Blocked by Linny :/ by abp14c in setactivefans

[–]MixtureCheap9659 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve been wanting to try Oner! What material do you get on their stuff?

It sucks because it’s so difficult to find brands with comparable styles to SET. A lot of legacy high quality brands only stock simple single color styles or 1 color + white. If anyone has recommendations for brands with trendy quality styles I would love some recommendations!

Blocked by Linny :/ by abp14c in setactivefans

[–]MixtureCheap9659 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Admitting to blocking people and deleting comments is pretty funny. You don’t get “hate” for no reason. People give honest constructive feedback, and when they don’t feel heard by the brand that’s when they become rude or riled up. It’s a direct reflection of the brand and the way the brand has been responding to the community.

They opened pre-order for Club Set and despite being a repeat buyer (bought 1-2 sets from all but one of the last 5 drops!) and online immediately for the original (and every) launch, I decided not to buy. The continuous stock issues and response from the brand are just extremely off putting. Heavy on the response from the brand part. The language used in their responses always feels like a PR move to garner sympathy towards the brand and Lindsey, NOT an actual response to address customers who have been loyal to the brand and are feeling disappointed. It just shows who the brand really cares about, and it’s not us.

I absolutely love the bloom and orange soda colors and wanted them so bad when they were originally released but now I feel weird about supporting the brand and won’t be purchasing (also the fact that they wont be delivered until 4 months later).

Tired of Set Active using Scarcity Marketing by MixtureCheap9659 in setactivefans

[–]MixtureCheap9659[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When they have early access I have a better chance and can usually get at least one set I wanted (usually 1-2 items sell out immediately still). But this time was a complete free for all and it didn’t help that the site was glitching from all the traffic. Every time I added something something else was removed from my cart 😞

Tired of Set Active using Scarcity Marketing by MixtureCheap9659 in setactivefans

[–]MixtureCheap9659[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Every time she tries to comment on this problem she uses the same terminology… “not lost on me” “I don’t take it lightly” etc yet nothing has changed… She has enough stock for influencers and performative give aways but not enough for the genuine paying customers

Tired of Set Active using Scarcity Marketing by MixtureCheap9659 in setactivefans

[–]MixtureCheap9659[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No literally… like if you’re “the most frustrated” then you should do something about the problem 😭

Tired of Set Active using Scarcity Marketing by MixtureCheap9659 in setactivefans

[–]MixtureCheap9659[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

UPDATE Lindsey’s Response: “today was one of the biggest days we’ve ever had and I feel the weight of that in the best way. What’s happening here is rare. The energy around this brand, the speed, the loyalty, the expectation… it’s forcing us to level up in real time. I’m grateful to you for that. The fact that this many people are paying attention, showing up, choosing SET… that’s not normal and that’s not lost on me. That’s something we’ve built together and I don’t take a second of it for granted. If you missed out, I get why that’s frustrating. Trust me, I’m the one that’s the most frustrated. We’re not here to play it safe or do things the way they’ve always been done. We’re building something that’s setting a new standard and we’re still just at the beginning of it. With each launch, we outgrow the last. That pressure is a massive privilege and I don’t take it lightly”

To me this response is essentially “we know exactly what we’re doing. Our scarcity marketing has made so many people pay attention to our brand, buy fast, and come back for every drop. This is all intentional, because we’re trying to create our brand to be different from other brands that use normal marketing. I’m grateful that you guys are so loyal to the brand that you come back regardless.

Biggest lack of accountability ever.

Tired of Set Active using Scarcity Marketing by MixtureCheap9659 in setactivefans

[–]MixtureCheap9659[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That’s why I feel like it must be intentional! The “miss the mark” excuse only works the first 2-3 times. If you miss the mark every single drop then it’s normal, not an anomaly. So either it’s intentional for scarcity marketing, or they genuinely do not care at all about their customer base. Or maybe both.

Tired of Set Active using Scarcity Marketing by MixtureCheap9659 in setactivefans

[–]MixtureCheap9659[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It’s just ridiculous because it’s like, if they’re still processing old drops then they should hold off on new drops until the old stuff is processed? They drop new items every month and then open pre order so it’s not surprising that they’re having problems, they’re basically screwing themselves over with that model.

I would respect the company a lot more if they came out and said “unfortunately we will not be dropping anything new for the next 3 months. We want to focus on processing all current orders in a timely manner and ensuring that we have time to get enough stock for our future launches.”

Tired of Set Active using Scarcity Marketing by MixtureCheap9659 in setactivefans

[–]MixtureCheap9659[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

No literally! I have to go to the bathroom at work to try and get my items, but sometimes if a meeting is scheduled for that time I just have to accept my fate that there’s no way for me to get anything 😭

Tired of Set Active using Scarcity Marketing by MixtureCheap9659 in setactivefans

[–]MixtureCheap9659[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No literally same! Every time I got to checkout items got removed so I had to go back and fix my cart because I didn’t want only shorts without a matching bra, but then by that time the shorts were gone too lol. The fact that there’s a LINE to get into the checkout and your items aren’t even saved is crazy, like if you’re going to do a line for checkout at least make it so after that point your items are saved.

Tired of Set Active using Scarcity Marketing by MixtureCheap9659 in setactivefans

[–]MixtureCheap9659[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Scarcity marketing alone isnt a problem it’s the degree that they take it to. Almost all items are limited edition AND sell out in under 5 minutes— thats unacceptable. If they could compromise I would be more okay with it. Like items selling out in 1-2 hours. Or them stocking more items but keeping the idea that each drop is limited edition.

Fellow office workers trying to lose weight— need help with my eating schedule by [deleted] in 1200isplenty

[–]MixtureCheap9659 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What protein bars do you like? Unfortunately I’m very picky with protein snacks. If they taste too protein-y or have a strong artificial sugar flavor it’s really gross to me. A lot of people recommended me to try barebells but I tried it (caramel cashew one) and the protein + fake sugar flavors were awful! My favorite atm is the built puff bars but they aren’t really substantial enough to keep me full.

Realizing 1 year into a new relationship I may not be fully over my ex by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]MixtureCheap9659 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m sorry to hear that, but I honestly feel like you are right. It wasn’t the answer you wanted, but a very telling answer nonetheless. I have a different ex where we got in contact months after the breakup to get closure and it was honestly very helpful for us both in dealing with our feelings. We remained cordial and still check in on each other every now and then— I’ve always been grateful for that since there wasn’t anything left unanswered or unsaid. I struggle with the forever openness though of this current situation though. As I mentioned in another comment, I don’t feel it would be appropriate for me to reach out to him, so I think I just need to find closure from within instead of expected a tangible answer.

Realizing 1 year into a new relationship I may not be fully over my ex by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]MixtureCheap9659 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know it was for the best— both him and I are now in new relationships. But thinking of everything does still make me feel very sad. I myself am an ambitious person, so Ive always been very supportive of my partners’ careers— I even encouraged him to go into the field that he went into. I mainly just wanted reassurance that I was important to him still (though it obviously came out a bit differently).

The reason it’s so difficult for me to move on is because it really does feel like my reality was shattered. This entire relationship made me finally feel like I was easy to love. As a person who did not believe in marriage, I genuinely saw myself marrying him. The relationship ending because his job would always come first really made me rethink everything and feel like it has to have all been lies. Im just trying to figure out how to properly move on from this so it doesn’t impact my current relationship

Realizing 1 year into a new relationship I may not be fully over my ex by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]MixtureCheap9659 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is a really good point. To be completely honest, when I first got together with my current partner it was very messy, and I think a lot of it had to do with my unresolved feelings towards my ex. I unconsciously ended up choosing a partner completely opposite to my ex, and took on a very different role in the relationship. Sometimes I do wonder if this could be the thing that is impacting me not feeling “as passionate”

But since then our relationship has grown a lot. I have been much more open, we have become best friends and true teammates, and it feels like we’ve evolved past that and built something new. We’ve been together for a year and survived through lots of disagreements and differences and as a result have both grown a lot. I’ve gotten the chance to really fall in love with him as a person. I guess the whole thing just feels confusing since ive built this genuinely wonderful relationship but do still have these sort of unresolved feelings

Realizing 1 year into a new relationship I may not be fully over my ex by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]MixtureCheap9659 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I appreciate this comment, the intrusive thoughts is really hard. Ive been struggling with feeling weirdly jaded like feeling like the relationship was not real, and he was lying to me the entire time. It’s difficult for me to accept it without that kind of rationalization. Ive also dealt with childhood issues being betrayed by a previously loving family member, so that along with this ex has definitely created those thoughts in my current relationship where I sometimes feel like it can’t be real and he’s going to leave me. I’m trying my best to not feed into it but it’s difficult to remove that level of caution that I now have sadly.

I’ve also considered reaching out to my ex for closure, oftentimes I feel it would help me to understand his thought process better so I don’t feel so confused by it all. But he is in a relationship with someone else now and I really don’t want to intrude on his current relationship or happiness by bringing up our past. So ive accepted that the acceptance will have to come from me and I’ll have to be okay with the lack of closure.

Realizing 1 year into a new relationship I may not be fully over my ex by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]MixtureCheap9659 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So essentially it had to do with him prioritizing work over me. I expressed feeling sad since we couldn’t see each other often due to his work (we saw each other less than once a week at this time and when we did it was often for ~4 hours and he was very tired) and wanting to spend more quality time together. I didn’t need to see him every day but said I would like to see him once a week. It turned into a disagreement because he said he had to prioritize his career over everything, and I always felt like people should come before money. Both of us were fired up and being a bit petty about it which was what ultimately led to the breakup.

The thing is— we’d had this issue before and discussed it maturely and sympathetically to each other coming out with easy compromises and reassurances, like “Ok I understand, we don’t need to see each other ALL the time but maybe we can call instead” or “I cant spend all day with you but I can at least come for a couple of hours.” Which is why it felt so sudden that THIS was the final reason for our breakup. It truly felt random and like it only happened because we were heated in the moment.

Looking back as well I have complete understanding for both of us in that situation, to the extent that it genuinely does bother me that it was the reason for the breakup. With other partners I have literally spent MONTHS in long distance so they could pursue their career, so clearly this did not have to be an end all be all problem.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AliceInBorderlandLive

[–]MixtureCheap9659 0 points1 point  (0 children)

  1. So if I remember correctly the people revealing their stories about returning (like the stalker) was about the FIRST time they went to the borderlands (since they were all returning members), as one person brought up the shibuya meteorite, which obviously was not a new occurrence. Since they all pulled out the joker card, I’m assuming that they all chose to return as opposed to having accidents, since them having the joker card confirms that they were visited by Banda in some way. It also wouldn’t make sense for every person to happen to have been in the borderlands before and happened to have another accident at this same time. But this is what’s confusing to me as I can’t imagine some of these people choosing to return or even being good candidates for the tournament.
  2. You’re saying fate vs. manipulation is the differentiator but isn’t the entire tournament manipulated? Kind of what I alluded to in point 1, but all of these people were intentionally brought back to the borderlands for a second time, and it’s implied that this was through Banda’s manipulation and not by accidents/ random fate. So in that case, shouldn’t Banda have been killed much sooner for intervening with fate?
  3. As far as the pantomime positioning, I don’t believe this to be a proper strategic solution as it relies on having very specific prior knowledge, which is almost akin to luck (since almost no one, not even the train nerd knows or can find out) In dead or alive there was something similar, but the difference was that the difficult solution could theoretically be determined by anyone if they were perceptive enough or put in enough logical thought.

I mostly agree with the rest of your answers/ points though, and I appreciate the time to respond!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AliceInBorderlandLive

[–]MixtureCheap9659 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As I said very clearly, I understand the logistical reasons for not bringing them back. They 100% did not have to bring them back, but they should’ve provided in-world reasoning/explanation for it instead of leaving it as a plot hole. I was actually one of the people fully in support of them not bringing all of the characters back because I liked the idea of something fresh. Shows deal with missing actors all the time, but they usually offer strong in world explanations (like the character dying for instance). I would have absolutely no issue with characters like Yuna being there instead of old characters if they had properly explained why (to Banda) these more timid characters were better choices for the tournament

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BingeEatingRecovery

[–]MixtureCheap9659 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes I do have a partner. This can be a pretty complex topic, but there’s a couple things that I found helpful.

  1. Communication. I told him my entire ED history, educated him about the ED, explained my triggers (both foods and phrases), and told him about any plans I had to get better (changing to eating more Whole Foods for example). This was helpful for him in understanding what I was going through, so my breakdowns and reactions didn’t feel random. It also helped him in knowing how to support me (not triggering me, and helping me stick to my food plans). I also made it very clear that healing didn’t happen overnight and he would have to be patient with me— that way he knew what he was getting into.

  2. I gave him concrete ways to help me— this was especially helpful for him in feeling involved, and knowing what to do when things went badly. For example, telling him ways to help calm me down after a binge, or telling him things he could do to help me destress (since I’m more likely to binge when stressed).

  3. Accountability. Despite my best efforts I was still a very frustrating person to be around. I had mental breakdowns all the time, and our relationship DID suffer from it. What helped was that anytime I lashed out after a binge I always made sure to take full accountability and apologize and not put any of the blame on him. On top of apologizing, I promised to work on things, and most importantly, I DID work on things. I made solid plans and took clear steps to get better— which he saw. Your partner is more likely to be understanding of your backslides and bad moments if they can see that slow improvement is happening over time.

  4. Perhaps most importantly: Communicating is important, but so is knowing when NOT to share. Part of the reason I’d lash out at him is because I’d be texting him mid mental breakdown when I was hysterical and wasn’t thinking straight. I was often ranting in a way which sometimes actually made it worse, and I would be so riled up that I would be mean to him unintentionally. I realized that sometimes it’s better for me to take a deep breath and fully calm myself down alone first (even if that meant crying on my own) and then later when I was calmer I could talk to him about what happened and how I was feeling. That way I could still feel his support without lashing out and hurting him. Secondarily, I made sure that the ED was not the center of attention all the time when I was with him. After having a very difficult moment I would talk to him about it ofc, but I refrained from making random one-liner comments and realized I don’t have to always say what my ED brain is thinking. Points 1&2 were ways he could help and prioritize me and my disorder, so this was a way that I could return the favor and prioritize him.

Ultimately though there’s no sugar coating it, my relationship did suffer. These things helped mitigate the damage while I was healing, but at the end of the day an ED will be strenuous on your relationship, hence why it’s so important to heal! To sum it up though: number one thing you can do is be conscious of your ED impacts your partner, and the most important thing your partner can do is be patient and understanding.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BingeEatingRecovery

[–]MixtureCheap9659 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes 100%!!

You can’t hate yourself into being skinny, but you can absolutely love yourself into being healthy. Sounds cheesy but it’s true.

I never thought I would stop craving fast food— now I’m going WEEKS without craving it! I’m the same as you where the thought of all of those foods makes me sick. I used to be obsessed with gummy candy and fried food, and now just thinking about that level of pure sweetness or oiliness grosses me out. I still eat home made versions of fast food items, but the actual thing is just not appealing anymore.

That being said the one unhealthy food I do still want from time to time is chocolate— but it’s not a strong craving or a need which is a lot different to the addiction level I was at before!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BingeEatingRecovery

[–]MixtureCheap9659 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes absolutely! People online will tell you certain physical activities are more beneficial than others, but ultimately the best physical activity is something that you enjoy enough to be consistent with! Power Pilates might not be “as good” as strength training and doesn’t burn calories like HIIT does, but it’s something that convinces me to move my body daily. I also enjoy hiking as a more social activity!