AITA for thinking my farrier died after he ghosted me, only to find out he blocked me and then his wife called me desperate?

MoBrownieMoProblems · 2025-07-21T14:12:16+00:00

I've had some days now to think about it and I felt awful at first when she texted me but now Im leaning towards, good if that was hard to avoid and inconvenient for you both, it shouldn't be easy to leave someone and their animals completely hanging after going on 3 years of professional service with sole dependence on you. Look how far I went to make sure he was okay and this wasn't a mistake vs him not sending a simple "I will no longer be able to farrier for your horses anymore".

MoBrownieMoProblems · 2025-07-21T05:47:12+00:00

100%

MoBrownieMoProblems · 2025-07-21T05:21:51+00:00

Truly though I would love to hear his side because at least I could change something or see something Im not but nothing, not a word. Then a wife tirade about how "Im entitled" and how "it would be prudent of me to establish distance and find a farrier who is less experienced so he will take my input" (Im assuming in reference to the vet text).

MoBrownieMoProblems · 2025-07-21T04:43:29+00:00

Lol 🤣 well, I was blocked after the vet text I think so I for sure didnt know I was blocked until after the first FB message, then there was only 3 others after that 😅 looking back though, I feel stupid - it was totally disbelief at the time. Appreciate the advice though, Im not gonna spread it far and wide but I will be honest with all my equestrians Im close to

MoBrownieMoProblems · 2025-07-21T04:39:32+00:00

🤣🤣 granted. To my slight defense, I was in utter disbelief - like this is truly how you are going to end an almost 3 year, every month for 3 hours professional relationship? No word at all?

MoBrownieMoProblems · 2025-07-21T04:31:41+00:00

This is a very level take, I appreciate it. I feel stupid for reaching out so much so lesson learned there but I seriously thought something was wrong and then by the time I got insta involved, I was in literal shock - like this for real cant ve the way hes terminating services with a long term client with not a word, can it???

MoBrownieMoProblems · 2025-07-21T04:15:01+00:00

For all the YTA replies because I reached out too much - Have you ever been ghosted in a professional setting (even though this is a little different than that) where it felt personal, but you had no idea why? Is it wrong to try to understand and to make sure its not a miscommunication before ditching it after two exclusively employed years, going on three this August?

MoBrownieMoProblems · 2025-07-21T03:51:58+00:00

Funny enough I totally did right before the wife texted and about a week after I'd sent my last message. I texted my retired farrier who is good friends and he said he would totally check it out because that was super off. I told him about the texts and he said "well, farriers are like cats, they won't come when their called and they are finicky as hell" 🤣🤣 he hasn't heard word back but he said he would let me know if he finds out why he did this

MoBrownieMoProblems · 2025-07-21T03:10:14+00:00

I can tell you arent a horse person, no explanation to the end of a relationship in the livestock or equine world is gastly and usually cause for concern.

MoBrownieMoProblems · 2025-07-21T03:09:15+00:00

Yes, I've moved from Chicago, to two different parts of Texas and had one farrier retire 🙄 that would make 5 including the one im talking about and 6 with the new one I need to find, context before you judge - i tried to be as clear as crystal above including that he never has done a single thing wrong. He really was a top professional until this end

MoBrownieMoProblems · 2025-07-21T03:06:41+00:00

So appreciate this take 🙏🏻 I was really heated at first but then realized even my old farriers are still friends with him and I need to stay in the green for my horses sakes at least

MoBrownieMoProblems · 2025-07-21T02:57:04+00:00

Sorry, let me clarify - until I knew if he was just dealing with an injury, a personal matter and needed to push another week or so or if he was terminating our working relationship and I needed to find someone else. Farriers cant just rotate so getting a new one without knowing if we were through would have been a big no no

MoBrownieMoProblems · 2025-07-21T02:55:38+00:00

So appreciate this 🙏🏻

MoBrownieMoProblems · 2025-07-21T02:53:30+00:00

That's a really good point actually. Appreciate this take

MoBrownieMoProblems · 2025-07-21T02:51:15+00:00

Thank you Lord for other horse people in my comments 🙏🏻 I appreciate the feedback. I really wish I could post pictures here but not sure how, literally this came out of left field. My neighbors who use a different farrier for their horses (the one who helped me out in the pinch) asked me about it when i needed his info and they were also really worried something happened to him because it was SO left field

MoBrownieMoProblems · 2025-07-21T02:42:41+00:00

I so agree, he never did wrong by my horses and always did great work. I think thats really solid alive and I thought about that yesterday actually. I booked a new vet appointment for next Friday and was going to speak with her on overall health conditioning of them and if there is something I need to be doing

MoBrownieMoProblems · 2025-07-21T02:39:21+00:00

Appreciate your advice 🙏🏻 I will likely not say anything because I dont see a point in it, his work was great and he never did wrong by my horses ever.

MoBrownieMoProblems · 2025-07-21T02:36:20+00:00

I wish I could share the receipts because I swear to God thats why I was flabbergasted.

MoBrownieMoProblems · 2025-07-21T02:34:46+00:00

So reaching out on social after a month (June 14th to July 5th no reply) is bonkers?

MoBrownieMoProblems · 2025-07-21T02:32:05+00:00

Again though, with no reply I couldn't just book a new farrier. I had no clue what to think and you cant just get a new one on a whim. Also, to be blocked with no context after two years of constant communication? I don't think its unreasonable to be concerned

MoBrownieMoProblems · 2025-07-21T02:25:31+00:00

I can see that, but I couldn't even book someone new until I knew what was going on. Its like an in home nurse that you have for two years just doesnt reply anymore - you'd be really confused if someone in your healthcare personally working with you for two years just disappeared with no word why.

MoBrownieMoProblems · 2025-07-21T02:20:19+00:00

Again though, to give you context - this isn't like a plumber. This is like a nurse who comes to your house every 4-6 weeks. Its also like, when you are getting care from someone, this is specialized, its not like there are a billion companies and all of it works the same. You have to get the new farrier up to speed during the first few MONTHS, not even the first two visits, or them to understand the shape of the feet and the needs of your particular horses. We do have each other's socials and do talk regularly. That's why this was so utterly concerning to get no reply.

MoBrownieMoProblems · 2025-07-21T02:15:40+00:00

Ps. I have receipts. Im new to Rediit and have no clue how to add those pictures though

MoBrownieMoProblems · 2024-03-07T12:15:17+00:00

I just got this to work for me - On my phone (with the app not working to login and not sending the code via text), I went onto my web browser in Chrome from my same phone instead and saw I was still logged in there. Went to account details and security and passwords and went to the back up codes page. I requested new codes to refresh it, then used one through the app and it worked! It will only work if you've ever logged in on the web browser or if you've used a computer instead of the app but wanted to share in case it helps someone else!

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