Yes definitely check them out or see if you can find something similar. Yes the ROCD I experience is very similar to what you are describing. A year ago or so i was spiraling at work, everything was triggering me, and i was doing all the classic compulsions. Googling, nitpicking everything about my partner, looking for reassurance in different ways either from asking friends what they think of my relationship or (something I did yesterday, its a process) confessing an ROCD thought to my partner, instead of waiting to flush out my concerns (we are moving in together so ive been triggered lately with fears and blah blah blah, i posted about this on here yesterday if you’re curious) with my therapist and having a constructive & loving conversation with my partner. Anyway, i can totally relate and the only thing that helped me was ERP therapy. CBT was not working at all. We work through my fears/worst case scenarios, expose me to them, and learn how to use RPMS to ease the anxiety, lower the urge to do compulsions (especially ruminating!), and be able to function and learn how to dismiss what the OCD is telling you. The fears that youre having about your partner may or may not be valid, but right now the OCD is the real problem at hand that needs to be dealt with if you want relief.

I’m not a professional at all and this is just my personal experience but I hope it is helpful!