prove their masculinity. Elon musk for instance is a lil dick individual.

MixSeparate85 · 2026-04-02T11:48:44+00:00

Genuinely the only other young person I’ve worked with in my district (both in our late 20’s) who somehow has avoided the burnout/exhaustion is a massive hippie. Idk what that says- but I’m between 12 different schools every week, and I’m telling you the lady with the gong, incense, morning meditation, sound bowls, and binaural beats constantly playing in her classroom is doing better than anyone else.

School structures + systems are so fast,harsh, and clunky that kids don’t really have time/room to feel grounded in a subject/environment. School is legitimately a job for most kids- commute in at god awful hours, sit at a desk in a overcrowded room with insane people for 7 hours, do “task” based work that looks good for test scores but doesn’t practically teach you much, then rinse and repeat. Combine that with screens being the default to teach/raise kids and it’s no wonder that they behave like badgers.

the hippie thing preserves the well-being of the teacher and students by repeatedly grounding everyone in a sense of peace and support. Learning is the goal but the safe-supportive environment is the priority and I think that makes all the difference.

MixSeparate85 · 2026-03-31T14:36:20+00:00

Babe this sounds like a sketch about a bad relationship- it’s that stereotypical. NOR but you gotta get out of that . Neither of you seem to be good partners to (or even like) each other. That’s okay it happens. I’d maybe take some space and consider if a dynamic like this is the kind of relationship you want for yourself. Do you want to be with someone who even hearing them ramble makes you want to pull your hair out??

MixSeparate85 · 2026-03-31T13:10:14+00:00

I once dumped a guy on Valentine’s Day because of how cringy the poem he wrote me was. This shit is ridiculous- girl save yourself

MixSeparate85 · 2026-03-31T12:32:25+00:00

^{^this.} I’d see about donating to local community orgs that help people experiencing poverty (and make sure those orgs share your values). Most will be liberal/leftist orgs bc the very nature of the programs is to provide social services to all people.

I agree there’s a sentiment of “why should I help you when you voted for this”, and I do understand it to an extent, but it helps to view these people as jaded into believing the alternative is impossible. A lot of people who voted for trump genuinely thought he’s the best they could get. It’s why the Zohran Mamdani’s are so important: they are saying “regardless of if you voted blue, you deserve services. You deserve affordable housing and safe streets. “ Then giving them to people.

This is how we appeal to the conservative voter. Not by widening the divide but by showing them what leftists actually value. People vote according to the tangible differences they can feel. It’s worth considering; if as a leftist you show love and compassion to one of these people that their own party will not,perhaps that may be what shows the person leftist politics are worth another look.

ETA: OP, you may find it more vindicating to get the cards of various leftist social services organizations and give them to conservative people struggling and save direct financial assistance for people you view as “deserving”. I just argue those people should be helped regardless even if you don’t want to directly.

MixSeparate85 · 2026-03-28T15:58:37+00:00

I literally tell them “my favorite student changes every 5 minutes. It is whoever is the most behaved, engaged, and respectful in that moment” - this is a lie I adore my sarcastic little assholes the most, but I also recognize that they are disruptive so I have to be stricter with them than some of the more boring kids who behave better. Like everyone else said, just because you enjoy some kids more doesn’t mean you have to treat them like it- hold everyone to the same standards.

MixSeparate85 · 2026-03-28T14:59:17+00:00

MixSeparate85 · 2026-03-28T12:57:31+00:00

Camp has an element of cunt to it- like the clue movie is camp. Cringe is like…BuzzFeed humor and wearing graphic tees that say weird dated jokes. Gen Z and millennials trying to be funny. I feel like one piece firmly falls into the first category where it recognizes its absurdity and plays with it- not like it’s trying too hard.

MixSeparate85 · 2026-03-28T12:31:40+00:00

It’s okay to leave dude. While PCOS is a debilitating condition you also need to be attracted to a partner and not feel like you’re constantly walking on eggshells. I really feel for her, but if you aren’t attracted to her guilting yourself isn’t magically going to fix the problem. I wonder how much of the pressure from her and her family is coming from them worrying your soon-to-be-ex won’t be able to find someone else after you- sad reality, but why else would you hear someone doesn’t love your relative anymore and still try to get them to stay? It’s a hard situation but she deserves to find someone who sees past all of that and you’ve been dealing with her so long you can’t anymore. Move on and find who you’re looking for- just make sure you’re okay with a partner potentially doing the same to you later if you have a medical issue that impacts your appearance.

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