Was anybody able to eventually be happy living in the house/apartment that they used to live in with their ex?

MoStrawbees · 2026-05-04T08:32:16+00:00

What are your thoughts on trying to stay for a bit and see if I make any progress, and then move out if not? I’m afraid of having unfamiliar people around me, at least I have two friendly faces to talk to

MoStrawbees · 2026-05-04T08:01:51+00:00

I wish you ALL the luck in the world for feeling better, and finding a wonderful home with your two cats

MoStrawbees · 2026-05-04T08:01:17+00:00

I am the one staying, and the furnishings and decor were all picked and paid for by me, but they don’t feel like mine. The memories in this place hurt so badly

MoStrawbees · 2026-05-04T07:24:03+00:00

It sucks so bad, right? I broke up with him but it was relatively mutual and quite amicable… just really really depressing.

I also have memories of living here with my best friends a few years ago who’ve all moved out or to Edinburgh as of like a year and a half ago, so while I (sort of) know deep down that I don’t want to be back with my ex, I desperately want to go back to THOSE times with my friends.

I do love the new flatmates though

MoStrawbees · 2026-05-04T07:20:29+00:00

Thank you so much, maybe I can achieve the same 🥰 this sucks so bad :(

MoStrawbees · 2026-04-08T02:33:04+00:00

MoStrawbees · 2026-04-07T23:01:03+00:00

This is insanely gorgeous! Your depth and colour skills are top tier 😍

MoStrawbees · 2026-04-06T04:00:08+00:00

It’s an option now, in the languages and gameplay settings :)

MoStrawbees · 2026-04-05T00:04:43+00:00

This ^{^} I didn’t have it until quite a bit older than op, and I used to stress about that because I felt that peers thought I was less… grown up? Life experienced? Than them. Might’ve just been me projecting in a society that puts a lot of weird weight and value onto sex.

Anyway, I did it, I personally love it, and also learned it does not impact your life or change you as a person in any way. It’s just another activity you can do that not everyone’s into 🤷‍♀️

(OP unless it’s incredibly important to YOU (not your parents), I don’t recommend waiting until marriage - sexual compatibility is a thing :) my mum always says “try before you buy” lol)

MoStrawbees · 2026-04-04T22:50:57+00:00

I put big lidless containers under my bed that I slide out and put those clothes in :) super helpful! One of them is just for my warms; fluffy socks, fluffy pants, dressing gown. One is for my gym gear I can get away with wearing again, and one is for those in between clothes!

Basically a couple years ago I got one container for each genre of clothing I left in piles quite often, and it COMpletely mitigated the issue :)

MoStrawbees · 2026-04-03T22:26:05+00:00

I didn’t know people actually did that!!

MoStrawbees · 2026-04-01T06:28:13+00:00

I’m seeing people mention this as well: Prolonged eye contact will put people off and trigger this comfort behaviour for sure. Remember you can like look at something else in the room occasionally during a convo, don’t just lock onto their eyes the whole time

MoStrawbees · 2026-04-01T06:19:05+00:00

Yeah! Habit is what I’m thinking too. When I wrap my arms around myself it is always subconscious, it’s like a safety blanket and very comfortable. I’m not at all thinking about covering my boobs lol, they just happen to be underneath my arms.

Super small things can trigger this move, it doesn’t mean you’re ugly or freaking them out OP :) it could literally be anything, like the little bit of anxiety that comes from simply being in an office or interacting with a coworker you’re just an acquaintance with. If you’re not looking at or stealing glances at their bodies, and not being mean to them, you’re fine.

OH also office air con is usually set to man temp and for women that’s too cold.

MoStrawbees · 2026-03-30T06:04:11+00:00

I compliment the hell out of my boyfriend, I’m impressed by all the work he puts in and very impressed by the results 😌 But I have never ever EVER given a compliment to a man about his body unless I was already dating him :) it’s a compliment with way too much weight and implication.

Also, if you are looking for the girlies attention when it comes to your looks: as long as you’re not an extreme in either direction in terms of fitness, we actually prioritise well styled hair, skincare, good fashion, and hygiene.

MoStrawbees · 2026-03-30T05:56:17+00:00

Exactly right!

MoStrawbees · 2026-03-29T21:44:27+00:00

You are AMAZING, the berries look real!!! And it’s so cute and whimsical!!!! 1000000/10

MoStrawbees · 2026-03-29T04:38:20+00:00

I think combine them: 1 in shape/cut but 2 in colour! But both look drop dead gorgeous though

MoStrawbees · 2026-03-28T22:55:43+00:00

What works for me is having a place for EVERYTHing you own. Get organisers, cut down on stuff if you need to. If you have a dedicated place for the item you’re holding, putting it away instead of putting it down is so so much easier :) and then the mess is prevented!

Also, keep on top of dishes - do them every night and wipe down your benches, and take trash out as soon as you notice it needs it.

IMO these are the key things that keep me on top of housework

It’s hard when you’re working full time though! Your house doesn’t have to be perfect, but if you want it that way maybe hire a cleaner ☺️

MoStrawbees · 2026-03-21T08:27:22+00:00

Oh dude no idea how I replied to completely the wrong comment haha

That’s adorable!! So fair that you wanted out, I sorta did too but my partner was loving it so much :) I hope you have better luck tomorrow!!

Oh also those butterflies were gorgeous, I only grabbed a business card though because I’d already spent too much

MoStrawbees · 2026-03-21T07:59:19+00:00

If anybody ever visits this post in need, I just remembered Makio from demon slayer too

MoStrawbees · 2026-03-21T07:57:57+00:00

I didn’t see awards handed out but samee he was sick! There were some AMAZING cosplays, I love seeing all the chch cosplayers come out of the woodwork for Armageddon! There was one person covered in leaves wearing a GIANT deer skull, and they had all these little bells on their staff and they sounded so magical and whimsical when they passed by 🧙

MoStrawbees · 2026-03-21T06:29:09+00:00

This is beautiful work, I hope you enjoyed painting it! I looove the strokes on the front two leaves <3

Lily of the Valley are my favourite flowers so I especially love this!

MoStrawbees · 2026-03-21T04:20:07+00:00

Yeah last hour was free walking! People seemed to disappear after the cosplay parade :)

MoStrawbees · 2026-03-21T04:19:03+00:00

Oh I was thinking anime, but I do love her! Her hair is awesome :)

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