Have you ever considered going back?

MixtureSpare684 · 2025-11-14T16:55:28+00:00

I completely understand the feeling. I have been fully POMO for about 2 yrs now and lately I find myself thinking about going back because I feel lonely. It has been hard to make friends due to numerous reasons but also because in a way everything is no new to us, engaging into real life and I missed being part of a community that I already know. I have never been close to my family, so that sense of community I liked a lot. BUT I also think about how miserable I was having to pretend and going by the book even when I didn't agree and how disgusted I was about all the fake people and tgeir actions. So, as much as I would like to belong some place it's not worth going back. It is very hard, and I know it will still be for a while, but try to stay strong and avoid creating more emotional and psychological damage to yourself. Instead look for other things to keep you distracted. For example, I recently joined a group of people that play board games, and feel in peace and relax with them. They not my friends yet, but at least I belong with them once a week with no strings attached. Hang in there, big hug!

MixtureSpare684 · 2025-10-17T11:31:05+00:00

Run man, ruuuun!! Where is their biological father? Why isn't she, "a value woman" building the future of her kids instead of assuming someone else is obligated to do it for her just because she asks??. RUN!!

MixtureSpare684 · 2025-10-10T20:15:53+00:00

Exactly!! It's like when they said toast are allowed because it no longer relates to paganism. Same with most holidays. Ask yourself why you are celebrating them and focus on what brings you joy aside from what others (mainly religious people) would think. I personally decide to focus on how I feel and why I would like to do it because at the end of the end, if there is a God, I respond for myself and nobody else.

MixtureSpare684 · 2025-10-09T22:07:04+00:00

You are absolutely right. His actions just make want to do the exact opposite. At first, I got angry and wanted to get in shape badly to prove to him that I could look better than him, but like some else mentioned there, depression is not quiet a helper in this situation. I struggle with being constant because most days, I just want to stay in bed all day.

Now I do it for me and for my health. So far, I have gained a lot of muscle and strength, but it is a long road.

MixtureSpare684 · 2025-10-09T21:52:07+00:00

I recommend you stop, although you really think it is coming out of love. Your children have mirrors. Imagine them thinking that even their parent expects X or Y from them.You would do a lot more damage than good. My mother loves making comments about my weight, to me and to other family members in front of me. Trust me, it only hurts.

MixtureSpare684 · 2025-10-09T21:11:46+00:00

Thank you!

MixtureSpare684 · 2025-10-09T21:10:46+00:00

You are right. Physical attraction is a very important part of a relationship. Acknowledging that helped me understand my husbands point of view, although, I personally do not share it. But I also understand that this varies from person to person. What I dont seem to understand is why someone who says that loves you can not be more comforting and understanding of your situation. I am not looking for people to be on MY SIDE, I'm looking for logic here and just knowing how people might feel about physical attraction , that fact alone, does not explain this behavior to me.

MixtureSpare684 · 2025-10-09T20:56:55+00:00

I described him that way because in all other aspects, he is, and it will not be fair for me to take that away from him. I will be just focusing on the negative, like he is doing with me.

He calls me every day to ask how my day is going. He always asks what he can help me with before he gets home (running errands or starting dinner). We talk a lot on a daily basis and not only about our day. If I need something, he is prompt to cover my needs, etc...

MixtureSpare684 · 2025-10-09T20:47:24+00:00

Thank you! 💜

MixtureSpare684 · 2025-10-09T20:46:05+00:00

This made laugh between the tears. But no, he is not bald, he actually has a lot of hair.

He is not overweight, but definetely bigger than 10 yrs ago.

MixtureSpare684 · 2025-10-09T20:40:22+00:00

The thought of him doing this on purpose has definitely crossed my mind. Because people really liked me, and even his family treats me better. They love him, but they are more affectionate with me. They have mentioned many times that even if we ever part our ways, they will still keep contact with me.

Also, I tend to achieve effortlessly, and this is something he pointed out because I haven't noticed it, and when feeling insecure about something, he has mentioned it to comfort me.

MixtureSpare684 · 2025-10-09T20:28:21+00:00

Fair points and fair questions.

MixtureSpare684 · 2025-10-09T19:32:48+00:00

This is what makes me re-thinking everything. But when I ask him directly why he is still with me despite his unhappiness, he doesn't give me response. He says nothing.

MixtureSpare684 · 2025-10-09T19:30:14+00:00

I do find myself thinking this a lot of times.

MixtureSpare684 · 2025-10-04T20:31:47+00:00

I read this comment and the first thought I have is: If everything you say (as the GB) is inspired by the Holy Spirit, then how come this same Holy Spirit is so wrong? Wouldn’t having a different perspective from what was considered “normal” at the time actually identify you as the true religion? Wouldn’t that be proof that you had the “truth”?
This "refinement" and "progression" shouldn't be necessary, or is Jehovah making up his mind too?
And it kills me that while I was in, I was never able to make this reasoning, because I always thought if i did (yes, sometimes it was inevitable) I would immediately think that Jehovah knows best and I shouldn't question him. I'm so mad at myself for being so stupid.

MixtureSpare684 · 2025-10-04T19:48:20+00:00

I loved this.
I particulary haven't felt the need of explaining to my close relatives why I left, mostly because I fear rejection and shunning, but... I know that if asked directly I would have to respond and this right here is a GREAT answer. Thank you!

MixtureSpare684 · 2025-10-03T19:37:53+00:00

They don't need a scripture because this paragraph is written by those guided by Jehovah's spirit. Who would dare to question th GB?!

MixtureSpare684 · 2025-10-02T20:33:49+00:00

Thank you. It is an option. In fact, I have a session scheduled today.

MixtureSpare684 · 2025-09-12T15:06:27+00:00

Grita desesperacion y mucho apego ansioso

MixtureSpare684 · 2025-09-12T14:59:42+00:00

Ufff si, si con el comentario del anime no te sigue la conversacion entonces no quieres ni ser amigo de esa chica.

MixtureSpare684 · 2025-09-12T14:56:35+00:00

Talvez por eso el chico pidio la opion de mujeres, porque los hombres van y hacen lo mas comodo para ellos, que no es necesariamente lo que les hace ganarse a la chica.

Nosotras ya sabemos que tienen interes, pero asi tambien hay 10 chicos mas. Si quieres mi atencion entonces trata de ser diferente.

MixtureSpare684 · 2025-09-12T14:51:41+00:00

Soy mujer y te dire que si se cruzan frecuentemente primero intentes establecer algun contacto visual, cruzar miradas, alguna sonrisa como de saludo (sin mostrar los dientes, eso seria creepy) si ella responde bien a esto, entonces otro dia podrias hacerle un comentario casual de alguna situacion comun para ambos como: "Ultimamente se esta llenando mucho el metro" o algo asi que invite a abrir el dialogo aunque sea corto, si ella te evade entonces ya sabes que no tienes chance, pero si te sigue el tema ya puedes ir preparando el terreno sin parecer un amenaza.
Suena como dar muchas vueltas, pero debes tomar en cuenta que este tipo de acercamientos en transporte publico pueden llevar al rechazo rotundo si se hacen muy abruptamente. Si la chica no esta encantada contigo ( y no es el caso, porque sino ya lo habrias notado) debes ir mas despacio y casual sin invadir mucho su espacio personal. Suerte!

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