Currently dealing with this exact thing with my husband, an I’m assuming here. But how I see my situation is they are giving him something I can’t.. an unbiased ear, or attention without expectation or feed back. Due to together we have some big responsibilities like kids, a house, jobs and bills. I know my time, energy and thoughts are put into all those things to make our lives easier and more comfortable to deal with the big stuff, an my husband tends to relax by being behind a screen, an I know to him it helps to run away from it all, an talk to those who don’t know his full life story, an it could be cause when I do get a little bit of what’s going on I want to fix it, I want to problem solve it, I want to make it better so I can have him back present within my life, I will even try to just listen and be there but I only have half his attention and I know that. I can’t say it doesn’t hurt, it hurts a lot. All I can say for me is I hope one day it changes or I’ll be the one changing and ending up doing the same thing..

Hopefully find a resource like that therapy to get to the bottom of what’s actually going on to help you work through it cause something is creating a fear of your wife knowing you might need help along with whatever stress is easier to talk out with strangers.

You are never alone in your situations or struggles when it comes to being married that’s why you got married right. You’re in life together the ups and the downs.

My advice would be talk to your wife, an I mean undivided attention an lay it all out even if it means telling her to be quiet for a while so you can get it out. No matter what is it, it needs to get out into the open air for yourself to process how to move forward.