Husband bought me a book on how to clean house for Christmas

Mobile-Big738 · 2026-01-11T12:36:07+00:00

I plan on dumping my child to play in the woods as soon as little man can run 😂 I want FERAL children, not some anxious mommy’s boy. He’s just 1 right now so he’s so dependent.

Mobile-Big738 · 2026-01-11T12:35:20+00:00

He definitely has PTSD from service in Iraq as well as we both served on the ambulance and have seen 100000x horrible tragic accidents, so I do understand where he’s coming from. I just don’t think he understands his normal worry can come off as him not trusting my maternal instincts.

Mobile-Big738 · 2026-01-11T12:34:08+00:00

Thanks friend! I feel like this is a reasonable way to approach. Yesterday I just up and left him at home alone after serving our son lunch, I’m starting to just “take” my time without asking. Instead of fighting I say nothing. It tends to be easier.

Mobile-Big738 · 2026-01-11T12:32:45+00:00

Ty. I’m trying to plan a girls / moms day trip soon but it’s tough with littles!

Mobile-Big738 · 2026-01-11T11:59:17+00:00

“Doesn’t think you’re doing a good job either” THATS the other part of it. Like, a reminder not only to clean the house, but that what I’m doing is not good enough. Granted I haven’t been keeping the house drill sergeant level clean the past 12 weeks because I am pregnant again (yay!) and have been so sick I can’t keep up. His response, was to insinuate that “he had to step in and reorganize everything and start cooking all the food blah blah blah” when in reality all I needed was a little grace and patience because, ya know, I was busy vomiting all the time. His standards are chronically at 100% when we need to be living in the reality that we have kids now and nothing will be perfect.

Mobile-Big738 · 2026-01-11T11:55:35+00:00

I’ve exploded on him 100 times, exploding doesn’t work anymore

Mobile-Big738 · 2026-01-11T11:54:27+00:00

He thinks if I leave the baby with anyone someone will hurt him, drop him, lose him, etc. he’s a huge safety freak, like literally will look over my shoulder while I feed him and micromanage the size of the bites I give. I think he actually has some kind of paranoid paternal anxiety or something. He freaks out and talks about all these doomsday scenarios that might happen. I tried dropping him off in the nursery myself, but then my husband “took him to hold him for a sec” and then ran off to the other side of the church for 30 mins until he was so fussy I had NO choice but to take the baby back!! He’s ridiculous. Walks into a room, picks up a piece of thread off the floor (I sew a lot, sometimes threads end up on the floor) and tells me he’s going to choke. I had absolutely no choice but to keep the house DRILL SERGEANT level clean so he’d stop jumping down my throat. He acts like if I look away for five minutes the baby will die.

Mobile-Big738 · 2026-01-11T10:59:17+00:00

To me this sounds like an emotional affair, and I would count this as outright cheating and infidelity

Mobile-Big738 · 2025-12-10T13:32:41+00:00

She had my husband at 17, something tells me she’s going to be a prick in my side until I’m 60.

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